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implantation bleeds and stuff

336 replies

ssshhh · 14/08/2004 09:49

You do know me, it's just that I don't feel ready to talk about any pg issues openly yet - this soon after my mc I feel uncharacteristically reticent!

Since my last period we suddenly got broody, after having said we'd wait some time. So we did the tests, worked out my dates and did the deed last Saturday.

Now, I am not sure exactly when my last period started, but I would expect my next one to be 14 days after ovulation - surely whatever the length of your cycle, it is always 14 days after ovulation? So a bit of bleeding (stringy brown bits) yesterday - is that an implantation bleed? Is an implantation bleed usually accompanied by lower back period type pains? Or is all this in my head?

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Canadianmom · 31/08/2004 12:10

Thanks fisil. I am feeling nervous to the point of nearly being sick. I have not tested yet as I am feeling more and more like it might just be PMT. I have an appt at 3:30 at the hospital to find out the test results from my last miscarriage and i have promised myself that I will wee on the stick before then (unless AF arrives first).

nutcracker · 31/08/2004 12:47

Oooh good luck CM, fingers crossed for you.

I have tested again today but still negative and no sign of AF, i'm getting a bit puzzled now.

fisil · 31/08/2004 13:31

Have you plucked up the courage yet Canadianmom?

DelGirl · 31/08/2004 13:53

Keeping my fingers crossed Canadianmom

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DelGirl · 31/08/2004 16:56

How are you Canadianmom, how did it go?

nutcracker · 31/08/2004 17:01

Yeah i am dying to know, fingers are still crossed too.

CP3 · 31/08/2004 18:30

Any news yet?????

Canadianmom · 31/08/2004 20:10

Hello! Sorry for keeping you all in suspense. I did wee on the stick this afternoon and it was BFN. I did not manage to find the 'early detection variety' so it could be too early or I might have another month to think. Still no AF and I still have very sore boobs.
My appt. was just shy of a complete waste of time. I waited 2 hours to see the consultant and then my notes were incomplete...
I will tell the full story tomorrow once I have had a good nights sleep.
Hope you are all well.

fisil · 31/08/2004 20:15

Do you feel angry about your appt or just completely drawn and exhausted? Sounds terrible. Can you make a complaint?

When will you test again?

DelGirl · 31/08/2004 20:24

Hope you feel better tomorrow CM and you have some positive news.

CP3 · 31/08/2004 20:33

Ahhh Bless Cm, hope you feel brighter tomorrow. What a nightmare at the hosp, its the last thing you need at the moment. Hope you get a good nights sleep. Take Care. xxx

Canadianmom · 01/09/2004 13:42

Hello! Thanks for your kind thoughts. I don't feel angry about the appt just exhausted and defeated. The consultant knew nothing about my first two miscarriages. The first is forgivable as we were still in Canada but the second one was in November at the same hospital...The notes from that pregnancy and miscarriage seem to have gotten lost. He also didn't know that we have chidren so he made me feel as though the person he was talking to was an 'irrational, emotional woman longing to bear a child'. The tone changed when I went through my obstetric history but not for the better. I left feeling like I am lucky to have 3 children and that I could have more blood work done if I really want to but why should I since we already have children.
I am just ranting. Sorry. Please, please,please do not tell me that the NHS is great and that I am a bad foreigner for discussing any negative experience I may have had within its auspices. I already know that! I am just feeling sorry for myself as I was expecting something different.

Canadianmom · 01/09/2004 13:44

Way too close to the surface. Am in tears now.

MummyToSteven · 01/09/2004 13:53

So sorry about your negative experiences at the appointment yesterday, and certainly not about to tell you not to criticise the NHS - you should have been treated with far greater interest and sensitivity. Were you referred to a specialist miscarriage clinic - IIRC there are specialist clinics at St. Marys in London and at Liverpool Women's hospital who may have greater expertise/interest in this area; it may be worth you pushing for a referral to there. Apologies if you have already been referred to one of these, or if you already know of these anyway.

take care

CP3 · 02/09/2004 12:04

Any news Nutty? CM?

nutcracker · 02/09/2004 17:55

My AF finally appeared this morning after two days of cramps.
Not really sure how i feel about it at the mo. I am dissapointed but relieved that I now know one way or another.

I don't think we will be trying again. I will probably go back to college the week after next as planned.
Who knows maybe i'll try again in a few years time.

Good luck for the future everyone, and good luck with your pregnancy and future bundle of joy Fisil .

fisil · 02/09/2004 18:11

nutty. Hope AF isn't a nasty one!

CM?

nutcracker · 02/09/2004 22:42

Thanks Fisil

O.k I lied I am mega dissapointed, just didn't realise it til i was just chatting to a lovley Mner about it.

As much as i was terrified about people being annoyed at me for having another and how scared i was i having another, i know it would have all been fine.

So now what do i do, I am supposed to go back to college in 2 weeks, and my friend will be mega dissapointed if i don't go.

fisil · 03/09/2004 07:42

Go to college, nutty. I know it's not a substitution for having children, but your friend sounds like a really good friend, and learning can be a lot of fun and really fulfilling (as long as you have the right teacher!). And just think what you can do with the qualifications at the end. If I had a choice between having a baby and a college course, yes of course I would chose the baby but the consolation prize is about as good as they get!

emmatmg · 03/09/2004 08:09

How odd....I just post a message and it's gone....... Ok I'll do it again.....

Nutty, I was so so sure you were PG, I'm sorry your not as I love hearing PG news (that's why I'm an eavesdropper on this thread )

As for college, DEFINATLEY go it will ge fun and you'll really enjoy it ( I'd love to be in your shoes but far to late for me)
Maybe put off trying again for no4 for about 4-5 months( or longer , not sure how long your course is) then if you fall PG straight way, you'll have a lovely new baby AND new qualifications.

Feel alot of for you right now, you lucky thing!

CP3 · 03/09/2004 09:14

Nutty i was so sure you were pregnant, you know where i am if you need to talk!!!!!

I know how you feel and that you really dissapointed at the moment, but it may be cos now you really have to make a choice between college or another baby whereas if you had been pregnant the decision would have been made for you.IYSWIM

Im not going to push the college thing as college wil always be there after the the next child and it is nice to have children close together. But at the end of the day the choice is yours, if there was a pill for broodiness to make it go away then id gladly give you one.

Maybe you could see how you feel when you next see someone pregnant or a mum struggling down the strret with four children. Only you know Nutty what you really want but both college and a bay are achevable, your only 26, a youngin my eyes, you have all the time in the world. xxxxxx

As you can tell im crap at advice but hope ive helped a little

nutcracker · 04/09/2004 12:23

Thanks guys. Have though and thought and thought some more about all this and I am going to go to college.

My course is 2 years and then uni would be another 3, by which time i would be 31 and still have time for another baby.

Dp was quite dissapointed , but i have to say that it could be because he's not keen on me going to college and getting a life.

Thanks for all the advice and kind words, you lot are great

fisil · 05/09/2004 10:01

you are great too nutty. What's your course in? If you ever want to e-mail any drafts through for a second opinion feel free!

I had a scan yesterday (after some bleeding which scared me sh*tless) and saw a beautiful, tiny beating heart! So happy

CP3 · 05/09/2004 13:52

Fisil your making me cry, stop it. How sweet and wonderful Only joking, so pleased for you. We are just about to start trying again!!!

Nutty you are fab, good luck with college. If we get broody im sure we can all pile round fisills for some ooohing and ahhhing.

Cm how are you doing?

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