Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

Welcome @mussie !

Thanks! One question I had - when do you come off the pill? I had thought if I was TTC in July, I'd come off the pill end of June, but from what you guys are saying it seems I have the wrong idea! If you come off the pill a couple of months earlier than you need to, do you just use condoms in the meantime, or use no protection at all?

I think I've been working off the assumption learned in sex ed, where you can and WILL get pregnant whenever you think about having unprotected sex. Honestly, mind blown. You've all taught me so much already

@mussie it can take up to a year for periods to regulate after coming off the pill. Without regular periods it can be difficult to track when you O & therefor when to dtd. However, I had regular periods straight away after coming off the pill so it really is different for everyone. I've not been on the pill for about 8 years now but I think in your position I'd come off it earlier & just use other contraception to give your body time to regulate

@mussie the doctors advised me to come off now even though we may not start trying for 6/9 months yet. I had probably been on it 8 years so had no idea what my cycle would be like. Using condoms in the meantime even though they are horrible things as I am aware I could get pregnant as soon as I stopped taking it.

Also tracking dates etc on an app which will hopefully give some idea how my cycle works when we do want to try.

Everyone on here saying folic acid 3m before. Doctors told me to start as soon as I stopped with the pill (even though I said we wouldn't be trying for 6/9 months) as she said a) you are then okay if any 'accidents' happen and b) you are already in the routine of taking something daily. Worried a little when I saw people's comments on here but had to remind myself that people take it very safely for years when trying.

Really struggling with the wait. I know it's not the right time for us just yet but it's all I can think about. Also finding myself tracking things like CM (grossing myself out a little as didn't have myself down as someone that would obsess over it). Anyone else like this?!

Hiya can I join? I'm 28 & DH is 35. I would like to ttc #2 towards the end of the year when DS will be approaching 2. I initially wanted a small age gap but found the newborn stage quite hard so put it off. My DH told me the other day he would need a lot of persuading for #2 which really upset me as we have always said we wanted 2. I didn't see a point in trying to persuade him there and then seeing as I'm not quite ready to ttc yet anyway. But obviously now it's all I can think about!
I used Ovia app last time and Opks and it only took 2 cycles so I'm hoping it would be similar next time!

Welcome @mussie

I'm still on the pill at the moment, my understanding is that it doesn't accumulate in your system (hence why you can pregnant after missing even one pill). The difficulty when people have been on it a long time is that they have no idea what they're natural cycles are actually like, so it can take a while to get used to things.

Welcome @boodles101 too

@sprinkleofsunshine (or anyone else who knows about this) do you mind me asking what precautions you are taking due to Zika virus? Strictly speaking I think you are supposed to avoid any unprotected sex and oral sex for 6 months after returning if both partners have travelled to a Zika area. DH is not going to be happy 😂
I might look into getting tested instead, 6 months seems like a long time.

6 months does seem like an awfully long time when you are waiting to start trying but it has flown I must say.
I'm not sure if the measures you have mentioned are f you are already pregnant, however I suppose if one of you had the virus then to avoid spreading I guess that would be the case.
We are just not ttc for atleast the 6 months and using condoms as I came off the pull quite some time ago and didn't want to go back on.

Thanks @sprinkleofsunshine x
I'm sure the time will fly by like you say

Hi @boodles101! I also found he newborn stage very hard. For a long time after having DS I was convinced I was "1 & done". Then DS turned 1 & things got better. I think I'm aiming for 2.5 - 3 year age gap

Yea I know how you feel happytobemrsg I knew I wasn't done but I just needed time to get over it. Plus DS was a rubbish sleeper. Now he's sleeping & becoming a wonderful little boy, it was all totally worth it and want to do it all again! DH has reservations because of all the sleepless nights but he never got up once so not too sure what he found that difficult 🤣 2.5-3 is about the age gap I'd like too.

Oh I've found my people!!
Can I join you all please?

Driving myself completely insane over waiting. I'm a ridiculous over thinker, very impatient and a bit obsessive. Not a good combination of traits to have when in the 'waiting ttc' camp. I'm so happy I've a group who understand.

Anyway, me:

Your age/DH age: 32/34
Baby #: 4
When are you TTC: September 2018
Why are you waiting: For a number of reasons - I have a chronic illness and want to get the go ahead from my Consultant (have a routine appointment scheduled in May so will speak to her then). I also want to speak to my GP (and hopefully get the nod from her too) as I've previously had a Lletz and this worries me.
We have festival tickets for June, we've been invited to two weddings away in July and August and we've a sun holiday booked for August. I don't want to be pregnant for these events. I want to build up folic acid levels and I want to lose a few lbs (always gain about 500 stone when pregnant so damage limitation).

What are you doing to keep busy? I work full time, have 3 children, a house, 2 dogs, a cat and a husband. Nuf said.

I cant believe I'm back on the TTC train. I swore blind for years that I was finished. I've given away all the baby stuff. We've (finally) finished paying for childcare. Night feeds and nappies are a distant memory. Our DC are 12, 8 and (almost) 7. We must be insane.
I CANT WAIT!!

Welcome @HarryPottersSecretSister! Your post made me smile, for someone that is planning #1, it's lovely to hear that having 3 hasn't put you off trying for #4 I am also a complete over thinker and have found myself rather obsessive about it all, something I swore I wouldn't be. I am a huge planner as well.. I can practically tell you exactly how our nursery will look and what pram I think looks nice dear god make me stop.

What made you decide to try for another after deciding you were done?

Good luck re weight loss! We have decided that the first part of 2018 is to get ourselves in good shape (although neither of us are overweight in the slightest). It does feel a bit weird going to all the effort though when I know I'll undo it all (my mum tells me she was huuuuuge with me, so I have al that to look forward to!). Is it true you take after your mum?!

Thank you lovely dottydally!

Delighted to hear you're a huge planner too - I think I've actually decided on names for this imaginary baby - so I can definitely understand your nursery planning!.

I have no idea whats happened to make us decide we wanted more. Not a clue! I was so, so sure we had closed the door on that part of life but it started off as a joke conversation when our youngest started asking for a baby (off Santa!!) and we then came to the conclusion we'd love a fourth. The more we mulled over it and chatted it out, the more we realised its what we wanted. I suppose it helps that our 3 are ridiculously fabulous (very modest/ non biased view ). Having 3 honestly has made me want more rather than put me off - I am genuinely excited for you to find out how amazing having children is

(I'm saying that and I hate being pregnant and I'm not mad about the baby stage but if the stork brought them to the door aged 3, I'd probably have 10. Still though - short term pain for long term gain etc)

DH and I joined SW a few weeks ago. I don't have a huge amount to shift but I'd like it off (he does and I'm trying to be supportive). I'm not sure if its true re taking after our mothers. I've seen pics of mine when she was pregnant with me and she seemed neater. I turn into South Park's Eric Cartman.

It comes off though!

I've read the entire thread but am a little muddled on whos details are whos. When are you hoping to start trying dotty?

Oh and you're in your early 20's aren't you?
I read your conversation with another poster (I'm really sorry - I cant remember the name) and it made me smile. I understood where you were coming from about you and the differences with your friends. I was pregnant with my 1st at 19 (had her a month after my 20th birthday), had my second at 25 and my last (and thought I had finished my family!) at 26.

I got married at 22 (dh was 24).

Obviously we've had our ups and downs and struggles (like most!) but we're still here, going strong and very happy.

Most of my friends are getting married/ having their first now (and I have an almost teenager). When we were at home with small babies, they were all out partying.

Theres no right or wrong way. Everyone's different.

Your age/DH age: 26/25
Baby #: 1
When are you TTC: October
Why are you waiting: We are getting married in October
What are you doing to keep busy?: Looking at baby clothes online
Planning the wedding

Can I join?! (Already posted sorry!)
I've got a pre-conception appointment tonight. Not sure if it's going to tell me anything I don't already know. Hopefully going to be coming off the pill within the next couple of weeks.. Not sure if it's a bit early but want it out of my system!

@HarryPottersSecretSister oh don't get me started on names I have names that I think I'd like to use, but will have to see whether they look like their name when they come out! I am so pleased it's not just me.

Gosh Santa will have done very well on that one! It's funny you say it though, our conversations about having a baby started as a joke... oh of course, not biased at all I am really excited, my OH has a friend with a little one, it is so amazing watching them grow up!

Oh no!! What would you say is the worst bit about being pregnant? I have a really romantic unrealistic picture of me being one of those women with a cute little bump (true aspiration is to not look pregnant from behind). Ha! First 3 years are the most challenging then??

SW is meant to be really good! A lot of the people I work with are doing it and seem to enjoy the fact you can still eat nice things and it's not as much constant tracking as some plans. I'm tall so I tend to think if I stay under 10 stone I am okay, though I've never been below 9!

We are hoping to start late this year, September/October time. I am 23, my OH is 25. I worry a little bit that people will judge our decision to have a baby younger. It's not so much our families (who would be absolutely thrilled) but my friends and some at work (who have all married in their late 20's/early 30's and started to think about children in their mid-late 30's). We just feel like we have had our fun and that we are now responsible enough that we would make good parents. We bought a house last year and both have very good jobs. The main idea behind waiting til towards the end of this year is that I will then be fully qualified (although I've been in my job 5 years).

I'm also so pleased to hear you are happy. We were having a discussion today at work about how your life changes once you are married/have kids and one person said 'I don't like my husband any more'. I was shocked. I know life changes once you have children but I like to think it changes for the better. I know it'll be hard (especially when sleep deprived!) but I like to think we will still be happy.

Does it scare you that you almost have a teenager!? & have you had any teenage tantrums yet?? I am told I was practically angelic til I was 13/14 then became a nightmare I still think my parents could have had a lot worse

Hi all.
We are 27/29 and waiting to conceive number 2.
We are currently moving from a small 2 bed house which my husband insisted we couldn't have a second baby in into a nice 3 bed aiming for the middle of April to move.
I have been soooo broody for the last 6 ish months or more, having previously said no more babies after horrid pnd....
Am keeping busy looking after our 2 1/2 year old dd and enjoying my brand new nephew and lots of other little lovely babies friend and colleagues have been having recently!
Xxxx

Wow @HarryPottersSecretSister it sounds like you already have your hands full!! I also wasn't crazy about the newborn stage. Now my DS is 20 months I'm his biggest fan!

Oooooo if they give you any pearls of wisdom do share with us @AssumeItWasSomethingClever !!

I had one of those little bumps @dottydally so they exist! Praying this time around it'll be the same! I must say I think I had the best body confidence in my life whilst pregnant (ok not the last month that was hell!!). It felt so liberating actually celebrating my tummy getting bigger & I really was in awe of the amazing things my body was doing. I built a baby - DH couldn't do that!

Welcome to all the new waiters!!

Your age/DH age 26 and 31
Baby # 1
When are you TTC April (not a long wait now!)
Why are you waiting Because of work commitments later this year. How lame is that!
What are you doing to keep busy? Buying a house.

@dottydally. I managed to look not preggers from behind (somehow!!) when I was overdue with my dd and walking down the high street got honked by white van men! Shouldve seen there faces when they drove past and saw the size of me!

And I defo have my future imaginary names picked out too!
Hard work still taking the pill when your heart says you want a bubba but brain says wait! Xx

dottydally & mrsg I also had one of those bumps! I also had all the body confidence and felt great my entire pregnancy. So much so that i actually miss my bump and being pregnant now! Obvs not the last few weeks though! I hope I'm just as lucky the next time round!

We are going to Edinburgh next month around the time I'm ovulating. Even though we are not suppposed to be TTC it's SO tempting. I said I DHtgat if we did get pregnant we'd have to give baby a lovekyScottish name. Or call him "Edinburgh" a la the Beckhams