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TTC #1 - 8 or more cycles

177 replies

juneybean · 17/01/2018 22:45

Hoping to find some lovely people who are in the same boat.

I've just failed cycle 9 onto cycle 10 and trying for number 1.

For the record I use OPK and temp - not that it helps!

This doesn't include the two private IUI and three natural cycles I tried in 2014 :(

Any one else struggling to conceive number 1??

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HoldTightPretendItsAPlan · 22/01/2018 09:51

Hi, can I join? I am...

TTC #1
Cycle #8 (month 11), MC in Sept & Nov
Age 28
Cycle day 13

Since coming off the pill I have had quite long cycles, so this cycle I've started trying agnus castus to see if that makes any difference. I'm also necking grapefruit juice like its gin.

Merrz · 22/01/2018 11:13

Hi, can i join too?

TTC#1
Cycle 9 (approaching 11 months since stopped the pill)
Age 29
CD 27 of 30 pretty sure i'm out this month though Sad

Starting to feel pretty fed up, suspect male fertility issues but waiting until 12 month mark to go see GP

Original poster
juneybean · 22/01/2018 13:46

Welcome all!

Sorry kats for AF!

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LovePinaColada · 22/01/2018 14:46

Cycle Day 15 here, like a crazy lady doing OPK's and on a mission to catch the positive. Wish me luck!

MrsRyan15 · 03/02/2018 12:53

Hi all

TTC#1
Cycle 10
Age 36
CD 11

Have made a GP appointment for next week as I’m starting to worry that my age is problem. But positive OPK today so trying to remain optimistic!!

LuItaliana · 05/02/2018 10:46

How is everyone getting on? I just got AF so I'm out this month Sad struggling to stay positive today

HoldTightPretendItsAPlan · 13/02/2018 09:25

Me too @LuItaliana. AF arrived yesterday, so I'm on to cycle 9 and nearly at the 1 year mark, finding it mentally exhausting. How are you doing now?

Miserablemouse · 13/02/2018 10:24

Can I join too please ladies?

TTC#1
Cycle 10 (been off the pill 11 months, tracking cycles for 10 cycles, taken a more focused approach for 6 cycles as naively thought not using contraception would mean it just magically happened - ha!)
Age 26
CD21 but don't think I've ovulated yet...

Echo what so many of you have said about feeling totally mentally exhausted. Best friend is pregnant and I am helping plan her baby shower for April. It's a first month trying honeymoon baby and I'm so excited for her but so, so jealous.

How is everyone doing today?

Merrz · 13/02/2018 10:42

I'm struggling with the thought of hitting the 1 year mark Sad
CD 13 for me, i just booked a holiday for summer, put off making any plans last year because i though i'd be pregnant but this year i'm just trying to live normal life, maybe if i stop thinking it's going to happen it will Confused

Highwater · 13/02/2018 10:59

Hi can I join?

TTC#1
Cycle 8 (but 11 months as my cycles are c.50 days!)
Age 31
CD 3

I completely agree with the mental exhaustion and there are baby bombs everywhere which makes it so hard to "relax"! I am drinking grapefruit juice and doing acupuncture - I'll try anything! @merrz I am also struggling with the idea of hitting the 1 year mark, I feel like life has been on hold waiting for a BFP.....

Merrz · 13/02/2018 11:40

Highwater will you let me know how you get on with the acupuncture, i'm thinking about giving it a try.
Oh definitely, i can't get over how many friends/family members i know having babies this year. Literally the whole of 2017 was consumed with TTC for me, we didn't have a holiday because thought we should save our £ for 'the baby' I made excuses for nights out/events because i kept thinking 'oh but i might be pregnant by then' so i'm really trying to put it to the back of my mind a little now, easier said then done though!!

Presh12345 · 13/02/2018 11:52

Ttc #1
Age 39
MMC in June 2017
Been trying since
Just been diagnosed with Graves disease.
Ready to give up

Miserablemouse · 13/02/2018 11:55

Merrz that's a good idea. I am going to try and follow your advice too.
We are half planning either:

  • a few days away in late Spring but I keep putting off booking flights because 'what if I'm pregnant and get really bad sickness and don't want to go' and/or
  • a few days away in early Autumn but that gets put off because 'what if I magically get pregnant THIS MONTH I'd be too heavily pregnant to fly!'

It's all nonsense. Gonna force myself to at least book the spring trip this week as it will be something nice to look forward to (and hey, if it's sod's law that I am pregnant and sick the whole trip then that's no bad thing)

Imnotposhjustquaint · 13/02/2018 13:49

TTC #2
Cycle #9
Age: 24

Have a good feeling about this month that I haven’t had with the others so fingers crossed.

LuItaliana · 13/02/2018 13:53

I feel a bit better now thanks @HoldTightPretendItsAPlan I'm coming up to ovulation so just focusing on that really. I know what you mean about the mental exhaustion though I am literally sick of thinking about it all the time!
@Merrz @Highwater If it helps I got my BFP after 7 weeks of acupuncture, sadly it ended in MMC but I'm still doing it hoping it will work twice, I also find it helps me with the stress of TTC!

SqidgeBum · 13/02/2018 16:55

Cycle: 8
Age: 26
TTC #1

I am in a similar position. AF due at the weekend. Trying not to overthink everything ..... but I have taken 6 tests already, all negative naturally, despite having sore boobs, being knackered, crying randomly and unexplained pink and brown spotting yesterday. Longest wait ever. :-( Fingers crossed for us all.

Highwater · 13/02/2018 22:56

@merrz I've been having acupuncture for 6 weeks, obviously it's not done the trick yet but I do find it relaxing and I like knowing that I'm doing something. Plus it's only been one cycle so I'll keep going for a while...I completely agree that TTC consumed 2017 and I need to start making plans again - it's just so hard!

LillyLeaf · 13/02/2018 23:32

Hi, can I join...

TTC #1
Cycle 10 (11 really but discounted a cycle due a work trip would have made it unlikely to have conceived that month)
Age:35
Cd 11

Doing opks and bbt. Feeling like it's not going to happen naturally. GP will refer us once we've completed some tests.

I came off the pill a year ago but didn't start TTC until May, I had some short cycles at the beginning but seem to have settled now. Good luck everyone.

Lots of pregnant women at work and also a close friend, it's getting hard.

Highwater · 14/02/2018 07:24

Hi @lillyleaf! It's so hard when everyone around you is getting pregnant, all my friends seem to go on about how they got pregnant first time! Ugh! What tests have you had? I'm going to book my GP appointment in March which will be the one year mark...

LillyLeaf · 14/02/2018 09:03

Hi @highwater I had a private scan part of a 'couples fertility check' and a blood test to check egg reserve. They found a polyp which I'm getting removed, the fertility clinic said it 'may' get in the way of the egg implanting but my doctor didn't think it was a problem. I had 21 day bloods done last year and recently had hiv/blood count which they need before I'm referred, so lots of tests before even going to see a NHS fertility clinic. Not sure what's wrong with us.

In FW now and just getting on with it but not feeling hopeful.

Does anyone not take pregnancy tests and just wait for af? I do, but I google everything little thing!

SqidgeBum · 14/02/2018 09:09

Hi lilyleaf. I feel your pain of being surrounded by pregnant women. I have one colleague in work pregnant, all the women I work with have kids, and my sister in law announced her pregnancy at Christmas after saying 'I don't want kids' for ten years and getting pregnant 'the first time'. Getting pregnant is 'easy' apparently and we all just need to 'relax'.

To cope, I say the word 'fate' to myself a lot. I think there is a little baby in the future for me, one that's perfect for me, and it's my fate to have it and just wait for it. My friend also made me a fertility talisman. She says it won't work (obviously) but she made it for me to remind me there is always hope. It's all a mental thing. Our time will come, and when it does, it will be right for us.

Highwater · 14/02/2018 11:00

#SqidgeBum that's such a positive way of looking at it. I will try some of your positivity this month!

LillyLeaf · 14/02/2018 11:15

@SqidgeBum that's a great way of looking at it. I go between feeling really positive and thinking it will be fine and that it's not even been a year yet, that most get pregnant within a year then it all goes wrong and I have a massive panic and feel down. More positivity!

Merrz · 14/02/2018 11:33

SqidgeBum that's a really nice way to look at it, i'm trying to think more positive now too.
EVERYONE around me also seems to be pregnant atm or has young babies and i feel like it is making me a bit bitter Confused Even my bloody grandmother commented that everyone is having family apart from me!!!
Highwater excuse my ignorance, what type of acupuncture is it? Is there a particular fertility one or just general acupuncture?

Miserablemouse · 14/02/2018 11:47

That's a really nice approach Squidge - I'll also try and take that positivity on board!

Lilly I feel like that too. I have depression so my mood can be very up and down between days anyway, but it's mad how one day you can feel so positive and convinced it'll happen this month, and then the next day it's back to doom and gloom.