TTC after MC April 07 - Return to the Mother Ship

[popsy76]

Hi Ladies, thought I would just grab the bull by the proverbial horns and get this going. Hope the name is okay. MrsMc I am afraid we will all be thinking of you and your DH (and his light saber) everytime we post

Too many individual posts to go back and answer so I thought I'd start with a positive message for all of us from the March thread and for any MC newbies...

Today is my 1 month MN anniversary and I do not know what I would have done without you all. It is the ability to get on here and "let it all out" that keeps me going. I have been blessed to have found you all and whatever lies in my future - your kindness and advice will stay with me forever.

Big Love and Hip hip hooray for a fabulous new positive thread POPSY xxxx

p.s. Gilly get your arse down to london - we can drink the bars dry of Rose (purely medicinal of course )

how dare he work away at the time you need him ()?

before the m/c i was on a 30 day cycle so was ovulating pretty late on (i think). what's the betting my body throws something at me to baffle me this month?

Well sounds like we are at same point (give or take a few days). Let's hope is that we are bothing having fabulous OV (you whenever, me not til Sunday pm to give swimmers a chance) and are on the PG threads asap. I feel weird when think about moving threads - don't know if will want/be able to?

He had to cross an ocean to escape your impregnation plot!

mmm - i don't think i'll go over to antenatal as soon next time (thinking positive). Not decided when i'd test either.

ooh decisions.

of course, first i have to get to the correct time of the month in order to even have a chance at success lol.

HI All

I'm still here, thanks for asking after me Torres. TBH, still trying to drag myself out of the pit of despair I found myself in last week (probably not helped by having a horrid cold, dd not sleeping since having moved into new bedroom and dh working till early hours). So, have been trying to keep myself off ttc threads. I miss you all and the chats but thought I'd try and not think about it too much (HA HA HA). So, I'm still around and still lurking to see how you're all doing bu trying not to think too much abuot own situation as I really feel I might begin to crack up. DH really got it the other night when he made a joke out of telling me another of our friends was pregnant (with no3) - I know he didn't know how to tell me and thought it was best to make light of it but he soon found out that was NOT the best way to tell me. I have to through 3 out of my 4 friends due this month (1 had twins and was desperate for at least 1 girl, having had a boy already so we were all dreading they were both going to be boys (which sounds terrible I know) and she had a boy and a girl) - 1 more to go....

Littlebitshy (I read that too as littlebitwhingey and thought it was a bit harsh !) - I get odd pains now at end of AF and last month got them on CD10 too. It feels more like my ovaries than AF and when I mentioned it to my doctor she said it was to do with all the follicles still lurking which didn't make eggs so basically hormonal.

Somebody (can't find who now - sorry) asked about cycles post miscarriage where you don't ovulate (anov...whatsit). I think I am having a fair few cycles when I don't - am not certain but have had cycles where I haven't got a positive OPK and haven't got OV pains (although not sure if I only get these one side or not). However, definitely OV last cycle (When they carried out tests to check - of course) but did get pains and my AF was lighter and earlier than the cycles where I think I didn't which would support my theory. Obviously what I don't know is whether this was the case before m/c and was just v. lucky conceiving dd and pg2 easily.

Anyway, positive vibes to all (Popsy - love the photo story - will be carrying on lurking to see whether dh got it or not). Congrats to KatyH !

Blimey, I pop off to the shops to get some more chocolate and tonic for my gin and you lot have been gassing away!

Hi wheely- glad you dropped in, I was worrying about you. So sorry you are having such a horrible time and that you have so much on your plate. It's so easy for people to tell you to relax and not think about ttc but I know I haven't been able to and having to deal with pg and birth announcements just rubs it in doesn't it? Is the doctor going to check you next month to see if you're ovulating?

popsy- I also thought you said alittlebit whingey and thought maybe you had started on the rose a little earlier today . Still laughing at your 'proximal hamming', is that the same as bingo wings? I think I will adopt that description for my arms, sounds much more scientific than plain lardiness.

Basil- I am very impressed by your post shag acrobatics. Do you think you'll progress to headstand this cycle?

well the gin is certainly helping the period pain but DH isn't due back for a couple of hours. I fear I might resemble Sue Ellen by the time he gets back!

Torres - I understand popping out for the choc but why the tonic - just slug it down neat .

Didn't mean to be so whingey about everything - was just trying to explain why everything feels quite so bad at the mo. On a more positive note - my cold is almost finished, dd did sleep better last night so hopefully she's getting used to being in a new room and dh is on his way home - almost unheard of him to be home before dd goes to bed. If only I could get up the spout this month everything would be fine and dandy .

The doctor is going to check ovulation again - luckily its been sort of left up to me when so I will wait and see if I get OV pains and do it next time I don't. I have been very lucky with the gp so far (although I see a young female who I saw first when she was just on a 2 year placement at my surgery. She has left unforetunately but keeps coming back as a locum on the days I make an appointment which is very fortunate !) .

I also meant to add my stats to those being collected as no doubt I will still be popping in and out.

1 DD - 2.4 conceived 3rd month of trying.

got pg a month before we started trying (if that makes sense - we stopped using protection but weren't 'trying')

complete m/c end of July 06 at 7 weeks.

TTC ever since.

oh yes - stats

i'm 27 (28 this year)
dd is 4 (tomorrow). she was a happy surprise (honeymoon )
ttc 6 months now- bfp in march, m/c at 5+2 - not ttc since m/c until now, so i suppose not ttc for 6 months, rather started ttc 6 months ago with break .lol. confusing?
oh - came off depo in october, so getitng bfp 5 months after that is pretty good going!!!

saw my neice today. she's 2w. i want one so badly, and its getting even worse. the 27th is the anniversary of my 4th mc. ever feel like every month theres a link to one of my failed pg's.

sorry to bring everyone down

I've missed all the chat today! Wish I could MN at work but I would definitely get the sack, especially if IT got wind of Popsy's escapades I'm still laughing at the 'loose ring' comment. Last week I went to the jewellers to ask to get my ring cleaned (engagement that is) but couldn't say it for laughing - got some strange looks!

Good to hear from you wheely, stick in there petal

nh101, got the BFP 13dpo.

Torres, would thoroughly recommend the CBFM but then I am a high octane control freak. I don't feel so ashamed of my extreme ttc strategy now as it seems to have worked after 1 month of putting it into practice (touch wood) just need to wait to see if the bean has a fully formed head and brain now (just a small detail). V impressed with the shoulder stands too Basil, although slightly disturbed at the thought of one of my childhood heroes partaking in such debauched behaviour! (incidentally Basil, where are you in Scotland?)

Hi Lissie, you're not bringing us down, just verbalising what we all feel on a daily basis. For what it's worth, I haven't even seen my new niece yet but still broke down in Mothercare the other day when buying her a present

Popsy - any news on the text?

Must get my computer set up at home. Am missing out on chat and I don't like it.

Morning lurvely laydees: CD15 here so things are hotting up in the BB House
How sad am I - am sorting things out for our move next week and decided to take a load of CDs to charity shop. Was just about to put a carrier bag stuffed full of DH's ancient crappity Dee-Lite and Womack and Womack albums (he is 8 years older than me I hasten to add... in car and then thought "Eek! What if he gets really cross with me and won't bonk me tonight?!!" So rang him to check and yup, guess what, the CDs stay if I want any lovin'
Tough call actually....

Was also listening to my old Caberet soundtrack (yes yes am equally sad as DH) and sang along with Liza M. to following very loudly:
"Well all the odds are there in my favour
Something's bound to begin
It's got to happen, happen sometime
Maybe this time I'll win"

EWCM seems to be arriving - huzzah!

lissielou Biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig hug

I'm not sure whether the pay-off is worth it for keeping the womack!
How you doing today lissielou?

bit better today. was a bit tipsy last night and seeing ruby upset me.

still, theres always this month!

Morning Chicks (feeling all Grease today)
Just in at work after fab morning having hair done (god I love my job...sometimes)

Torres Have been laughing about you being Sue Ellen ever since yesterday - I want to be in Dallas too but can only think of Crystal and the poison midget - what was bobbys wife called arghhh. Oh yeah I could be the really nice Momma (bollocks can't remember her name either - Mrs Ewing ).

I was at work really late with the publich thingy - was fab but totally knoackered - ended up going to bed at midnight with a cup of tea and a tombola of minstrels/maltesers and peanut M & Ms (that were meant to be for my fellow workers but they were all too full of fish and chips)...hmm Hubster better not go away too often cos it'll be more Vanessa than Mrs Ewing!

littlebitbusywithkidsparty hope you are having a great birthday day - I am imagining you surrounded by toys and mini sausage rolls - you should invite Sue Ellen (Torres) over to liven up the party - always worked for my mum and her friends (Mrs Gin and Miss Tonic) ha ha

KatyHaemorrhoids (had to look up spelling of that) Have been snickering at your ring-based story - god there is so much mileage in this - if we were that debased ha ha

Basil Whats wrong with Womack and Womack...actaully the crime is so much worse as he owns it and not you - he defo "owes you one" - hope he paid up last night?

Nothing from Mr Popsy - gonna grab the bull by the proverbials...back in a bit
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Hey lovelylissielou Chin up chuck - I am always hyper emotional with booze - the mereset sniff sets me off - either tears or hatred...is why I have to watch how much I have eek!

The good thing is that the body replenishes itself everytime - so really there is 2 weeks of excitement (will I won't I) and 2 weeks of nervousness (am I aren't I?) - but al least you know each time the slate is wiped clean and you can have another go

I have been feeling happy mixed with a sweet sadness today. I remember feeling this about 6 months after dad died - a kind of letting go of the grief and allowing myself to be on the other side of the horrid hill. Not back to where I was B-MC but definitely not in the pit that is MC (does that sound really wanky? Yes it does - sorry - can't quite say what I mean)

Anyway big Love to you Lissie!!

thanks popsy. going on hol early so will hopefully be semi knocked up by the time we get home!

Afternoon all,

Well I truly am sue ellen today. I have a stonking hangover, big hair and probably mascara all over my face (have left the shoulder pads at home though)

popsy - did you go for a 'good' sandy hair do or a 'bad' sandy one?
The poision midget was Lucy I think and Bobbie's wife was pam- but he also married priscilla presley i think, but I can't remember her character's name. The nice momma was miss ellie. Do you really want to be her?? She had pearls round her neck not on her undies!! I can't believe you haven't heard from DH since that text!!

lissie so sorry to hear you are down hon, it must be such a struggle seeing your little niece. When are you off on hols? Hopefully your sand dune sex will be lucky!

katyh your extreme ttc plan worked so not too extreme in my opinion! thanks for the tips.

Basil womack and womack? I think he owes you more than one session! Laughing at your cabaret soundtrack- do you have a liza costume? Isn't there a song with the lyrics 'two ladies and just one man'?!!

Don't worry - is good hair (or at least i hope so... )
Only wanted to be Ellie as could remeber her - maybe I'll be pam - she was fabulously thin with big hair...well that's half of it covered
Just had one of those "i'm off to have a baby" emails from colleague
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Grrrrr indeed popsy. How annoying!

I want to be Miss Ellie! (Apart from being old and wearing pearls that is).

Not that I have any objections to pearls, it's just since I ditched the rich ex have no spare cash as current squeeze is utterly lovely but penniless. Bless him.

[MrsMcJnr sees length of posts to catch up on and sighs ? bloody work, I?m getting behind on here! ]

Ladies, I will catch up, I just wanted to share something quickly first. After my MC all I could think about was being pregnant again, I thought it would take away the pain of the MC or at least make it easier to deal with. Now that I am pregnant again, and petrified as a result of my experience, I am so glad that I didn?t get pregnant straight away. As it is, it feels like yesterday that I was reading the books and seeing the changes in my body last time and I don?t think I would have been able to handle all the emotions that is stirring up in me before now. It is really hard believing that this is a second chance and that lightening shouldn?t strike again sometimes I confuse it with the first pregnancy. I hope that that makes some sense?

Sorry to crash everyone - MrsMcJnr - just saw your news - HUGE congratulations and hope all goes well for you - do you have a due date yet or is it a bit early for all that. Fingers crossed for you...