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TTC #1 - 8 or more cycles

177 replies

juneybean · 17/01/2018 22:45

Hoping to find some lovely people who are in the same boat.

I've just failed cycle 9 onto cycle 10 and trying for number 1.

For the record I use OPK and temp - not that it helps!

This doesn't include the two private IUI and three natural cycles I tried in 2014 :(

Any one else struggling to conceive number 1??

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Miserablemouse · 23/02/2018 18:05

squidge that’s good! I’m going back to Yoga too I think (if I can force myself) as definitely need some time to relax that isn’t spent thinking about work or babies!

thisisouryr I agree, feeling a bit more positive lately so maybe it is the start of spring creeping in and improving all our moods!

Lu we can virtual slap each other!

mrsjones eek fingers crossed it’s pregnancy cramping not Aunt Flo cramping! You’re not out until she arrives!

LillyLeaf · 24/02/2018 19:50

Not feeling too hopeful this cycle, getting my usual light cramps at 9dpo. DP needs to do another SA then we'll be referred. Never thought it would come to this. Sorry I'm feeling a bit moany tonight.

thisisouryrfx18 · 24/02/2018 21:44

Any news Mrsjones17 i need sum gd news lol its fine to feel down LillyLeaf thats why we all come here to vent try and keep ur chin upFlowers

Mrsjones17 · 25/02/2018 14:36

Nope not good news! Spotting and cramping which will invariably lead to AF! FFS onto cycle 16

LillyLeaf · 25/02/2018 14:39

@Mrsjones17 I'm sorry, it's so crap.

Miserablemouse · 26/02/2018 08:29

Sorry for the af and bad news mrsjones and lilly Flowers Wine

It is crap and you’re allowed to be moany and grumpy about it.

Mrsjones17 · 26/02/2018 09:18

Full AF started yesterday. Managed to get in at doctors today for day 2 bloods so at least that’s something!

LillyLeaf · 26/02/2018 10:37

That's good Mrsjones17 at least you might feel like you're doing something.

Still having mild cramps last night and today, I'm 11dpo. AF expected tomorrow but it's not stopping me googling 'cramps at 11dpo BFP', need to keep myself busy today.

Anyone else close to testing?

Miserablemouse · 26/02/2018 11:11

Oh that's good Mrsjones, at least it means something productive comes from the pain that is AF! Hopefully they won't find anything unusual. Are you going for day 21(ish) bloods this cycle too?

Fingers crossed Lilly... it's so cruel that pre AF sysmptoms are the same as early pregnancy. If you feel daft for googling 'cramps at 11dpo' you can laugh at me - not only did I google '7po pregnancy test stats' this morning but I also tested Blush what a moron! Only an IC but for goodness sake. 7 dpo. WHY!

If AF is due tomorrow will you test in the morning or just wait to see if it arrives?

Mrsjones17 · 26/02/2018 11:21

@miserablemouse I’ve had day 21 done a while ago and all came back fine. I’m thinking it could be problem with DH 😬

Miserablemouse · 26/02/2018 11:25

Ahhh okay. Has he been referred for SA or anything yet?

LillyLeaf · 26/02/2018 11:29

@Miserablemouse I tend not to test as my luteal phase is pretty short at 11days so AF gets me before I can test anyway. I've only tested once in 10 cycles and got to 14dpo, BFN of course. I've had 2 FRERs in the cupboard for months.

Mrsjones17 · 26/02/2018 11:38

Yep he’s been referred. Has to hand it in in two weeks.

thisisouryrfx18 · 26/02/2018 18:57

Sorry whats SA?..keep us posted lillyleaf ive got everything crossed for u. I hope u get answers soon mrsjones17.Miserablemouse whens af due when can u test?

Mrsjones17 · 26/02/2018 19:30

SA = sperm anaylsis

Miserablemouse · 27/02/2018 09:02

Ahhh okay Mrsjones - I guess it's tricky isn't it as obviously you don't want anything to be wrong, but then if something is picked up at his SA or any other tests that can be treated easily then I suppose it's better than just being unexplained. We're not at that stage just yet luckily but it must be stressful for you. I hope you get some answers (or even better a BFP!) soon.

I hope AF hasn't arrived this morning Lilly, keep us posted! Will have fingers crossed for you.

How long have you got left to AF/testing thisisouryear?

I'm 8dpo today and tested today and yesterday because I'm an idiot. Both BFN naturally because a) I'm not going to be pregnant and b) even if I was it'd be far too early. Trying to have a word with myself and not test again until at least the weekend!

thisisouryrfx18 · 27/02/2018 18:14

mrsjones17 Thanks fot it would sumthin to do with sperm but fot i better check i hope u finally get sum answers my heart honestly goes out to u x try and stay positive i know its hard but at least tests should give u sum answers lillyleaf did af arrive? Miserablemouse try and wait till wkend i always do the same then think why its just the waitin seems soo bloody long im only on cd27 of my normal 42day cycle so im not due af until 15th march! Soo sick of the waitAngry

SqidgeBum · 27/02/2018 18:24

thisisouryefx18 I feel your pain. I have a 32 - 36 day cycle, currently on day 10. My AF is (approx) due the day after my birthday so I am going to try not to test until my birthday. It will go one way or another I suppose. The desire to test is always so hard though! Long cycles are the worst. It just feels like a lifetime.

LillyLeaf · 27/02/2018 19:37

No AF yet but I had terrible cramps at 4am this morning that woke me up, cramps have been on and off all day, I guessing AF will arrive tonight or tomorrow. Hopefully the cramps will stay away while I sleep.

@SqidgeBum I don't have a desire to test but have a Google habit. Today I've been googling 'severe AF pain BFP?' what is wrong with me!

Miserablemouse · 27/02/2018 20:57

Also a long cycler! That wait before ovulation is worse than the tww skmetimes I’m sure. CD35 of 41 now so at least I’m on the home stretch!

LillyLeaf · 27/02/2018 21:04

@Miserablemouse I'm not sure I could cope with long cycles, I'm quite impatient.

thisisouryrfx18 · 28/02/2018 07:41

Hi sqidgebum and miserablemouse at least someone understands i used to think when i was younger im lucky i dnt have my period as often as everyone else i know if only i knew lol should try n bloody educate girls at school about their bodies i didnt know anything about ovulation etc until ttc..neway anyone got nice plans for the weekend?

LillyLeaf · 28/02/2018 09:12

AF got me this morning with cramps at 5am again so another day of feeling crap and tired at work. Struggling to be hopefully and fearful of IVF.

Miserablemouse · 28/02/2018 09:27

Oh Lilly that's rubbish, so sorry AF got you. Be kind to yourself.
Is IVF the next step for you or would you need further investigations before? I hope you have a nice weekend planned and can take some time for self care.

9dpo here today and another BFN because I can't help weeing on things and making myself feel worse even when I know it would be too early anyway.

LuItaliana · 28/02/2018 10:28

Miserablemouse me too! I POAS this morning and BFN of course because its too bloody early! What is wrong with me? I know its too early & it will put me in a bad mood all day but I just can't help myself Blush