TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 24 🐧🐧

[RedRobin7]

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Here's the new thread. This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle- this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

RedRobin7
Age: 29
TTC #1
MMC at 12 weeks in March 18
MC at 6 weeks in July 18
Waiting one cycle before getting back on the bus!

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Hugs @sweetpea0318 that sounds really tough. Do your friends and sister know about your history? If so I'm sure they will be understanding if you are feeling a bit wobbly and upset about it all. Do come and vent on here if you need to.

@hayleyfx good luck today, I hope it goes well.

@robin78 happy 40th! Have a great party!!

@robin78 many happy returns! Hope you enjoy the rest of your day, love the positive vibes. 🎂🥂

@robin78 happy birthday 🎁🎂🎈

Thank you @crazyhorseylady @Funkemzie & @Blondcat!

@robin78 happy birthday fellow Leo! I really struggled with mine this week-wish I could've been more like you. Hope you have a fabulous day.

@hayleyfx I have everything crossed for you. If hope and positivity can make a difference then you have it in shed loads from this thread alone. Xxx

@laney79 Thank you! It’s a funny old business. I spent 39 very upset (still bleeding then from Mc 1) and banned anyone from singing happy birthday or giving me anything. So I’m pleased I somehow feel good today. I need to make up for last year. You will have to go doubly overboard for 40... x

@Jessabean congratulations!! It's so good to see good news on this thread. Got everything crossed for you.

@Funkyemzie I think I see something on both those tests but I find the FRER lines tricky as they seem to have a little indent. I really hope you have a stronger line in the next few days.

@Bobzybaby we DTD every other day from cd8 over my FW but DH has a low sperm count and I have been advised that every other day is much better for building up the army haha. If your partner has a normal count you should be fine every day if you wish!

Sorry to hear of those having a tough time right now. I've been up and down but feeling much better. We saw my husband's consultant today and they are going to put him back on his fertility treatment- they said they are confident his results will vastly improve. So that's good :)

Thanks @Mistymeow I guess the conclusion is that we can DTD either every other day or every day depending how we feel! A daily sesh seems like a bit of a chore to be honest 😂

Congratulations @Jessabean!

My thoughts are with you all ladies. I'm so grateful to be part of this huddle. I've struggled to keep up with the feed but I'm trying to catch up with everybody's news.

I'm 6DPO today, still no real symptoms to speak of. I had lots of early symptoms with my MMC so still not feeling all that optimistic but hoping for the best. AF is due next Sunday/ Monday. Wishing you all lots of baby dust x

Hi ladies, sorry for being AWOL but had a hectic couple days. Our baby has been diagnosed with Encephalocele, which is similar to spina bifida but happens on the brain. The skull hasn’t properly developed and some of the brain tissue is growing outside of the head. The chance of survival is 1 in 5 - however they think I would miscarry before the birth anyway. Sadly I have to have a termination, I feel devastated and heartbroken but it’s not fair to bring this baby into the world (if it even made it). We were told that if, by some miracle, the baby survived then it would be severely mentally and physically disabled from the neck down. It’s the worst case scenario. It will be a week or two before I can have the termination but after it, I get to hold the baby and say goodbye. Which makes me feel a bit better. We’ve decided that my body needs a break after this and we also need a bloody holiday! Feeling so rubbish but beyond thankful for my amazing partner. I just love him so much, he’s told me that tonight he’s buying me all my favourite chocolates and sweets then we’re coming home and I’m getting a hot bath and a massage haha. We’ll be okay, as long as we have each other. Just want to say a huge thank you for all the support you ladies have given me, it means so much and really does help ❤️

Also - is it alright for me to stick around here? My body needs at least a 3 month break from TTC and pregnancy but I definitely need all your support to get through the next few weeks/months 💕

hayleyfx Huge penguin huddle cuddles.
There's not really anything I can say which will make you feel better, except that we are all here for you.
Please stay around for the support even if you're not TTC. xxx

Oh @hayleyfx, I am so so sorry honey. Sending you a massive hug xx

@hayleyfx i am so sorry to hear your news. I can't imagine how hard things must be for you but please of course stay in the huddle and post whenever you feel you need a little extra support. I'm so glad your DH is being so good to you and I hope you both take the time to grieve and heal together - a holiday sounds like a wonderful idea. So much love and hugs to you both xxx

@hayleyfx Oh I'm so sorry to hear your news. I have no words other than we are all here for you and of course you can stay around, we are all here for you to lean on. I can't imagine how sad you and your partner must be feeling. I'm sorry this has happened xx

@hayleyfx So sorry to hear your news. This is so heartbreaking. There's nothing I can say to make you feel better but I hope you will find some comfort from us all on here. Thinking of you xx

@hayleyfx I had left the thread but today something made me log in and catch up, I am so so sorry for what you are going through. It is completely heartbreaking and not what you should be experiencing!... You are wonderful and strong and you will come out the other side of this and get you’re healthy baby as will everyone on this thread.... I truly believe it!!!
Take time to heal and grieve and look after yourself 😘
Sending lots of love and hugs and strength to you and anyone else who may be struggling! xxx

@hayleyfx I'm so so sorry to hear your sad news, sending you virtual hugs! There's nothing I can say that will make you feel better about this but glad you're being looked after, your DH sounds lovely. Definitely go on holiday, you deserve a good break away x

@hayleyfx So so sorry to hear what has happened, it's just so unfair. Sending you love and strength xxx

Oh @hayleyfx that's so terrible but amazing that you have such a supportive partner! I remember when you got your bfp.

Big hugs and hand holds for you lovely, I thought about you today. Xxx

@hayleyfx I can only echo what the other wonderful ladies here have said,
My heart breaks for you and your partner but you are blessed to have each other. You are so strong and you will get through this together. And we are all here for you
Sending lots of love and hugs your way
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@hayleyfx oh my darling I'm so sorry. I haven't logged in today and have just seen this. I don't know why these things happen because I do know that you and your OH deserve a lovely healthy baby. I am so sure that it will happen for you but for now have a holiday, enjoy your special partnership and stay here for all the support and penguin cuddles that you need. Sending lots of love xxxxx

@robin78 not that you are but you should totally be smug!! Hip hip hooray!! Happy birthday lovely and so glad you have had a good day 🎈🎁

I’m so sorry @hayleyfx My baby died shortly after she was born earlier this year and I cuddled her for two days. I’m sure the hospital will be wonderfully compassionate but do remember that you can take all the time you want to spend with your baby (they will provide a cool cot) and, if it isn’t offered, ask as well for a memory box from SANDS so you can have imprints and impressions. You might never want to see them again but if you do, you have them there. I still find it too painful to look through most of my memory box but I get such comfort from knowing it is there and that I have hundreds of photographs - I think I would really regret it if I didn’t have all those memories safely tucked away.

@hayleyfx I'm so so sorry. My heart breaks for you xxx