Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

Mine haven't been regular since coming off birth control in 2011. I was diagnosed with pcos when TTC DS#2 which explained it. My last 3 cycles have been 26 days though so really hoping it'll stay that way! Just started charting again so will see if I'm actually ovulating.

I used opks last time and it worked. Think i only used them for 2 cycles and fell preg the second cycle (although that was cycle no. 7 overall)

Are the digital ones worth the money?

Think iv still got some ic ones left

Can I join too please!

Your age/DH age: 30/33

Baby #: This will be #1

When are you TTC: Aim was to start TTC on a ski holiday in March.
Why are you waiting: It was originally because of the ski holiday but I am now humming and harring about whether we should wait until May to avoid a Christmas baby?
Is anyone else avoiding March and April because of this?

What are you doing to keep busy?: Doing A LOT of lurking on Mumsnet and living vicariously through others on the pregnancy pages!
Now we have decided to ttc I am finding it hard not to just go for it now.
I have irregular cycles too so a tiny bit worried it might not be easy for us.

Hi all! Can I join?

I am 21, DFiancé is 26
We will be 22 and 27 when we start TTC.

We will be trying to conceive #1

We are waiting until September to start because that's when we get married. We're having a once in a lifetime honeymoon and I don't want to be feeling queasy!

I'm keeping busy by finishing my masters degree and applying for jobs. Oh and lurking on MN!

Hello!
We were going to start ttc in December but DH lost his job in November. Our DS was 2 in October and we wanted a 3year gap so this would be perfect. I also don’t love my job, so mat leave sooner rather than later would be fab. We found out last week that he has a new job and I’m keen to get going now but.....
I’m nervous of a December baby, I don’t want to be on an understaffed ward and heard some silly stat from a friend about a larger percentage of babies born with life changing birth injuries were born in December. (I do have some anxiety issues, if you couldn’t tell!)
I need to lose 10lbs to be in a healthy bmi.
I have my sisters wedding in America in early December.
Theoretically I should wait until around June to try but it feels so long and the age gap will be much larger than I would like. I’m 34 and DS was conceived fairly swiftly but am aware of time ticking. What would you do?!

Hi Pinka I guess it depends how you would feel about missing the wedding, would your sister be understanding if you were pregnant and couldn't fly? Also (please don't think I'm trying to scare you) some parts of the USA have Zika so it's worth checking.

@FlapJackered I'm avoiding those dates, partly because I already have a NYD baby! I was so worried he was going to be born Christmas Day and I'd miss Christmas with my eldest. I also find the long dark nights with a newborn quite difficult.

@PinkaColada As I said above, DS2 was born NYD. I remember hearing loads of people cheering in another room when the clock struck midnight while I was in labour so there were still a few staff about. It took a little longer to be discharged because it was a bank holiday but it never felt like an unsafe staffing level. My Mother scared me by going on about drunk staff over Christmas and New Year but it definitely wasn't an issue

@Random - we’re close, but I’m not a fan of her fiancée and of them as a couple in general. They’ve chosen to get married there (they moved for his work) and I don’t want to put my life on hold to attend their wedding. I can’t use Zika as an excuse, but wouldn’t want to be very pregnant at their wedding as it’s a v.long flight.

@nosering girl - that sounds quite lovely and festive!

@PinkaColada it was very surreal! First baby born in the birthing centre that year though which was lovely.

My DD is a dec baby and would ideally avoid it again if i can.

Not due to staffing, just a nightmare for presents and parties so close to christmas

Has anyone else just come off the pill? Although we are not trying yet, we decided I should come off it and let my body get back to doing what it should (been on it 8 years now so can't remember what life was like before it). I stopped taking it a couple of weeks ago, been feeling very weird!

Nurse advised me to start taking folic acid now, in case there are any 'accidents' before we officially start trying. Its not a bad idea in any case as I am already used to taking something every day!

I'm hiding on MN about it at the minute though, none of my friends are in 'baby places' in their lives so I don't feel like I can talk to them about it. Some of my closest friends (who would understand) are people I work with, so for obvious reasons I don't want to tell them! I am finding it constantly on my mind though.

I guess I am just looking for some friends on here that might understand!

I am!

I’m itching to start TTC baby number 2 but for several reasons we’re going to wait until at least May. I’ve just turned 30 and DH is 34. DS was 2 on Boxing Day.

The reasons for waiting are:

• We wanted a 3 year age gap
• We don’t want to risk another Christmas baby, and DS was conceived in April (born at 39 weeks)
• Ideally I would like a spring baby, as January is horrible and February is already very busy with my birthday and our anniversary! I don’t think this would matter if we didn’t already have a DS with an awkward birthday
• And the big if, which will dictate whether we start TTC in May or July/August, is that I’m meant to be going on a girls’ holiday early August. I wouldn’t really care if I couldn’t drink, but it would be rubbish to be say 6 or 8 weeks pregnant, feeling crap and not being able to tell anyone.

I was lucky enough to fall pregnant first month with DS, however I’m well aware that I was lucky to have had no issues eg miscarriage etc. I’m not keen on an age gap of more than 3.5 years so feel like we should get on with it at the earliest opportunity.

I’m still on the pill but will be finishing my last pack in a couple of weeks and will use Ovia to track after that, which worked well for me last time.

Good luck everyone!

@dottydally
I came off the pill in October after being on it for 10 years and I had really bad headaches and other horrible symptoms for about 3 months. Now I feel great though. It takes a while for your body to get over it.
My cycle is a bit all over the place though, so hoping it will calm down by May.

It is going to take serious will power not to start trying now!

@FlapJackered oh dear! My skin is so dry and flaky and I've had what feels a bit like very mild period pains since I stopped my 'week break', but no headaches or anything as yet!

I'm desperate to start now. I know it's not the right thing to do! Good luck to you with the wait - my friend just had a Christmas baby and said she found January really miserable. Do you use an app to track things? I've just downloaded ovia but it seems awfully complicated!

@dottydally
Don't worry I am sure it will all settle down soon.
Good luck to you too! That is good to know about your friend's experience - I just need to remember that, particularly after a few glasses of wine, when ttc now seems like a great idea!

I am charting using the Natural Cycles app. You have to pay for it, but so far, so good! I have been on the pill so long that it is quite good to get to know my cycles now. I think you can do a free trial of Natural Cycles - if you do try it and like it let me know as I think you may be able to get some money off if I refer you.

Ooh, finally a conception board that I can join in with!

My age / DH age - 33/35

Ttc - #1

We are waiting to start trying at some as yet undetermined point in the next six months. I have chronic health issues and am trying to get myself in as good a position as possible before ttc. The thought of having a baby when you’re already permanently knackered anyway is mind boggling, so I’m trying to eat better and loose some weight to give myself a head start! My OH has been broody forever, so he’ll be up for cracking on as soon as I am! Ideally I’d wait much longer to start trying, just in case my health gets better, but I’m aware that I’m not in possession of spring chicken status...

To keep busy I’ve been obsessively thinking about when would be the right time to start trying! So, erm, not so much fun. It’s actually really tedious to be constantly second guessing what’s right and whether and when we should go for it. I’ve been thinking about it for so long that I can’t imagine actually making the firm decision!!

@FlapJackered thank you! I will see how it goes. I know the feeling, I have moments where I think 'let's just do it now, it'll be fine' and I have to remind myself I don't just want it to be fine, I want it to be the right time. My OH is happy whenever though so it really is down to me!

My friend's other baby was born in spring and she said she found that a lot easier - better weather to get out, longer days. With that said I have a December birthday and I've always loved it (not sure how my mum felt though).

I am always worried people will say I'm too young, I feel like most people decide to ttc around 30, but for various reasons we wanted to be a little bit younger.

@FairyLightFiend I hope things go well for you! I am also on the 'let's get healthy' kick to try and give things the best chance when we do decide. I have a (completely unfounded) fear that we are going to struggle so doing all I can! I'm pleased to hear I'm not the only one planning, planning when we will try, what the nursery will look like, how I'll spend my maternity leave....

@dottydolly how old are you? I'm 21, 22 when we start ttc.

@Hofty yay! I'm 23 (just) so will still be 23 when ttc. I do feel really young compared the people I know with children, but really old next to my 'same age' friends.

@dottydolly I feel exactly the same! I'm just finishing an MSc and most of the people on my course seem at a totally different life stage to me! I think whether you're ready is much more important than your age. DFiancé and I will both have masters degrees, we have travelled, been on lots of lovely not child friendly holidays, we have a home, and we will be married before we ttc.
We've done enough partying to last a life time. We just feel ready. I can't wait

Ps. Clue app is really good, I've been using it for 18 months (although no signs of my cycles getting any more regular!)

Me - 32/DP - 23

Probably June/July

Waiting because we've just bought a house and are waiting to move, I also like the idea of spending time with DP in new house just us for a few months.

Also I have epilepsy so waiting to see specialist because contraception controls somewhat my seizures along with anti seizure drug so scared to come off it completely

@Hofty it's so nice to hear I am not the only one that feels like there is a big gap between me and my friends! You sound very much like us - we both have very good careers and we own our own house.

We have never been hugely into going out (OH is a little more into it than me, but we are still talking once a month at most!) and spend a lot of time with family and friends. We have done the extravagant holidays in places far too far away/hot for a small person! I saw a few of my school friends recently for a meal and they just sat there saying things like 'why would you want to ruin your social life' 'you'll never go out' 'kids are icky' and I felt like an alien. I think it's so exciting to love someone so much that you want to make something that is half of you both, and we can't wait to watch that little person grow.

I will have a look at the apps, I'm not sure ovia is for me! How irregular are they? I'm only just off the pill so waiting to see what a 'real period' is like 

Welcome @tulip85! It will be really nice to have that time with your DP once you are in your house. When do you think you'll move? Good luck with coming off contraception, hope it goes well for you!

@dottydally so sorry, I've been getting your name wrong! anyway...

I feel so alienated from people my age. DFiancé is 5 years older anyway, and I relate so much more to our friends who are closer to his age than mine. Trying to finish my masters degree is so tedious when I'm surrounded by people I don't relate to, and in my head I'm away in baby land. Sometimes I feel so broody I can barely function

I think it's so exciting to love someone so much that you want to make something that is half of you both, and we can't wait to watch that little person grow.

This. This is so lovely, and puts into words precisely how I feel. Warm fuzzies

I've been off the pill since October 2016, for the last 7 months that I've been tracking with Clue I've had the following cycles (starting with the most recent, working backwards):

35 days
41 days
41 days
55 days (!)
32 days
34 days
40 days

Have I got any hope of conceiving with these cycles?

Are you charting your temps as well @Hofty? I found it helpful when my cycles were irregular to know if/when I'd actually ovulated. I've been using fertility friend since I came off BC back in 2011 and it's interesting to look back on all that data. Particularly from the cycles where I got pregnant.
I also use the Ava app now as well as I have the bracelet so all my data automatically goes into that. I've turned into a massive fertility geek over the last few years

I'm envious of all of you that are starting relatively young. I was 28 when we started TTC and having our babies. I wish I'd done it sooner.