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TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 24 🐧🐧

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RedRobin7 · 18/07/2018 11:57

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Here's the new thread. This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle- this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

RedRobin7
Age: 29
TTC #1
MMC at 12 weeks in March 18
MC at 6 weeks in July 18
Waiting one cycle before getting back on the bus!

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ronniemipperton · 31/07/2018 07:26

@InDreamland take as long as you need. I took a week off work which I thought was plenty; stopped bleeding after a few days so starting ttc again. This is entirely typical of my “let’s pretend everything is fine” approach when actually I’m still having incredibly vivid nightmares about the ERPC, ttc is fully freaking me out because I’m still getting BFPs, and all I want to do is run away but there is nowhere to go to.

In conclusion I probably should have taken longer off work.

KnitKitty · 31/07/2018 07:32

I second what ronniemipperton just said InDreamland. I also had ERPC. I had a week and a half off from finding out bean didn't have a heartbeat to ERPC and then was signed off for a further two weeks but got the doctor to sign me back to work a week later as I felt I was mooching around the house doing nothing and wanted to get some normality back. Luckily my colleagues knew better than I did that I wouldn't be able to face our customers at work straight away and tucked me away to do some office work for a couple of days. I had a few break-downs at work and with hindsight should probably have let myself have that extra time off.

Russkispy · 31/07/2018 07:44

Woke up just now, to change my baby's full nappy and my AF! First AF, 4,5 weeks after D&C. I either didn't ovulate or ovulated earlier which I didn't catch. And AF arrived without any warnings. No pre-spotting or any other symptoms. But glad it's here now so I know I'm back on TTC track with OV ahead etc bought more clearblue digital OV sticks so there's a clear message about my OV timing. DTD in s few days in full flow! Fingers crossed for me! And all ladies on here! Rooting for all of us!

PurpleFushia · 31/07/2018 07:56

Hi all, decided not to test in the end - have never had much luck with early testing and I suspect it would be too early really - coincidentally both my previous bfps have been after being away on work trips without any tests which neatly avoided the issue of having to decide! Plus I'm still cramping which is making me think it could just be my body getting ready for AF a bit early as it feels like it's been going on too long for implantation. Will think about it again in a couple of days when I'll be 12dpo, seems a better bet than 10dpo on balance.

xJune88 · 31/07/2018 08:06

Really hope all you ladies and your partner's are ok it really is shit.

AF is here with a vengeance this morning :( had brown/pink spoting so had high hopes for implantation this is my first period after mmc at 13 weeks so I'm prepared for it to be awful. I was told there was a cyst on my ovary so don't know if that blocked ovulation this month.

Ttc #1,
Cycle #11 but had 2 pregnancies and 2 miscarriages in that time. Natural loss at 6/7 weeks. Mmc at 13, baby got to 9.

Just feel so confused, angry and emotional to be having a period feel like I should be pregnant. Atleast my body is clearing out though and I can start again. It's just so draining! X

InDreamland · 31/07/2018 08:35

@Laney79, goodness 5.5 weeks is a long time, I don't think I can do another 3 weeks of this. Thanks for sharing your experience of ovulating, it's so frustrating not quite knowing isn't it. Work is pretty understanding and yesterday was told to do what I needed to do and they were really supportive, probably helps that they know how dedicated I normally am (probably too dedicated in the past).

@KnitKitty thanks, maybe mine will be similar to yours then, I certainly hope no longer anyway. Interesting you don't think you ovulated, at least if I don't then I know it's not just me. I asked because I wondered if the CM that had pinky brown in it might have been a sign of it as it's 2 weeks after the mc but if I'm still spotting wondered if it was even possible.

@ronniemipperton thanks for your advice on going back to work too soon. I was thinking about trying to just go back, maybe work from home for a few days to ease back in but I just can't think straight at times and I can't be working if I'm going to randomly burst into tears in meetings or just in the office generally. The nightmares are terrible aren't they, you kinda wake up after them or in the middle of them feeling super upset and anxious and I didn't even have an ERPC so you must be really finding it tough. Could you maybe have some more time off to try and recover?

The doctor at the EPU said my bleeding/spotting should stop in a week because of the complete natural mc the night before the second scan and then that scan showing no retained products. Think that's why I'm starting to wonder if something is wrong. She also said then after that week that I should get first AF in 4-6 weeks time. I'm getting impatient now and fed up with the spotting and weird CM. I'm certainly not feeling ready to face work and deal with whatever is in my inbox. Will give my GP a call for a same day appointment this morning I think and ask for some more time.

@russkispy sorry AF arrived but like you said, hopefully you can now get back on the TTC wagon and next month it's happy news!

@PurpleFushia hopefully when you do test it'll be a BFP nice and strong. Not quite the same as this mc was my first pregnancy but after TTC for 5 years I was too scared to take a HPT when my AF didn't turn up, I'd got so used to disappointment every month for 5 years that I didn't believe I could possibly fall pregnant so just left it thinking the symptoms I was getting was just AF about to arrive and was just late. However after being a week late decided to just take a HPT then it'd be BFN which would make AF arrive as TBH I was getting fed up of waiting for AF, for once in my life it was a very strong BFP, no denying it. The CB digital said it with the number of weeks then I did a cheapie Tesco one with a very strong line, both literally showed within 30 seconds of peeing on the stick. I know it ended in mc but point I'm trying to make is that hopefully leaving it a bit later you'll have a nice strong line BFP when you do test. Fingers crossed for you!

InDreamland · 31/07/2018 08:46

@xJune88 big hugs! Yes it's shit. Really feel for you. Hope you've got some good support and fingers crossed that next month you'll get a BFP. Nothing I can say will make it better but just hope you can be looked after at home Flowers

xJune88 · 31/07/2018 08:55

@InDreamland thankyou my husband has been amazing but it defo put alot of stress on us and pushed us to the limits. I lost my Dad in May too so thought my second pregnancy was my miracle and that everything would be ok but life can be shit! Hope you are ok and get your sticky BFP soon xxx

PassTheAfterEights · 31/07/2018 09:23

Hi penguins of the ice floe, sorry it's been a while and especially sorry to see a few familiar names here. I lost myself a bit and took a break from TTC a few weeks ago, then didn't even ovulate in June - apparently a common side effect of the heat.

The boobs, the back ache, couple of spontaneous cries kicked off a couple of days back, agonised all day yesterday over whether to go to 32 degree Bikram last night (one of those arrrrrgh-my-whole-life-is-not-going-to-be-on-hold-JIC-my-body-MIGHT-decide-this-month-is-the-month-but-what-if-you-are-and-you-take-a-stupid-risk moments) - cancelled my class - two strong pink lines this morning.

Obviously not breathing in too deep, DH is down south on a shoot and haven't even told him yet, haven't registered with a GP up here, but it's a glimmer of hope. Having received so much incredible support from you all over the many months I just wanted to thank you all and hope I can hang around here and be a bit more use to you than I have been recently. Sending huge love to all xx

Jessabean · 31/07/2018 10:15

Congratulations @PassTheAfterEights that's great news! 🤗 I got my BFP on Thursday & am totally there with you in the glimmer of hope but not breathing in too deep vibes!

zarala · 31/07/2018 10:18

@PassTheAfterEights hey there' it's been a while and I'm so happy you're back with this amazing news!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Here's to a healthy easy pregnancy for you!
Please keep us updated!
Also I have never heard that heat can stop ovulation?! How odd!

I am dpo8 today
Will start poas from Friday! (Appropriately)
And then it's go go go JKS!
I am excited and nervous and anxious
I'm scared of actually trying and seeing a bfn- as I've never really been through it (decided June doesn't count as we didn't manage to dtd once I had a positive opk 🙄)
But I'm also scared of seeing a BFP and all the anxiety that is now tied to that!

Ahh!

Sending hugs to all that need it and have a lovely day everyone 😘💐

Blondcat · 31/07/2018 12:19

@passtheaftereights great news congratulations and fx for a happy healthy pregnancy x

Lovemysparkle · 31/07/2018 12:58

Hi all blood tests went all ok get my results Monday coming when I have my scan🙈 I’ve had so many blood tests I could do them myself 😂😂 I have also been offered to have more intense blood tests as my history & age (nearly 40!!) made midwifes ears prick up yesterday !! Basically they test for other abnormal syndromes that aren’t offered on the nhs private only but if I give my blood it will be used for fetal medicine research & I won’t be charged so me & dh have decided to go ahead with it!! Have them on the 16th August.
@passtheaftereights huge congratulations sending love❤️❤️

Cakelaur · 31/07/2018 12:59

@PassTheAfterEights amazing news!! Congrats! Pic pic pics!! You know we love a good two line photo!! 🙈

sweetpea0318 · 31/07/2018 13:13

@passtheaftereights congratulations! Fx for healthy sticky one xx

@lovemysparkle glad the tests all went ok. That’s great you get more testing too - I would do the same in your position! Good luck for next scan x

PassTheAfterEights · 31/07/2018 13:27

@jessabean fab news x delighted for you & huge fx that the next few weeks pass without incident & it's plain sailing. Do you know EDD & have you joined an ante-natal thread? best guess here is 16/04 but having failed to ovulate in June it's a bit vague 🤷

@zarala thank you v much, fx for you this month x yeah read about heatwave & ovulation on MN then confirmed by nurse at smear test a couple of weeks ago, had no idea but did help stop the insane emergent worry about early menopause etc.........

@blondcat @sweetpea0318 @lovemysparkle thank you all, @love that's awesome, good luck for mid-aug x

@cakelaur here you go, if it's a year before i see another bfn it won't be too soon. hope you are OK? x

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Boboelephant · 31/07/2018 13:29

@PassTheAfterEights congratulations!!! I almost PM'd you this morning to see if you were ok as it's been ages. What a great returning message! Fingers crossed for a healthy and happy 9 months. 🤞

Laney79 · 31/07/2018 13:30

Awww! @PassTheAfterEights congrats! Great strong line xxx

Maydot · 31/07/2018 14:29

@funkyemzie, @jessabean, @PassTheAfterEights massive Congratulations and fingers crossed for you!
I also got my BFP yesterday, can hardly believe it, so so nervous! xx

Blondcat · 31/07/2018 15:07

@maydot congratulations to you too x

Russkispy · 31/07/2018 15:42

@Maydot and @PassTheAfterEights , congratulations! Here's to healthy 9 months!

Russkispy · 31/07/2018 15:44

Just wanted to add, so nice to see so many BFPs. It gives us a hope! Thank you for sharing your exciting news with us!

sweetpea0318 · 31/07/2018 15:46

Wow congratulations @maydot! Hope it all goes well for you x

Lots of bfps - let’s keep them coming!

Bobzybaby · 31/07/2018 16:38

@Maydot @PassTheAfterEights congratulations ladies! It was time we were due to have some BFP's! Lovely news x

dreaminofholidays · 31/07/2018 17:04

@maydot @passtheaftereights
congratulations to you both.

lovely to see all these BFPs, hope they keep on coming xx

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