TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

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Definitely stronger than this mornings big @hayleyfx

@hayleyfx how exciting! Mines no where near as dark as that but I'm super hopeful for you!!

@hayleyfx defo a line on that!! I hope this is your month babe!!!

Fingers crossed for you too @DaisyMay25 can't wait to see your test in the morning!! 🤞🏻

Hayleyfx that's a nice line. Mine aren't nearly that dark. Tbh I'm not hopeful for me. I did another tonight and it was negative. I know that my wee wasn't as strong and I know I shouldn't test do frequently but I also know, deep down that this isn't a sticky bean. Crap bank holidays I've been having

Thank you all ladies!! I’m still feeling so nervous. I told my OH but also told him not to get too excited incase, he got very excited though haha. He had tears in his eyes and wouldn’t stop hugging me, just made me want this bean to stick even more!!

@DaisyMay25 I hope you get a nice dark line soon hun! 🤞

@Wellthisisunexpected aww no I really hope that isn’t the case. It’s still early days. I’ve got everything crossed still that you have a sticky bean 🤞

Thanks HidCat, RedRobin7, Boboelephant and Jessabean. Yes, I mustn't get annoyed with myself for being optimistic. It's better to be positive than negative. But it's such a roller coaster, isn't it!?

What are people's opinions on TTW symptoms?
I know technically there's no scientific evidence for symptoms to occur before implantation and the official line is that it's just progesterone symptoms no different to pre-period ones, but there do seem to be a whole bunch of women who swear they've had symptoms before implantation. So, what are people's opinions? Do you reckon it's possible or not?

@KnitKitty I'd love to know peoples opinions on this too! X

@Cakelaur think I'm haunted by indents again, just the same shadow really, doing a frer tomorrow if that's not conclusive then I give up and I'll just wait for AF

Fingers crossed for you DaisyMay.

KnitKitty afraid I can't help you. Apart from being tired I get no symptoms in the tww that don't get before AF. Though on the day AF is due I got back ache with, a distintively different backache, so distinctive it was what made me test with DS and with my MC! I also got implantation bleeding with both those pregnancies, but not with this one.

I did a frer this morning and it had a very clear line within 60 seconds, which I think is good.

@Cakelaur so glad things are all well. You're so close to 12 weeks now!!
Good luck for testing @Hayleyfx and @DaisyMay25. Hope the lines get darker.
@Wellthisisunexpected I hope it was just too diluted and you get a darker line again today.
@KnitKitty I'm not sure. Every month I get very strong symptoms such as sore breasts, backache, tingly legs, nausea etc and every month it is clearly progesterone related. Part of me thinks that you can get the same symptoms and if you get af you say it's progesterone and if you get your bfp you swear they are are preg symptoms! I'm no expert and I get stupidly hopeful every month but one thing I've noticed over the past 6 months on here is that the majority of people who get their bfps seem to have less symptoms than usual. I think there is also something about it not being the strength of your symptoms but if they are different from normal for you.

@KnitKitty The only two things I can think of is that usually I get sore boobs the week leading up to AF but in Jan when I was pregnant I didn't get sore boobs until about 5 weeks. Since the MMC though I've not had sore boobs at all so can't use that any more as an indicator for me! Also the day before I tested I had really sharp pains in my pubic bone that I'd never had before so I think for me that was a symptom. Other than that, I felt normal and didn't think I'd get a positive test!

@Wellthisunexpected That is a very clear line! Congratulations 😁

I got woken up this morning by ridiculous clots. My second period since the MMC seems to be just as heavy as the first! 😩

@Wellthisunexpected I hope it's just diluted for you. This morning's test looks to be getting stronger at least. So hard when testing early not to assume the worst isn't it? 🤞

@KnitKitty I think it's just that symptoms at that point in the cycle can go either way tbh. Not that people don't experience symptoms or whatever but it may have happened regardless, I think what @Boboelephant said about it being what's normal for each individual is the relevance. And yes to the rollercoaster. I know I'll be gutted if no bfp this month but can't help getting my hopes up lol 🤦🏼‍♀️

Congratulations @wellthisisunexpected and @hayleyfx - really hope these stick for you!

@knitkitty - I don't think I really had any significant symptoms. Each month I would try and spot things and get lost on google trying to convince myself something was happening but I think it was all in my head.

I'm feeling cautiously positive at the moment. currently on cd9 so really hoping that my cycle is back to normal and fw is coming up in a few days. Keeping everything crossed that I don't have to wait another 7 months for bfp though. I'm seeing a gynae next month about my polycystic ovary so hopefully they'll have some words of wisdom for helping things along!

Tested again this morning, it’s about the same darkness as last nights one maybe a tiny bit darker. The line has definitely gotten darker over the last 2 days but I’m still so nervous, they’re still faint. I just feel like I should have a dark line now. Wish I could be optimistic. Testing tomorrow with a frer so I’m desperately hoping for a darker line 🤞

@Wellthisisunexpected good line!! That’s brilliant. Congrats 😊

@KnitKitty I’m not sure, everyone is different but for me personally, when I get a bfp I generally have less symptoms. I’ve been having a little bit of nausea this time but apart from that, I feel no different. I didn’t with my pregnancy last year either, no symptoms until 6 weeks. Some people are extra sensitive to HCG though & feel symptoms earlier so I guess it’s possible. Just giving you my experience, I have no idea about the actual facts haha!

@RedRobin7 oh hope you’re feeling okay. The first couple af’s after a MC can be really rough. Wine & chocolate may help a little though! 😉

@sweetpea0318 thank you! Good luck coming up to FW, fingers crossed this is your month 🤞

@hayleyfx if it's any consolation here's my FRER when blood was measured at 50 to give you an idea of colour.

Hi ladies, I'll add myself to this thread:)
I'm a week past the completion of my 3rd mc, this one at 10w so I'm officially in the 'recurrent' category. Waiting to ovulate, waiting for tests, but at 39 there isn't a lot if waiting time available! We've decided to jks and see what happens.

Haven't done test yet to see if hcg gone prob aim for next week. Didn't need d&c was all natural so hopeful to be back to normal soon.

Good luck to you all, Pma and baby dust xx

@Wellthisunexpected omg very clear line!!! Massive congrats!!! 🤞🏻it's a sticky one!!!

@KnitKitty each time I've been pregnant I've got a cold. This is the only thing different I've noticed until after my bfp. Your immune system lowers to allow for implantation. First time I got a sore throat and a nasty cough. Second time I got a full blown cold. Oh and I had implantation bleed with both two... I also get spotting but the implantation bleed was more "snot like" (tmi)

Oh @DaisyMay25 I wish it was clearer for you. These horrible kind of there lines!! Hopefully it's just bub settling in and you'll get a nice strong line soon.

@hayleyfx you'll defo get a darker line on frer. I didn't get my bfp until 15dpo and didn't get a line on an IC until about 18dpo. I have everything crossed this is your month and just hope it's not another chemical for you 🤞🏻

Thanks for the well wishes. I didn't know whether to post or not because I don't wanna rub salt in the wounds. But I want you all to see that there are rainbows after the storm. 🌈

@LilacIris here you go.

@HidCat thank you! That does help. My test today was a bit fainter than that but not too far off it so hopefully that’s a good sign!

@Cakelaur thanks hun, going to test with a frer tomorrow morning but so nervous. Will be gutted if it’s another chemical!! Trying to stay positive 🤞

@Wellthisunexpected lovely line, congrats!

@Cakelaur I'm not hopeful, I really want to be but I'm just not. I keep thinking it'll never happen now. I really don't wanna got the year mark and have to go for investigations. I'm glad all is well with you! When's your next scan? Soon isn't it?

@hayleyfx I'm testing with frer tomorrow too, hopefully it'll let you upload a photo by then!

Hi @Yukka and welcome! Really sorry to hear about your losses. I am also 39 (2 mcs in the last year) so understand how you feel about the time! This thread is a really supportive place.
@knitknitty I am always convinced I have symptoms but for me both times I had BFP the main symptom was feeling like I was about to get my period any minute for a few days around the time it was due. Tender boobs and super sense of smell followed but after I tested.

Looks like AF is starting (little bit of brown blood) plus cramps. Four days early! She's evil!

Very interesting that a lot of you have had a lack of symptoms before your BFPs.

The month of my BFP I had a noticeable increase in burping and trapped burps from CD24. I'm currently on CD22 and noticing an increase in burping (and a sensation in uterus, not quite pain or cramping, just a feeling). Maybe this just happens to me when AF is coming too and I've never noticed before. I mentioned to OH that I was feeling a bit insane and trying to calm my tits RE symptom spotting as I think we missed the fertile window this month. He said if it turns out I am pregnant we should probably sell our stuff cos it's so effective! lol

Yes, so someone slap me and tell me to go to the naughty corner until I've stopped obsessing, please.

Hello all, hope you don’t mind me joining in but I’ve found these posts comforting since my mc. I went for a scan at 11 weeks due to very minor bleeding (more like spotting) on the 9th April, found out baby had no heartbeat and had more than likely passed about 9 weeks. We decided not to take medication or have D&C and to let baby come out naturally. In hindsight this was the best thing we did as on the 25th April baby came out fully formed in sac. It started as labour lasting 5 hours and as I had done a lot of research, I knew I wanted to ‘collect baby’ so we placed a bowl in toilet and collected the full sac. Baby was then wrapped in a muslin cloth and a few days later we laid it to rest at a special place. It was heartbreaking but I was so pleased it came out safely in the sac. We are now day 32 past MC and I’ve started to spot so I’m sure it is AF starting. Well I hope so as we are going TTC using the ‘sperm meets egg method!’ I have been using a ovulation kit during this past month but I don’t think I’ve ovulated? I am so sorry for all your losses, I have three children already but this MC was totally unexpected and heartbreaking. Looking forward to this month ahead of BD with DH. Xx