40+ ttc: 2018 is full of bfp's!

[Orchid222]

Ladies, the old thread has finished, here's a new one.

Posted too soon, meant to say welcome Chendy!

Welcome chendy78, Orchid222 are you still getting positive preg tests? Xx

Chatbash I haven't checked for a few days but I'm sure they would still be positive, it takes our bodies to adjust. I remember Cleo was still getting them not too long ago so I wouldn't get too excited if they were positive. I should've asked for blood tests last week but I think at this point I just need to wait for the scan and see.

Cleozeta, that's really good news!

Welcome, Chendy!

Karigan, we are all waiting with you.

Orchid, the wait must be brutal.

Re. OPKs, I have one of those fancy machine thingies with a sensor (my husband calls it the mega-sperm) that I used for a while a couple of years ago, then gave up since it was cumbersome, then I had my pregnancy and miscarriage....and last week I fished it out of the cupboard and ordered another sensor and I guess I'm back on the game.

I wonder if (or how many) women in my situation make something up to get into EPU for an earlier scan. No I'm not thinking of doing that but I would understand if some did because the wait is excruciating! 😖

Needles what is the sensor thing? Intreagued!

Orchid I would guess many! The wait it torcherous and it's only human that you would want to know whats going on. I would be tempted

This one: www.ovusense.com/uk/

But I have a much older version!

Orchid222 my sis was up at the hospital all the time and then paid for extra scans.. be she drove staff potty.. I'm not sure I could wait..

Great news cleo!

Thank you- it sounds like there's been lots of positive news! I have a new promotion starting in September and I'd like to bed in with this, so think about maybe trying next April when my coil is due to be removed. But I'll be 41 then so I'm worried about the risks, bearing in mind it'll no doubt take a few months even if all is well so probably 42 when I actually had a third. My sister in law was 43 when she had her last (thought she was menopausal so he was a lovely surprise!) but I worry about risks and if we can afford it, childcare is crippling. But I also worry that I'll really regret it if we don't. I suppose I'm thinking I need to lose weight and get into better shape which will help minimise risks and then maybe go for a fertility check and see what my eggs are like- will be following this thread with interest!

Did a test at midday and still BFN but honestly I feel like it should be positive. Still loads of cm, now 2 days late and boobs have started really hurting. Don’t know what’s going on 🤷‍♀️. Maybe leave it to Friday then try fmu?

The one time I got pregnant, I took a test on the day AF was due, then the next day, both BFN, so I just thought I was having an extra long cycle. It was only a week later when I took another test because I needed it for a medical procedure and then I got the BFP! And yes, my boobs were killing me, more than usual and I generally get boob pain with my PMS.

Karigan- what test did you use? I didn't get anything on a cheapie, a faint line on a waitrose branded one and 1-2 weeks on cb digital. Maybe the test you used wasn't sensitive enough? Please try a different brand and see if it gives a different result.

That's great Cleo, how lucky you had the scan at exactly the right time. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Thanks shiny, yes very lucky. I want my own sonographer at home to use every month!!

Needles, the sense thing is really interesting, never neen anything like that before! Love the idea but not sure about sleeping with something in my nu nu every night

Chendy - if you are serious about trying I wouldn't wait. You may end up regretting it. Conceiving gets harder every year that passes, and massively so after 40. I conceived easily in my 30's but since turning 40 it took me over a year to conceive then had my first miscarriage. It's really not easy and I wish I started earlier than 40 for my 3rd.

Karigan I'd test again with a different brand!

Haha Cleo funny you mention having your own sonograph I was thinking the same earlier today!

Cleozeta I agree.. chendy78 I would start now or at least not leave it till next year..

Cleo, thanks for the encouragement. Great news with your eggs! Good luck.
I have a few days to wait. Af due Mon.
Chendy, there never seems to be a right time for a baby! That's why we left it so long. .job and money issues and renting grotty places. Then when we finally get some stability i'm too damned old for a second! So DS could remain an only. An old friend of the family said there would be too bigger age gap between DS and a new baby. DS is four and half. But lots of people have them with that bigger gap. She was saying they wouldn't be able to play with each other. So i felt even worse then! So anyway yeah i agree to not wait too long if you're serious. I feel your pain with childcare costs!
Good luck to those waiting. You're not alone xx

Hi ladies. Welcome Chendy - can only echo what the others said - 40+ sees some serious deterioration of so much - and had I realized that I would not be here at 43, having been trying for over 2 years with no luck. Message to my younger self - ‘wtaf where you waiting for - there is no right time - there is only NOW’
Karri - feeling hopeful for you - big time
Cleo - amazeball news that your eggs are already to go again - God love Mother Nature
Needles - OMG - this could be what I’ve been looking for ... is it easy to use as I’m crap with phone apps - also do you where it all the time - except when you have AF?
And did you wear it all night?
Sorry for all the questions.
I have nothing significant to report.
Got drunk last night - 1/2 bottle of prosecco with a mate. Have been feeling revolting all day 😬
Now on CD 24 - no symptoms and still no idea if I ov-ed - fanny thermometer - here I comes!! X

BooseysMom don't be disheartened there are 14 between my brother and I and we have a fab relationship, 4 years between my sis and I and we rarely speak.. older sibs are never to old to have a play with a baby.. mine were 14,12 and 10 when no 4 arrived and all was fab.. hang in there x

Boosey, to echo Chat, my brother is 12 years younger than me, I helped bring him up (I like to think!) and I'm equally as close to him as my sister who's only two years younger. I was a little bit obsessed about having a two year age gap to dc2 but that didn't work out. Of course I wish it had but dd is amazing at the moment (nearly three) and I'd have missed some of it with a new baby to look after. Plus, I think dd would be an amazing little helper when she's a bit older. Also I know quite a few siblings who are close in age who don't get on.

Chat & Shiny..thank you! I like the fact that older siblings like to look after their younger ones. Ds always shouts "No babies!" when the subject is talked about at home but I think secretly he's

'baby curious' as whenever he sees a baby out and about, he points him/her out to me. So sweet! Anyway yes, they're all different and age gaps don't seem to make that much difference in the long run. I don't really want DS to be a lonely only but then at least he'll always have his own room and space. .although atm he prefers to be in our bed!! (Cue another topic entirely! )

‘Fanny thermometer’!! Ha ha

Evening all.

Cleo - what great news, that must boost your positivity. Fingers crossed for you.

Orchid - ugh the waiting must be torture.

Chendy- welcome hun. I have to echo what everyone else says, if I was you I definitely would not wait. No way ever. I had to wait for various medical reasons and I feel that has put me at a massive disadvantage. Ie still ttc 18-24 months on at 42:-(

For those who asked no I’ve not done a test. I never buy tests so don’t have any in the house. Maybe I’ll get one in a day or two. I’m pretty convinced now it is my period as it’s been a bit heavier today. I decided to use a pad today instead of the mooncup and all day it was still only a quarter covered more but still so v v light. TMI alert; it’s also very stringy and brown?? I just cannot see it’d be a sign of pregnancy as I’ve never had anything remotely like it with any other pregnancies.

Booseys - what a cr@p thing for someone to say to you! Ignore ignore. There is no such thing a the perfect age gap. There does seem to be a bit of an obsession in the UK with having a close age gap in some circles as though it’s a badge of honour the closer gap you have. My two are close in age and get on well generally but I am very aware that it does not equal closeness in the long term. My mum has a brother very close in age and a sister who is 12 years younger. There is NO love lost between her and her brother yet her and her sister are best friends. I think it can be nice for close age siblings growing up together in one way as they are into the same things at the same time but I do think it can breed an overly competitive dynamic.

I’m cd 29. Or cd 2. No idea which.

Orchid - I’ve never tried soy but I may consider it. Or Agnus. I’ve been taking Shatavari which has really helped my pms but not made massive difference to the early ovulation. I’ve felt really good on it but I need to try something else now. Thanks for your thoughts x