Over 40 ttc - August baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Ladies, here's our 2nd summer thread :)

Ladies, you're all absolutely wonderful.Going through so much but staying so kind and strong. Love to you all.

Wow mimosa that sounds quite epic. Maybe you are right and it was some kind if mc. Or maybe as it had been so long your lining had just built up to epic perportions? How long did af last? Was it normal length? After my mega long cycle af wouldn't stop, it went on for weeks, but then it was never that heavy. Fingers crossed all goes back to normal for you now.

Bye all. GL xx

@cookiewaffle I am so sorry to hear you are going through this not knowing bleedy crap, I have everything crossed for you

Whats the best test for early pregnancy?

MEGAN - in my opinion first response are definitely the best for early testing x

Whst time of the day for testing or how long holding it

First wee of the day megan.

So I'm confusing myself again. Does anyone else temp? I know I said I wasn't doing it this cycle as it's too stressful, but I've caved and have been temping. And lo and behold - it's stressful!!! The reason I caved was because DH is away this weekend so wanted to be sure we weren't going to miss ov. Last time we dtd was Thursday pm before he left. Soooooo.... temps fairly standard pre ov level up until Friday morning, where one of the temps was a dip (I sometimes check a few times - I know - not helpful) so I thought maybe that was ov day - handy. Opk came out glaring positive - great! But CBFM was only high. Well this morning I woke up too early and temped, it came out at pre ov level (low) then I went back to sleep for about 3 hours and temped again when I woke, it came out post ov level - high. So...... which one do I go by?! Then CBFM was peak, and opk still positive but not as positive as yesterday, so was ov yesterday? Or today?? I'm going away tomorrow so won't be able to temp or opk after that, but I feel we may have missed the boat this cycle! What do you think?

Thanks @littlemimosa & @Letsdothis42, Lets unfortunately was another CP.

@Cleozeta I do temping. I would just pick the first temp then do it the next day. Several days this month I've woken up 2 hrs early and just used those temps. I just do it once a day then leave it as it can change so much through the day.

If you ovulated today then Thurs is still in your fertile window. Ovulation will be up to 24-48hrs after your peak was detected.

Thanks cookie, I hate temping! Can't wait to get my ava bracelet through so I can just go by those stats. I find temping unreliable and stressful. It's so changeable from one minute to the next. The difference in the 3 hours between the 2 temps today was the difference between pre ov & post ov, but if I had not woken up early I'd have automatically assumed ov had happened from later temp, but after seeing early one, not so sure. Anyway, just grateful ov seems to be happening at all! When the ava bracelet arrives I'll be flinging my thermomitor out of the upstairs window.

Weirdly I felt quite enlightened temping. I had no idea I ovulated, I just assumed, it confirmed it for me. If i missed it i either did it anyway and put a note saying its late or just leave it til the next day. Granted not everyone's chart is gonna look the same but I find it reassuring seeing the lines!

Oh I love the crosshairs, thats so satisfying, and I love the confirmation, so I keep doing it, but I just find it stressful, I can't sleep properly and it interferes with my dreams, I find myself waking up early all the time then have to temp then, and then I worry its wrong and do it again after another sleep and then find its so different, and I find myself cheating too and trying to get the temp I want by opening or closing my mouth beforehand, then thinking its wrong because I may have changed the outcome, then I don't know whats real. Then I wonder if I slept with my mouth open or closed and did that change it. Urgh. Anyway, yeah, love the crosshairs.

So cd16 here and symptom spotting at just about at everything other than temping reckon I ov'd yesterday so quite pleased we managed dtd on days 8, 10, 13 & this morning. Suspect I will spend the last week of the month pg symptom spotting and then in misery when the kids are back at school but at least we tried.

Cookie and Eloisa, so sorry about what you've gone through, it truly sucks. All we can do is pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, stay strong and carry on. I wish we didn't have to though.

I like temping, I'm good with routine! It was only after six months ttc the very first time, when I was a sprightly 35yo(!) that I started temping and found out I was ovulating at cd21/22, not 14 as I'd naively assumed. Thought there was something wrong with me, couldn't work out why opks never showed a positive.

Welcome to all the new ladies - I need to do a new list.

Thanks @shinyblackdog :) 2 CPs down and onto cycle 5. 3rd time lucky maybe? I always did like the number 3.

Oh my god I am so stressed and raging. Managed to squeeze a last temp in today before I go away (why?? Why can't I just leave it alone?!) And it came out low - pre ov gutted. And now I have to go away for a week, not knowing if I've ov'd or not. Yesterday after my 2nd sleep it waz high, so how is it low again?? I could have sworn ov happened yesterday, and +opk was 2 days ago, I usually ov same day as +opk.
Can temps be wrong??
Ffs so annoyed, and now I'm awake early and can't go back to sleep as I'm so stresssd and annoyed, so going to be knackered all day. Why can't I just leave the sodding temping alone?
Sorry to rant, but you ladies are the only people I can talk to about this.
Haven't been able to dtd since Thursday so this is a wasted month. I'm actually going to bin the thermomitor. I hate it.

Cleo, you definitely need to stop temping! Your sleep pattern isn't regular enough for it to work for you and ttc is stressful enough as it is without adding other factors into the mix. Your ava bracelet will arrive soon, you dtd on the latest day you could, given dh away and then you, just ditch the thermometer (properly, in the dustbin, not somewhere you can fish it out again!). It will make you feel better.

Oh @Cleozeta yes this sounds that maybe temping isn't for you :( personally I wouldn't use that second temp yesterday and just stick with the first one a day. There could be a chance it was just an off one, which can happen. I hear there's also different types of bbt readers that might work better. Tried to do a quick Google but couldn't find so maybe someone on here knows.

I think you are right, I'll bin it.
Going to write off this cycle as a bad job and just move on. Going to be busy anyway, so will just wait for af in a few weeks. Hopefuly my ava bracelet will turn up beforr next cycle.
Another weird thing is temps have been unusually stable this cycle, almost always waking up around 36.03 or thereabouts. My temps are usually a lot more rocky than that. Could my shit-stick be broken??

Battery could be on the way out.

Interesting point. Would that make temps wrong? I have had it a while now

It could give you the same temperature several times in a row I think.

I do keep getting the same temp, which is unusual for me as I'm normally a bit all over the place. Do you think it would give me a low temp even if I had ovulated? I am seeing DH tonight but we are at his parents house, not sure we should dtd there!!! Lol
Hoping ov has already happened then no need to worry about it. +opk was 2 days ago, so it should already be done

Cleo I think you ovulated yesterday. Was your random high temp at the usual time you record? Don't forget other things affect your temp like an infection, cold etc....?