40+ ttc: 2018 is full of bfp's!

[Orchid222]

Ladies, the old thread has finished, here's a new one.

Thanks Faith. All sorted re.child care. . An outstanding nursery we use has come to the rescue and has agreed to have DS and swap the days so we won't have to pay. Hurrah!
Love the msg about the 49 yr old. Especially love the fact her family didn't even bat an eyelid! I've already been told by mine (s-in-l) that if i dare to have another at my age it will be born with all manner of deformities!! My family are so supportive as you can tell. They offered no help and support from day one ..i was told by my mother to stop bf at a year as it's weird and also to ignore my screaming baby!! Then when i said we're ttc no.2 i get the 3rd degree! I told DH if by some miracle we conceive now, my family will be the last to know

In fact i got that wrong...i never told them we were ttc. Instead i stupidly confided in s-in-l that i thought i was preg only for her to launch into her diatribe of how stupid i was at my age and surely i was joking? ! I won't be confiding in her again that's for sure!
Sorry ladies.. rant over!

Cautiously marking place. I'm 41 and considering a late one. I'm also 2.5 stone overweight so wondering if I should spend a few months losing weight first or just get stuck in before I run out of time!

Aw @BooseysMom other bloody people... x
IF it happens for us I'm expecting some disapproval - not just that I'm 41 but that OH is 61. I know some people will say (or at least think) it's so selfish which makes me sad - when DSis got pg it was just happiness all round. And then there's OH's DD who has refused to ever meet me. She's 35 with her own DD who OH dotes on. She's not speaking to him at present - she's so difficult - and IF he has to tell her she'll go batshit insane

Ooh nooooo @BooseysMom that's just dreadful but family's are a crap shoot.. my mum thinks the number of kids I have it obscene and I had a m/c just before my sis and all she wanted to do was moan to me about her lost grandchild. She is all over my sisters kid ( she successfully got pg) and now my bro and wife are pg which I am thrilled for but can't cope with being around them all because of my mum attitude and behaviour.. not once in 21 years ( my eldest) has she changed a nappy or bathed one of them as infants.. even with my little ones and she is full on, hands on with my sis kid.. just didn't want to be a grandmother to mine.. family are the people you choose for yourself. Keep trying ⭐️⭐️

Mimosa-8 days is LOONG! Mine was 6 days as opposed to the usual 5 so still longer but nothing crazy. When are you going back to see your consultant? I'm going beg of May so we'll see what they say.

Booseys and Chatbash- sorry your families aren't that supportive. My mum waited for a long time for me to have children and I know she'd be the best grandmother to my DS but sadly she passed away unexpectedly when he was only 3 months old and I will forever regret not starting a family sooner 😢. Life isn't always fair. At least you still have your mums even if they aren't always most supportive.

Stars- that's crap about your OH's DD, sorry! Hopefully she'll change her attitude and behaviour soon, must be hard for your OH.

ChocEgg- I'd both at the same time. I wouldn't spend months losing weight because unfortunately at 41 time is not on our side but I'd start ttc while at the same time changing your diet (if you haven't already) and doing some light exercise.

Thanks Orchid. Last time we fell pregnant as soon as we tried so I still have that mindset - of course the age thing may well mean it will be different this time.

I'm going to have a good read through the thread but my typical cycle is now 26-27 days rather than 28 as it always was before. Is this likely to make a big difference? Or are they still regular enough to be optimistic?

I'd be really grateful for any tips about supplements. I'm going to start conception vitamins and ideally take them for 2-3 months before we start trying. My BMI is over 30 so should I be asking for extra folate preconception?

Urgh, just had another chemical pregnancy!

ChocEgg, 26-27 days is fine. I’ve got pg with that cycle length.

Thanks Ali. Sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancy.

Ladies this just happened earlier. It's very faint so I'm not hopeful as I'm 16 DPO and normally get this around 11 DPO but at least I'm still able to get pregnant at this age, so that's reassuring at least. You'll need your glasses to see it!!

Firstly - Weasel - omg, I so hope this is your sticky one. You deserve this to be it, although i understand why you'd be cautious....

Ali - i'm so sorry:( what happened? You've not been around much? Hope you're ok x

Orchid - my appt is 14th May. I've felt quite 'depleted' by this period, it's literally wiped me out but I'm perking up again now. Been trying to eat a bit more red meat and some leafy greens to replace some of the lost blood. Keeping out an eye for ewcm now.....

Everyone else suffering with insensitive people all around them - SOD them! Go with your heart and filter them out. People can be so judgemental (until they find themselves in your shoes of course!). Us over 40s can do it too.

Thanks Stars. ...you cheered me up as i can see all of us have families that drive us batty at times!
Orchid. .i'm really sorry about your mum. Mine passed away 2 years ago this July. She went out a few times with us and DS but my forever guilt will be the fact i kept him away from her for much of the time as she chain smoked and when i did go round to see her DS would come away coughing. If i'd only known how little time she had left with us i'd have made more effort but she did a good job of alienating us and when i tried to talk to her about it, she'd have none of it and nothing was her fault.
Anyway. .. Yes there are so many things i regret and i wish i could go back and do again. We can only go forward. .xx

Weaseldee - that looks very hopeful! I can see the line x

Sorry ladies been quiet recently but got a weird one here:

worried this cycle is going to be anovulatory and wondering if anyone’s had this experience and just ovulated late.

Came off the pill November and since then had pretty damn regular cycles. Literally timed at ovulating CD 10/11. Luteal phase always 16.

This month I’m now on CD 13 and it’s not happened yet. I’ve had flashing faces on the clear blue advanced opk for the last 3 days and today possibly cm might be starting (not ewcm but that kind of pre stage where I bobbles rather than stretches ifkwim)

Has anyone had a cycle where they suddenly just start a week late like this and it still happen?

I have been travelling over Easter so maybe that’s it but getting worried it’s just going to be anovulatory now.

Hi kari, not quite the same as you but I've just got a faint BFP yesterday on cycle day 16. With every previous pregnancy I get this on cycle day 11. So I'm thinking for the first time ever I ovulated later. I'm like you in the fact it's always the same day of the month. Keep dtd regardless....

Thanks Weaseldee. Kind of thinking it’s not going to happen anyway so anything like this is just another nail in the coffin of thinking it might lol.

Karigan keep testing! I've had 2 cycles when I had 5 days of flashing smiley before a static one. Like you I was always very regular and then in Oct everything seemed late including opk. With me I'm sure it was related to additional stress at work but I guess travelling or anything else can delay it too.

Weasle- congrats! Did you test today to see if it's getting darker?

Mimosa-8 my appt is on 2nd May so close enough to yours. Looking forward to exchanging notes!

Kari. Wish I could shed some light but I’m pretty clueless and as I can’t get OPK to work I have no idea when or if I have ovulated 😬 I had an annov last month and Like you I generally ov on 11/12 of 27 day cycle - unfortunately my DH was hungover on Fri (day 12) and he couldn’t keep it up 😝 Really don’t know whether to laugh or cry!! I am on CD 13 so will give it a go regardless like you and hope that OV is late or was early as had CM on days 6 and 9/10 and a bit today 🤔 It’s such a game... Weasle - keeping fingers crossed! X

@Karigan1 keep testing it's not over till af arrives.. I'm all over the place stopped testing or checking cervix or taking temps at the beginning of the year because I think it was stressing me out more.. had a m/c at 5.5 weeks month before last. Then last month went to 33 days ( norm 28-30 reg as clockwork) but not sure if was early m/c too as hormones are just beyond bonkers and my boobs have gone up a size.. the last 2 months I've have ov bleeding which I have taken as a positive sign but hubby has take. It upon himself to be a total tool at the moment so any activity is likely to not be happening.. 🤦‍♀️ I seem to ov quite early too.. but I guess that's an age thing... keep going ⭐️⭐️🤞

I haven't retested yet as I've ordered some frers off amazon and they arrive Wednesday! Still no period and high temp so, so far so good

Weasle - fingers crossed! Oh and may I ask - what’s a frer? First Response.......? X

Good luck Weasle :)

Yes first response :)