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Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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happytobemrsg · 09/02/2018 12:53

I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again Grin
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

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luelle · 20/02/2018 09:19

Age: 24/28
Baby: #1
When: 22 months :(
Why are we waiting: Currently have a loan with my bank for £450 a month and although both financially comfortable apart from that I wouldn't be able to take much longer than 2 months mat leave without defaulting :(
What am I doing to pass the time: Scrimping and saving and rationing like a mad woman to make continuous overpayments

FlapJackered · 20/02/2018 12:38

What are you girls taking supplement-wise? I just spoke to a friend who is a nutritionist and she said that I should take Folate rather than Folic acid as 40% of people can't digest Folic acid? Has anyone heard this?

Arghhh It will be a miracle if i get to May without having unprotected sex. I keep on having to repeat to myself the reasons why I need to wait! It doesn't help that DH is feeling the same impatience!

SunshineAndRainbows6 · 20/02/2018 12:43

Hi all thought I'd jump in with you all... 😊

Your age/DH age: 23/24
Baby #: This will be #1
@When are you TTC: Hopefully May time... 🤞🏻🤷🏻‍♀️
@Why are you waiting: Have just brought our first home together... awaiting a moving date and want to see how are money situation looks after bills etc... Crazy about making sure we would have enough... Even though I don't think there is ever a PERFECT time to have a baby 👶🏻 😂
@What are you doing to keep busy?: Organising our house bits.... Currently arranging a 'baby shower' for my bestie... Which makes me even more broody!

Taking every day as it comes... came off of 'Cerelle' mid Dec and have already got back on track with my cycles... Even though we are taking precautions we have the attitude if it happens sooner then that's also fine... 😊

Sending best wishes and baby dust to you all for the near future 🎉💁🏻

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happytobemrsg · 20/02/2018 17:38

Welcome @luelle & @SunshineAndRainbows6 !

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happytobemrsg · 20/02/2018 17:40

I've not heard of that before @FlapJackered. I'm just doing FA & will switch to liquid pregnacare if we get pregnant

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AssumeItWasSomethingClever · 21/02/2018 16:54

I went to the pre-conception appointment. The nurse basically told me what I already knew; common sense stuff really!
Don't smoke or drink alcohol whilst trying to conceive.
If there's any chance of you being pregnant don't eat cured meats that haven't been cooked (parma ham etc.), rare steaks, soft cheeses, pate and the like.
Cut down on caffeine. Both me and partner, something to do with his swimmers becoming defective if he drinks more than 3/4 cups of coffee a day. Same with him and alcohol, no more than 14 units a week.
I can get pregnant as soon as I come off the pill but on average it takes women 6-9 months to conceive their first child regardless of whether they've been on the pill or not.
Take folic acid as soon as you start trying.
I think that's about it! Just thought I'd share with you ladies Smile
I didn't get much advice on when to come off the pill. She just said there's no proven correlation between pill usage and delayed conception but that it wouldn't hurt to come off it 6 months before TTC as long as I used protection if I am hell bent on not getting pregnant until October!

mussie · 21/02/2018 17:23

That's good to know about the caffeine - I'd thought about decaf for myself, but not him. And he lives for americanos! I'll have to break the bad news to him gently 😅

AssumeItWasSomethingClever · 21/02/2018 21:49

mussie I hadn’t thought about that for DH either. I just thought caffeine was a no-no due to the higher risk of miscarriage.
Glad I can pass on some helpful advice.. even if it is unwelcomed on your partners behalf! Grin x

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happytobemrsg · 22/02/2018 07:19

Thanks for the info @AssumeItWasSomethingClever. When I was pregnant with DS I completely gave up coffee which was really hard because the fancy coffee machine at work was yummy. The funny thing is, bring pregnant made me crave tea which I didn't really like before! So I would allow myself the odd cup. Even after pregnancy I enjoy tea. So strange

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RandomUsernameHere · 22/02/2018 09:25

That's so interesting because I'm a tea addict normally but during pregnancy I completely went off all hot drinks. Even the thought of it made me feel sick!

AssumeItWasSomethingClever · 22/02/2018 15:34

You're welcome!
I'm definitely not looking forward to the 10 hour shifts with no coffee to keep me going.
The meeting has made it all seem so real and now I cannot wait!!!

FairyDogMother11 · 22/02/2018 16:32

Hi, can I join? We are both 24, planning on TTC in September 2018 after we get married. We're mostly keeping busy with doing up the house and planning the wedding. We are waiting primarily so I fit in my very expensive dress and so that I'm still able to go on our honeymoon Grin I also have a health condition which means I need my company's go ahead but honestly, it's more about the dress Grin

FairyDogMother11 · 22/02/2018 16:32

*consultant's not company!

BeeKeeping · 22/02/2018 16:46

Hello all,

Can I join please?
Age: 27/30
TTC: #1 (eeeek!)
Waiting until July
Why- DH has always wanted a family but imagined himself in his mid to late 30s before trying. I was in agreement up until we got married in September- I was SO broody right after the wedding- poor DH didn’t know what had happened to me! I’ve spent the last few months off of the pill and charting but using contraception. Waiting has been so so hard for me. Hard on DH too as I’m in tears quite often. We’ve agreed June as a compromise.

Have all you lucky ladies had willing other halfs? If not how did you convince them?!

🐝xx

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happytobemrsg · 22/02/2018 16:54

Hi @BeeKeeping! DH is 10 years older than me so luckily we were broody at the same time. Considering your DH wanted to wait until his late 30s I think you've done pretty well getting him to agree to July!!

Nothing is more important than the dress @FairyDogMother11 Grin

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BeeKeeping · 22/02/2018 19:16

@happytobemrsg yes I should be grateful... I suppose the logic was that I wanted it more than he didn’t want it. And every month feels like a year so I think it is a fair compromise!

mussie · 23/02/2018 08:04

@beekeeping Me and DH got married just before I started a three year university course. I was so broody and really wanted to have a baby while I was on the course, and just drop down a year (which was a pretty common thing to do) but he was dead set against it, and wanted it to be finished before we started. It did really upset me, and we argued about it, but he wouldn't budge. But then his DSis had a baby, and he was so awkward holding him and so uncomfortable that I actually came around to giving him a bit more time.

So now my course is over, and his DSis has since had another baby who he was much better with, and he's a wonderful uncle to them both, so I feel much better about going for it.

So I suppose my advice is not very helpful, except to say he'll probably be a much better and more involved father if babies arrive once you're both ready. I hope next few months fly by for you!

AssumeItWasSomethingClever · 23/02/2018 08:56

@FairyDogMother11 I'm the same! Don't want to be visibly pregnant before the wedding and selfishly, want to be able to drink cocktails on the beach enjoy myself on honeymoon.
@BeeKeeping DH2B isn't broody as such but now just feels like the right time.

FairyDogMother11 · 23/02/2018 17:19

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever yes we're going on a cruise for our honeymoon as well so even if I didn't mind the whole dress thing, there's a limit how late you can sail and it would be my luck it would happen so I wouldn't be able to go haha.

NoseringGirl · 23/02/2018 17:53

My DH was a bit reluctant about having a 3rd. I didn't want to push him into it as it really needed to be something we both wanted to do. I just brought it up occasionally to keep the conversation open. It was only a few weeks ago that the broodiness hit him again and whilst he's still a bit nervous he's excited about the idea now.

mussie · 24/02/2018 11:52

Was in a coffee shop this morning and saw a man cuddling a tiny tiny baby. Can only have been a week or two old. My ovaries nearly exploded. June can't come quickly enough!

dottydally · 24/02/2018 14:53

@mussie I saw a pregnancy announcement on Facebook yesterday and found myself wishing it was me.. we are DIY-ing today though, keeping very busy!

BeeKeeping · 24/02/2018 15:10

@musssie & @dottydally me too! Pregnancy seems everywhere- there’s 5 pregnant women in my office. I’m so keen!

mussie · 24/02/2018 15:35

I do keep thinking about pregnancy announcements. Like, will I want to tell anyone before 12 weeks or not? And for telling my family, I'd really want to tell them in person, but we're scattered across the UK so I'd have to contrive an event to get everyone together, which would be tricky and not very subtle. If I was 12 weeks around Christmas that would be handy 😅 otherwise I have no idea! I guess I can worry about it when I actually have a pregnancy to announce 🙈

dottydally · 24/02/2018 16:47

I also wonder about announcements. I think it's likely I would tell my mum before 12 weeks (although I would love to keep it a surprise until I have a scan photo!) as I'm naturally a worrier and feel I may need her support and to ask lots of stupid questions.

As for other family and friends, I think it'll be 12 weeks. None will be expecting it though I don't think!

Could you tell them separately? I know you said they're scattered but could you maybe tell them over the course of a couple of weeks? Would just have to tell them to keep hush though!