Hi ladies. Just checking in after what seems like an exceedingly long time away. I’ve been here in the background keeping up to date with all your news, welcome to the newcomers Dinah and Ficidy and God bless Denise Lewis.
So my fertility sisters - my reason for not writing has been superstition largely, having had 2 MCs in the past and being aware of the high number of losses before 12 weeks, I just wanted to keep a low profile.
On June 21st, midsummer’s day - I contemplated doing a fertility spell - I’ve done spells in the past and some of them have appeared to work - so I thought I’d give it a go. But before I did, I had to rule out the week of nausea I had been battling. My brother in law had a similar viral thing and I’d put it down to that.
I went to £land like I had a million times before and bought 3 tests. Waited for my DD to get in the bath and then took one, barely bothering to consider the result - as I knew it would be negative - I nearly fell on the floor when it was positive. I did the remaining 2 and they were the same. I was in total shock.
As some of you might remember - following the TCM during Jan-April my period went MIA. When it was late by 18 days there were no alarm bells, just irritation that the TCM (or was it the DHEA) had messed my cycles up.
I calculated I was almost 7 weeks pregnant. I had had NO symptoms - not one little itch, twinge or sign - other than the sickly state of affairs and that wasn’t constant.
The day after I’d taken the test, as if by clockwork - things started to feel strange and a bit more real.
I managed to persuade my GP to get me along to the EPU for a scan. There was a heartbeat. I was almost 8 weeks at that point.
I booked the Panorama (with micro deletions as extra) for 9 weeks - hoping I’d make it that far.
I did - a week later - now just over 10 weeks, the result came back. Low risk on all counts. The gender was revealed - the baby was a boy.
I had another private scan at 11 weeks and today I went for my dating scan and Nuchal. All seems well, baby has everything in the right place for growing.
I am now 12 weeks and I’m high risk because of age and previous placental abruption.
I will live in fear till 20 weeks now, but not much I can do but hope, pray and be positive baby develops normally.
I am still in shock. So much so that so far I have only told DH, my Mum and best mate (and now all of you!!)
My daughter will be 4 tomorrow. This time 4 years ago I was in labour, 29 weeks - at the same unit I went today for my scan. I have prayed so many times for God to let me walk back info that ante-natal dept - today my prayers were answered.
I will be 44 in 3 weeks. I have been trying to get pregnant for over 2 years
My dear fertility sisters - it DOES and can happen.
I just kept believing and that carried me through, along with a faith that tells me things that are meant for you - won’t pass you by.
It is still early days for me, I will never be complacent - and I will probably spend the next 6 months in total fear and irrational thinking - BUT just for today, I am pregnant and I thank God, the Universe and this community of support for keeping me sane and focussed on the end goal.
I’ll keep in touch. Wishing you all continued strength and hope - KEEP THE FAITH.
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