Anyone else waiting to TTC?

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I thought we could keep each other company while we wait!

Your age/DH age: 29/39
Baby #: This will be #2
When are you TTC: I think we should start in June when DS is 2 but we are so broody it might be sooner
Why are you waiting: We are doing some house renovations at the moment & sorting out some stuff financially. Everything seems a bit up in the air & I can only stress about a couple of things at a time. I'm looking forward to life settling down only to have a newborn mess it all up again
What are you doing to keep busy?: I'm project managing house renovations & enjoying one-on-one time with DS before he (hopefully) becomes a big brother. DH & I are having a huge joint birthday party in September for my 30th & his 40th so I'm enjoying planning that!

@dotty, chocolate contains a horrendous amount of sugar! Believe it or not I'm a real sugar freak, I'm so obsessed with avoiding it there are so many things I don't eat due to the amount of sugar in them. But chocolate is the one of the few things I allow myself occasionally, I can't live without it!

That is so exciting! I've also moved my timeline up, now we'll be TTC in August rather than September, it's only moved by a month but I just couldn't wait until September and then realised I didn't have to! We have a holiday booked for August which is the main reason we are waiting, but we've also now started house hunting so I'm hoping we'll be well along in the house buying process by the time our holiday rolls around and when we start TTC I'll be (theoretically!) less stressed knowing we'll be moving into our very own house soon! Unless of course everything buggers up and it takes ages

@Nosering, thanks for the heads up! I don't drink any caffeinated drinks as I don't like them so should be good on that front just eating the occasional bit of choccy

@rollerskaterdata I am often shocked at the sugar content in some things. We are generally trying to eat better, 'in preparation' I suppose. It's the best thing I've found about aldi, things might be no cheaper but are better for you? Like I bought their mince beef with a lower fat % than I would normally get for the same price!

It was really inevitable that it would move. The more time goes on the more sure I am that it's what I want. Still secretly worried it won't work for some reason though August is so close! Exciting news house hunting. What kind of place are you looking for? We were offer to completion in 6 months (long time I know), but we had difficult sellers and the chain was long so I think it can be done a lot quicker. I think we were unusual. Are you first time buyers?

@dotty I know, it really is ridiculous. I don't eat cereals, bread, pasta, rice, dried fruit, etc because of the sugar/carbs (plus I'm so picky again I don't really like them) so feel I cut out most sugar in my day to day diet anyway, but do allow myself some good ol' choccy / ben and jerrys on my 'treat' days . On a slightly different note, someone mentioned up thread that you can now eat runny eggs when pregnant which is a HUGE relief because when I was pregnant with DS the advice was that you shouldn't and they are huge staple in my diet!

I know exactly what you mean, I was "one and done" for quite a while which is the main reason there'll be a bigger gap between DS1 and the new baby than is standard, but the more time goes on the more sure I am too. We're looking for a 3 bed house (4 if we can squeeze the extra room for the same price!) and are first time buyers so it's all new, exciting and terrifying at the same time! We seem to have a great broker though who is really helpful but it is overwhelming looking at good houses/schools/rail and road links/things to do in the area/a nice area with low crime rate etc. I'll just be happy if we're in by Christmas to be honest, that's what we're aiming for. Plus if I get pregnant straight away (of course no way to tell!) I'll be 4 months by the time we move in which gives us a good few months to settle before baby arrives, and if it takes longer to get pregnant/move in it's still not a huge issue and gives us more time anyway

@rollerskaterdata what do you eat day to day? I eat porridge for breakfast but don't really like pasta or bread. Runny eggs are good! They are nice with asparagus and bacon dipped.

What will your age gap be in the end? I'm not sure how many I want, but my pre child self thinks 2. Oh it is super exciting! The stress is 100% worth it. Are houses affordable where you are? I keep imagining my life with a baby, I had never understood why people could be so desperate for a baby, but it's this actual ache inside me now

@dotty, you have literally just described my perfect breakfast! I normally eat 2 runny eggs with ezekiel bread (not your bog standard bread, it's sprouted grains roasted and smushed together rather than processed) or fresh fruit with cottage cheese/lactose free plain yoghurt, lunch is normally a salad or soup and dinner is a meat of some sort with veg of some sort on the side! If I snack I snack on plain popcorn/fruit/cucumber and carrot sticks etc. I try and only treat myself (choccy/ice cream/alcohol) once a week at the weekends but lately been super stressed at work and find myself eating it more now. Neither my skin nor my bowels (sorry TMI!) are thanking me for this though so I'm determined to reign myself back in and start fresh again next week!

Age gap will be at least 4 1/2 years if I got preg straight away so bigger than most I suppose but it is what it is! I've gone from "one and done" to wanting 3 (!) so I think I'll be TTC again soon after having the 2nd - I totally understand what you mean about that ache!! Hubby wants to be done having babies by 30 seeing as we (unintentionally!) started rather young, having had our surprise DS at 23, and I'm inclined to agree simply because I don't want to spend my entire childbearing years having babies lol! We have to leave our area unfortunately as we can't afford the sort of house we want where we are (we live west of London) so we'll be moving further up the country. Thankfully house hunting is sort of keeping my mind of babies, otherwise I don't know how I'd pass the time and keep my sanity

@rollerskaterdata you must be tiny if you eat like that! I completely agree, my belly hates me if I eat badly. Alcohol is the same

4 1/2 years is quite common as people think about number 2 as their first goes to school. 3? That's brave! What makes you want 3? I can't remember but if my maths is right you must be 27? If all goes to plan I will be 25 when we have a little one, which is young but okay. Oh that's a shame. London is ridiculously expensive though. How far up the country are you expecting to go? Babies are all consuming, every spare minute I have is spent looking at baby stuff, prams, car seats and even maternity clothes. Keep talking to me! I am ready to burst

@dottydally, ha ha, not tiny at all! I'm a normal weight now but I was quite overweight a few years ago and was determined to lose it and keep it off!

Yep, I turned 27 this month . I suppose 23 (me) and 25 (you) is young in this day and age to have kids but different strokes for different folks! My son wasn't planned and I would've waited until I was a bit older (just so we could have greater job/financial security and buy a house first) but it didn't work out that way and we made it work anyway! Having DS did put our plans back a bit as the cost of having a child meant it took longer to save for a house but it all worked out in the end, I could not imagine my life without my son now and we've finally reached our savings goal and can now afford to buy our house and TTC another baby this year. I'm one of 4 and my DH is one of 3 so 3 was the number we agreed on when we first got married. I had PND with my son and struggled with the lack of sleep so really thought I couldn't do it again, but now that phase is behind me I've realised just how fast time flies, how precious each stage really is and that I can actually do it even when I thought I couldn't. I love being a mummy, not every minute of every day ha ha but certainly overall. I also come from a huge family and love being surrounded by people I love who love me, you're never lonely! And I know what you mean, I already have a child and am obsessing with having another one lol! I've started stalking watching TWW threads as I love reading people getting their BFP! I can't wait for it to be me!

Our search area is quite broad at the moment as we have family all over the country, we're looking in Cambridgeshire, Northamptonshire and Buckinghamshire mainly. My brain hurts these days!

@rollerskaterdata very well done on the weight loss! I would like to lose a little bit (purely for vanity reasons, my BMI is only 20 so I'm not overweight by any means) but I lack the willpower!

If I didn't wish you a happy birthday, happy birthday! I think it is young by today's standards and I do worry what people will say, but it's the right decision for us. I have a family history of early menopause as well so whilst the clock isn't ticking yet, I don't want to risk it. I'm pleased to say we are both in very good jobs and are homeowners so I feel we have been responsible in getting things in place First! You've done so well to save for a house with a little one - and I'm pleased to hear that you enjoyed it so much you want another, even with PND (which scares the crap out of me). Ha! I am sure it's not all roses but the idea of watching them grow into their own person is priceless.

I have a massive family and can't imagine growing up without everyone. The support and love is, as you say, something else entirely. I am SO pleased I'm not the only one stalking the TWW threads (or the 'line eyes please' threads). How did you feel when you got your BFP with your son? I imagine it might have been a bit different as he wasn't planned. I think I'll cry

That's quite a wide net!! I only ask as Im just on the outskirts of London and wondered if you were nearby, I'm not just nosey . Good that you've got so many choices though!

@dotty, thank you! It took a while but I'm finally happy and healthy, hence why I need to stop the chocolate train LOL!

Thank you! It's great you've got things in place and at 25 I think that's an achievement so well done! My envy at homeowners has subsided now I'm going to be one soon LOL but it was hard, for a little while I thought my life was ruined which of course it wasn't because owning a house is not the be all and end all of living, but having a surprise baby so young that changed our well laid plans was honestly not easy on me! I guess that partly answers your question on how I felt when I got my BFP - and is how I honestly felt at first, but I also very quickly felt love and excitement because I knew I loved that little bean! My husband was speechless for the entire day he was so surprised! This time round I'm very much looking forward to eagerly anticipating poas rather than thinking "ohmygodohmygodohmygod"! I cried, and think I will this time but with slightly different emotions LOL. We both adore our son though, he frequently tells mummy and daddy off for kissing and cuddling him when he's busy playing lol!

No worries! Yes lots of choice is good but also a hindrance because there's so much choice! I'm looking forward to settling on one soon, I'm already tired and we've got lots of travelling around the country viewing houses and checking out areas in the next few weeks sigh...got any tips for me?

Just trying to catch up.

I like Diet Coke but don't really drink tea or coffee. I am fat though and love to eat everything in sight. From chocolate to crisps. Trying really hard with losing weight to help the PCOS.

Dotty, nice you get to move your timeline up a bit!

If we ever get a positive test, I think I would be both extremely happy but also terrified. That's normal right?

@rollerskaterdata how much did you manage to lose/how did you do it?

I used to envy homeowners too. I always thought I'd never be able to. But with 2 of us earning well it was doable (we did have to save like mad for a couple of years, no holidays etc). I imagine it felt like the end of the world as everyone says you should buy First. I think it's a pretty cool thing that you can love someone so much before you've even met them! I try to put the thought of childbirth out of my mind though.. does it hurt as much as they all say?? Oh so cute! He's obviously too cool for cuddles from mummy & daddy 

Lots of recommendations but I might private message as I'm worried it'll be outing! All depends on your budget and how far from London you are prepared to go. You sound pretty flexible though?

@TheOneWithTheBaby how is the weight loss going? @rollerskaterdata and I thoroughly recommend bacon wrapped asparagus in dippy eggs if you want breakfast ideas. Much better than my normal porridge.

I would worry if I wasn't at least a little bit terrified. It's a very daunting thing!! Have faith, you'll get your positive

@dottydally I found doing a relax and breathe for birth class really helpful in managing the pain. It sounds ridiculous (well it did to me anyway) that you could breathe through that level of pain but it really worked. I found that as long as I could stay in control of that, I could cope with the pain. When DS2 was born I got to 9cm dilated without any pain relief (then I had a bit of gas and air). Yes it hurts but it's not like any other pain, it feels productive. I know this all makes me sound like a massive hippy
What I'm trying to say, is that you'll manage it and there are ways to prepare to make it less daunting. Obviously there's loads of drugs available too

Not a fan of asparagus, I know it's healthy but I really don't enjoy it. But I love eggs and bacon.

@dotty happy for you to PM me if you're happy to, don't go out of your way though I don't want to take up your weekend!

I lost 17kg (37 pounds) through diet and exercise. Losing the first couple of kgs was easy but getting the last few off I really had to push myself, eat less, cut out ALL crap and work out hard. It was bloody hard work I'm not even going to lie, I will never be able to eat like I used to lest I put it all back on! It's not easy though, I use food for comfort and when I'm having a particularly rough or stressful time I turn to le chocolat!

My childbirth was...eventful LOL! Got induced at 38 weeks due to reduced movements and my blood pressure skyrocketing so in total was in labour 25 hours. First 21 with just gas and air/tens machine and then when they had to up my oxytocin I was too knackered to keep going without the epidural so I got it...best thing ever . Everyone is terrified, even those doing it for the second or subsequent time but it's true what they say, you 'forget' the pain and honestly having that sweet little baby at the end of it is soooo worth it

CD1 for me today. A little sad because there was a bit of a chance as we hadn't been that careful. Very excited as we're officially, properly TTC now! Also a bit terrified mind...!

Awwww @NoseringGirl you must be so excited to officially TTC! All the best luck on your journey... I hope it’s a short one 🤞🏻

I had two very different labours - with DD I had gas and air and a drug called remifentinil as my labour was induced. I made me feel so loopy I don’t remember a bloody thing (even the conversation that lead to choosing my DD name) However my second labour, which left to progress naturally meant that I managed on gas and air, and while painful felt a much more postive experience as I can remember it all. Honestly think you can’t plan for how you will feel during labour... it’s true your body does take over but everyone copes with pain very differently. I wouldn’t hesitate to have an epidural if I needed it - I don’t think it makes you any less triumphant if you need pain relief.

👋 hope everyone’s having a lovely weekend x

I thought some more about the pregnancy announcement. To tell my DH I wondered whether I could get matching baby and men socks somehow. Something with dinosaurs would be perfect.

Not sure about grandparents though.

Hi ladies 😩

I woke up this morning and someone has broke into our home and stolen my car - it's been found but they still have the keys so I don't really want it back, want to part ex it which means more outgoings aka putting off TTC again.... it sucks when you want something so bad but it just can't happen 🤷🏻‍♀️

@cupcakesandglitter that's awful! I'm so sorry that's happened to you

@cupcakesandglitter Oh that’s awful! Really sorry to hear that. Did they do any damage within your home?

Thanks @NoseringGirl @AssumeItWasSomethingClever not really - came down to find all cupboards and drawers open. They drilled through the back door, took my keys out of my bag and drove away in my car.

I'm so petrified of being in the house but I'm also too scared to leave

Oh no @cupcakesandglitter, how scary! Poor you.

Oh god, that’s awful. There’s nothing worse than feeling like your home isn’t your own anymore!

@cupcakes, I'm so sorry that has happened to you, that is awful! I hope the police catch the who did this. I hope I don't sounds insensitive, why would this stop you TTC? Is it the cost of part ex-ing? xxx