TTC after MC April 07 - Return to the Mother Ship

[popsy76]

Hi Ladies, thought I would just grab the bull by the proverbial horns and get this going. Hope the name is okay. MrsMc I am afraid we will all be thinking of you and your DH (and his light saber) everytime we post

Too many individual posts to go back and answer so I thought I'd start with a positive message for all of us from the March thread and for any MC newbies...

Today is my 1 month MN anniversary and I do not know what I would have done without you all. It is the ability to get on here and "let it all out" that keeps me going. I have been blessed to have found you all and whatever lies in my future - your kindness and advice will stay with me forever.

Big Love and Hip hip hooray for a fabulous new positive thread POPSY xxxx

p.s. Gilly get your arse down to london - we can drink the bars dry of Rose (purely medicinal of course )

Hi Torres.

Thanks for your kind words. The consultant was in fact a she, which made it somehow worse that she was so brusque. She suggested seeing the fertility people at the hospital, and said she' make an appointment, but god knows how long that will take. Who was it you saw at the Homerton? That's my hospital! Maybe I can go straight to him/her.

I'm thinking of asking those nice-sounding people at Zita West what to do. It's weird - I think what I really want is for someone to look after me and tell me what to do. I'm so exhausted with having to think about it myself.

Ellie - with my bloating and enormo-boobs, I'm always scared someone will give me a pat and say 'how's it going'? And then I'd have to kill them.

Hi Everyone. CD25 here....

Basil Good luck with your house move!

nh101 Very funny to read that your DH looked shocked at the prospect of giving up the booze. My family had a "sober rota" for when I was due with DD. But no one wanted the Friday evening slot. Funnily enough is was 9pm Friday evening that DH drove me in to the labour ward. But I had been in labour for 19 hours by then so he had some warning I too am determined not to test until Friday.

Herby V sorry to hear AF is hear. Hope you can make the most of a glass of vino or similar?

Northumberlandlass Welcome. Have you tried preseed - it seems to have worked for some of us. I might try it next month if AF comes. My father is nagging us to another baby and I just think you know we are trying!!!

Torres sorry to hear no bd-ing at crucial time but guilt-free cocktails in the sun sound nice.

Popsy on the subject of booze, when I read you had DT's I thought you meant Dear Twins! Crikey!

Lissie hows things?

Hello everyone else!!

Morning everyone, well I couldn't wait so I did a test this morning. BFN again. Six weeks tomorrow since last period, but not really surprised as the cycle I had when I got PG was seven and a half weeks (after coming off pill). So am just hoping we BD'd on the right night (I suppose there is about a 50% chance now, and last time I got PG was on a Tues and we BD'd on the Sunday so that is a good sign I think).

nh you must be going mental, girl! hang on in there!!

was just posting following on another thread and realised I should have shared it with you lurvely lot:
" the last two times I've got pg (last one ended in m/c and this time am only 4+5 so fingers crossed ) I had a reflexology session around the time of ovulation. The first one was sheer coincidence, the second time I made sure I booked it mid-cycle. They do a lot of work on your ankle where womb and ovary areas are situated.
I know lots of people, inc my DH, pooh-pooh reflexology but I've also used it to induce labour before birth of my DS when I was 6 days over due. My waters broke an hour after the session - now it could have all been placebo effect or a coincidence but I was impressed! "

feel great today, apart from the odd tummy twinge, so obviously am stressing about that ....[hmmm]

Oo I might try that

Ladies hello! Having a crazy, busy day so can?t catch up now but I hope you are all well and I?ll do what I can to catch up later.

Just wanted to let you know that we saw a little gumy bear this morning on the scan with a madly flickering heartbeat which is apparently very strong CRL was 14mm and we are apparently now measuring 7+6 (would be 8 weeks today based on LMP) we were so happy we felt like we can breathe after holding out breaths for so long! We got a little pic too, can?t see a thing really and DH has banned me from showing anyone (he?s embarrassed ) but I know what?s there! Bloods are fine too. More from me later!

MrsMc - that's great, is this your first? When was your MC?

I deffo feel like AF is coming (CD42!) but hopefully I won't be too upset if it does (and will know more about what my body is doing next month)

Hey nh don't have time to type much but wanted to send HUGE hugs - remember I am going through the same so understand how shit it is not only to have an MC but then have your body bugger about and prevent you from getting back PG again. I am keeping mantra that am not PG unless proven otherwise - the alternative is heart break every month .
xxxxxxx

Thats fantastic news MrsMcjr....Iam so pleased for you!!

Thanks Popsy, cramps are getting really strong now, it feels like I'm having a MC all over again after getting my hopes up

nh101 also sending hugs. Hope they aren't AF pains. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

MrsMc so happy to hear about the scan. Gives us all something to strive for...

Hi nh just hold on in there and have a few wines tonight to take your mind off it.
Just had email from a friend asking if better as had been off for MC - told her about MC and she said she had been avoiding asking back then cos she was PG and didn't want to upset me grrrrrrrrrrrrrr (me not her - she is FAB)
i want to punch something
How can you have so much at one minute and then it be snatched away with nothing to show for it excpet a dodgy womb and rollercoaster hormones arghhhhhhhhhhhhh

mrsmcj, so so happy for you honey
NH, keeping everything crossed for you. you must be going nuts!
Popsy, just found out that my lilbro's on-off girlfriend of 8w (this time) is 8w pg. i am NOT pleased! wheres the justice? shes a bitch whos cheated on him 3 times, isnt sure if he's the dad (but he'll stick by her) has 1 dd whose dad is in jail and has never worked in her life. and then there are ladies like us.

hate what ftc has made me into!

I totally sympathise Lissie - I feel so angry when I hear about other people having successful PGs. Even people who I like and are lovely. I don't want to be like this!

How do you cope after everything you have been through?

tbh, i dont think that i, personally do.

i avoid people i know who've just had babies and glare at pregnant women i see in the street. but i think that when you've lost a baby then the best you can hope for is just to muddle thru and talk to women who've experienced the same. no-one else i know in RL has miscarried or had an ep, which makes me feel like a bit of a freak sometimes tbh

Hi Everyone,

First of all im not using my real but ive got to tell you all my news before i burt.

IM PREGNANT!!

Ive changed my name as last time (had mc) i told everyone far too early and im just far too scared to tell anyone just yet, this time. Plus my mum comes on here now and again and i dont want her to know just yet.

Ive been really naughty and did my 1t test on CD21. I got a very, very fain positive. Again on CD24 which was darker and today on CD26 and its even darker.
Definatly a BFP!!

I am so scared of having another MC. Im absolutly terrified but trying to remain positive. I'll probably have a scan at 6w(ish) as ive also had a EP in the past.

I know you dont know who i am but please, please keep your fingers crossed for me. I am a regular on this thread and promise that i will tell you who i am soon but just not yet.xx

Well we're all freaks here then!
Hurray MrsMc! Was so excited to hear about your little gummy bear being a lively one is lovely cheery news

Sorry you're feeling down nh - have a virtual glass of wine xxx

Ovulation calender says I'm fertile tonight so am going home in a bit to jump me fella and hope he forgets the condoms

Crossed threads there - wonderful news harveysaunt! Am so excited for you! (And dying to know who you are). In meantime have everything crossed xxxx

That's great harveysaunt! I am so pleased for you. Everything will work out just fine for you this time. Last time was just your body having a practice run.

I hope harvey is not really you nephew's name or your mum will clock you very easily

Hello all! where do I start - I've onle been on the missing list for a few days and it has taken me ages to read through.

Mrsmc - thats great news!! It shows everything is fine and dandy, keep well!!

nh101 - good luck!

Popsy - glad you enjoyed the wedding , maybe a good blow out was just what was needed to bring you luck soon .

Herby - sorry to hear of your bad experience, just when you think there is a way forward. Can you get a second opinion? Hope you are OK!

Harveys aunt! Congratulations!

EllieG - hope its your lucky night....

Everyone else - hope you are doing well x

CD 21 here for me, I'm telling myself there is no chance this month as dh was ill, and then we had 2 big arguments this month, so ... maybe next month. Having said that, I have quite a short cycle so I can't but help symptom spot, and then slap my own wrists and think of a logical reason for my so called symptom.

Ladies what a chatty bunch, it took me ages to catch up!

Thank you all for your lovely thoughts for me - one of my main reasons for posting that news here is to give you all hope I hope you don't think I am flaunting it I just know so well how you all feel and I still find it so hard to be positive and to think I will actually gain a baby from this - that was the weirdest thing about today - it was the first time I let myself think of the beanie as a baby, so different from last time, I haven't really bonded at all yet, I just didn't dare but now I'll try to - I thin beanie is blue this time

Gilly - how are all your plans going?

EllieG - sounds like the wine & slagging off session with Mum was just what you needed

Lissie hon - any news from you? how did it go with the specialist? x

Hello again Beckle

Wheelybug - I hope a BFP creeps up on you when you are busy thinking about other things!

Hello Spugs and Winky

Popsy - sounded like you had a well earnt and deserved blow out at the wedding!

Basil - how exciting about the new place! no heavy boxes now!

NH101 - sending you a hug, sounds like you need one this will be my first child if it all works out. I was lucky, I got my BFP 10 weeks to the day from my MC but it did take me 8 cycles to get pg the first time (I blame the pill)

Herby - hugs for you too, so sorry about AF and the consultant's lack of empathy I hope someone clever comes up with a plan for you

Northuberlandlass - you are in the right hands to be cared for here this thread was my lifeline after my MC. I am so sorry for your loss and the pressure of time that you are feeling - would it make you feel better to talk it through with DH and let him know how that time limit puts more stress on you?

Iwillbe [smil] do you know that after a long wait after her MC another mumsnetter with a similar name to yours got her BFP recently - wishing the same for you.

Torres - sorry to hear you both felt ill all weekend!

Hello Mumto3girls - thank you for your wishes how are you hon?

Harveysaunt - many, many congratulations! praying for a very strong and healthy one for you hang in there, take each day as it comes. CAT me if you want to chat. I think I know who you are!

Hey Kensgirl

been reading avidly but never sem to get the chance to ctach up with yu all properly. sorry. thinking of you all though.

well, it's cd 29 today. normally 30 day cycle so am expecting af on thurs ish.

not convinced i won't have a mega long cycle though. although i have had 2 afs since m/c very short cycles, so as this is looking normal length there is hope. pessimistic mood maybe?!

got achey boobs, been having strange cramps and back ache for a few days, and have a bit of cm - can't remember if it is normal to have cm at this time or nor!?!?

trying not to get hopes up but also keep allowing myself to hope. will deffo test on thurs or fri if no af cos i'm out for a meal on fri night (mums from school) and i want to know if i can have a glass of wine if i want to.

congrats harveysaunt

mrs mcj. twas interesting. i will find the thread i started on it. doc was a knob!

here it is!

alittlebitshy, i know how frustrating it is sweetheart. hope the witch stays away!