Over 40 ttc - summer baby dust for me!

[Orchid222]

Ladies here's our new thread!

I had awful cramps post-ov last cycle. Turns out it was implantation.

Welcome Eloisa.. Thank you for that lovely inspiring quote. ..
'when you think it's finished...sometimes that is just the beginning!'
I'm 46 and ttc no.2 and believe my prob is low ovarian reserve although my body is giving me full-on signals of ovulation every cycle. My hormones were tested a few weeks ago and were normal. I think also we haven't tried frequently enough. We have a ds who's 4.5 and i feel too exhausted! He's in our bed every night. .i co-slept and ebf right from the start. DS is adamant he wants to be an only..."no babies " he says!! So its difficult and we're resigning ourselves to it not happening.
Btw everyone.. did you see the news that Jamie Oliver's wife wants baby no. 6 at 43?!! No. 6 and we just want a 2nd!! I think like mentioned up thread the desire to have babies never actually leaves you until there's really no choice any more.
Critter...Good luck testing today. Thinking of you and blowing that magical dust your way!@ xx

Morning all, sorry to let you all down but I’ve decided not to test until Tuesday afternoon. Did a bit of soul searching last night and realised that a BFN today isn’t going to give me closure - I’m just be wondering ‘what if’ until OTD anyway and to be honest I think I’d feel worse than i do now. So decided to let nature take her course until Tuesday after work - if AF arrives before then so be it, if she doesn’t then I’ll be feeling that bit more positive about doing the test 😊

Fingers crossed they’re implantation cramps Cleo 🤞

I felt the same this week Cleo. AF was late so all looked good but wasn’t brave enough to test. Was also scared of getting a BFP as well as getting a BFN, if that makes sense! Just preferred to keep things open and let my body do the talking.

Good luck to you these next few days.

Ali are you currently late and haven't tested?
Critter, thats sensible and sounds like the right choice for you. I would just have no patience!! Fingers crossed af stays away.

My cramps seem to have gone today and we dtd last night which I hope hasn't affected things if it is implantation.
To be honest my body is always teasing me and doing weird things, so I'm not convinced anyway.

Boosey - interesting about Jamie Olivers wife, I love things like that, but 6?? Wow thats brave! Haha

Ali just rememberd you had a cp, is that 2 months in a row?? I loose track of everything going on! Is af here now?

Cleo I know exactly what you mean about your body doing weird things to tease you - I feel exactly the same. My boobs are quite sore again today after that pretty much going away for the last 2 days but I’m so confused with the on/off stuff now that I just don’t know what to think anymore. Not letting it get my hopes up again now though it’s too exhausting! What will be will be on a Tuesday.

Just went shopping in a Sainsbury’s and everywhere I turned there was a pregnant woman or someone with a tiny baby - it just made me want to curl up in a corner and cry 😢

Critter there do seem to be more pregnant people around at the moment, I was wondering if it was me just noticing them more or if there really has been some kind of mass baby boom

Critter I get your reasoning and have everything crossed for Tuesday!!

Morning ladies - CRITTER - that’s seems like the best way forward. The curiosity would be hard for me but then I know exactly what you mean about keeping the hope there. I keep thinking about you and will keep my finger crossed for you .

Welcome ELOISA . I also love the inspiring quote - just what I need at the moment.

Feeling very emotional AF due anytime now. I’ve tested already and so annoyed with myself for doing so. All bfn after scrutinising them and pulling them out of bins a few hours later etc etc FFS!! I swear I imagine lines then loom again later and don’t see anything!! I never learn - it really messes with your head does this ttc. I know I’ll be alright when af arrives but I’m a bit of an emotional minefield at the moment and yes it absolutely does seem like there are pregnant ladies everywhere and babies . Really don’t know how much longer I can put myself through this xx

Good luck on Tuesday Critter!
And yes pregnant women everywhere...a mum at my ds's nursery just had a baby and brought it in the other day so I had to congratulate first her then her husband end if was so hard to be smiling at that wee baby all along wishing I had one too 😢
Cleo itd be great to have you as my IVF buddy but hopefully we'll both be pregnant before September 🤞

Matts... Ha! I do exactly the same. ..pulling tests out the bin hours later just in case..crazy!!
Orchid. ..my ds's best friend's mum has just had her 3rd and i'm totally with you. .i find it so difficult that sometimes i just try to get away so i don't have to see the wee 6 week old baby girl. When i do talk to her i'm fighting the tears. Dear god it's so hard!

Cleo, AF finally arrived Friday late afternoon. I had another CP in April. Had about 4 or 5 now.

Matts I smiled when I read your post! I too think I can see lines that arent there! I have actually taken frer's apart in the past!!! I feel the same, the couple of days before AF are sometimes worse than once it's arrived....
5 DPO here....

Matts - talk about an emotional minefield - I’m sitting here crying my eyes out over a David Attenborough documentary about dinosaurs and birds - WTF???

Hello lovely ladies. Just checking in. Critter totally rooting for you for Tues, and knowing that whatever the result - you have a few more chances (obvs hoping this is the one tho!) The things we do to scrutinise symptoms and tests is quite astounding but I’m glad we are all in the same boat!
Regarding Jools Oliver, good on her for trying for #6 at 43 (gives me hope!) and she has talked about her 2 miscarriages in the past, so clearly it’s not all been a walk in the park (she had a MC @ 12 weeks) 😥
Wishing love and light to you all on this sunny day! 🌞😊🌞 x

Matts I do that with tests too.
Orchid yes fingers crossef for that!
Ali that is a lot of times to go through that, are you being checked over for it? What have the docs said?
Critter lol at your documentary! Funny the things that get us

Hello All lovely ladies! please can I join! I was on this thread two years ago when I first started trying at 41 cycle 1, I am now 43 still TTC #1 .

@shiney can you please add me to the list!

I am rooting for you all as it seems such a supportive group @Critter I am waiting for your results with baited breath too fingers firmly crossed for you!

For the first time ever I am cycle day 12 with no AF, I m a regular 28/29 day cycle and haven't ever been late before, but BFN when tested on Cycle day 3 and then yesterday. Am so confused worried and upset that this could be Peri menopausal symptoms! I have had immense cramping symptoms, and have felt I've had a ghost period for the past nearly two weeks! all the period pain and sometimes worse with non of the blood!

I have read through the thread with hope when some ladies have mentioned that a BFN is quite common even if you have fallen pregnant!

Cleo, haven’t spoken to GP about it but no doubt it’s age-related. The fertilised egg must get to a certain stage then go wrong - which is to be expected I guess. Not sure what else it could be.

2 of the CPs, AF wasn’t even that late so GPs don’t even class that as a pregnancy.

Ali - might be worth looking into though? They might have some suggestions of things that may help or some tests they can do? Such a shame as you can obviously conceive, we just need it to stick!

Welcome letsdothis! Sorry to hear you are having a difficult cycle. Have you tried using a frer? Have you been to gp? Must be frustrating! Do you do opk's or temp? Are you certain of when you ovulated?

Critter - id be exactly like you. Waiting as long as I could. I hate pregnancy tests.

Letsdothis- welcome back. I’m sorry you’ve had to come back but it’s good to have you all the same.

Ali - I agree with Cleo. It might be worth trying to push for some tests. Perhaps say you were a bit further along than you were? Did you say your progesterone was low? Could this be related?

Still nothing happening here. Still feeling sad but coping ok. Trying to actually let out my sadness and cry a bit rather than holding it in all the time. Loving yoga yin too and trying to do my Headspace app each day.

Progesterone was tested twice and fine both times. One was 30ish one was 50ish. So eggs are fertilising and implanting but then miscarrying very early on. It’s got to be egg quality. I guess people have CPs without ever knowing about it. I’ve only had 2 (I think) which went on several days after AF was due.

Let’s - how many dpo are you? I may have been on the thread 2 years ago with you! (Although I was in denial about the 40+ thing then)...

Hi, im new to this thread and was directed here by cleo. Been reading through all your stories today to try and get a picture.

Anyway, my story in brief, im just turned 42 with 3 kids, ages 17, 10 and 6. I didnt really want any more kids and my ex partner of 20 years had the snip. Pity it wasnt castration 🙄 but thats a whole other story.

We separated last year and i met someone else, a long distance relationship. Hes in sweden im in the uk but we manage to meet up every 6 to 8 weeks.

Back in May he was over here and i had unprotected hanky panky(sorry i cant remember many abbreviations). My Af was due the following week, it never came. I didnt even think about it until i started getting weird symptoms, lower cramping, backache, flushes, and just this weird feeling. Out to buy first test, BFN, symptoms persisted and peeing on sticks became an obsession. I didnt even want kids so why was i so obsessed? I was confused and frustrated every time i got BFN because i was convinced i was pregnant. I even got jealous when i saw a pregnant woman shopping in lidl.

Trip to doctors, blood test showed hcg undetectable, two AF missed at this point and still getting symptoms. Am i crazy? What the doctor did say was that my fsh levels were 29 and she told me my body and hormones are shifting towards menopause. 😢 i left that office thinking i need a straight jacket because im convinced im pregnant.

Still no AF since 19th April, still weird symptoms consistant with pregnancy.

I now want another child and feel ive left it too late but reading here gives me some hope. Sorry for extremely long winded post i did try to keep it all brief 😅

Critter ..."sitting here crying my eyes out over a David Attenborough documentary about dinosaurs and birds - WTF???" ...made me lol!!
Letsdothis... Welcome back to the fold.
Emmalou..welcome. Wow,
what a bizarre situation! So you're def not preg then? ! I didn't know i was actually preg for 12 weeks as i had light periods which were later every month then one month it didn't happen at all so i went for a scan and there was DS wriggling away in there!!

Letsdothis.. Sorry i meant to write more! Yes ghost symptoms and no bfp..that was my story too . see above.
Good luck x