Where there’s a Yam, there’s a way

[Bubblegum89]

Thread numero four-o.

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shall not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shall not be offended by strong language

• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shall not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if they do so.

Welcome and welcome. We’re all very nice and friendly despite being horrible bitter old cows ☺️

Hats off to all you ladies doing OPKs.... trying to decipher if it was getting darker or not would drive me up the wall!

@Milk I’ve been on thyroid medication for a couple of months now. No noticeable difference yet but I’ve got my second set of bloods for it in a few weeks so we’ll see if they’ve made a difference.

Ah. Does look a tidge darker Bubblegum. I still think you should do a hpt, if only to stop you wondering.

Flo arrived for me today. A whole week late. I'm getting fed up of my cycles being all over the place. I don't think DH is entirely thrilled about the idea of EOD dtd again. He actually said "Oh a week off" earlier which hurt my feelings as it's not my fault I have irregular cycles.

I'm going to try really hard and shift some weight. I've got an appointment with my gp to discuss my cycles on Tuesday. I will be cd4 by then, what's the latest cd that I could have hormone tests? Cd 5?

FW here. Trying to dtd more. OH said this morning he feels like a robot- a sperm robot. I sense the romance of TTC has worn off for him too!

Yes milk. I’d had my bloods done and the doctor saw I had an under active thyroid. Not by a huge amount but possibly enough to have an effect.

I hear you @LexieJean - I am in my last couple of days of FW now & DH has definitely uttered the same words!

@Milknosugar1 are you doing opks? My dr said I could do progesterone test on dpo 7 which seemed easier to work out than 7 days before af!

Hey Yammers, I went into Boots today and all fertility stuff including vitamins, opks (branded and boots own) and pregnancy tests are all on 3 for 2 in case anyone wants to stock up

Has anyone ever had watery pink periods? I first thought that I was having heavy periods but they are more like really heavy cm mixed with pink/light red blood.

Looking im noticing mine are very like that but more red than pink. I had a fleeting moment of hope yesterday as my nips had been so sore for past few days. Then had heavy cm, mix of white and clear which is unusual at this stage (about 6dpo). But today... nothing. Think this is my new norm after ovulation and its a pain.

Argh! My OPK's just aren't getting darker - been roughly the same for 3 days now. Ovia is saying my FW ends today. Done LOTS of DTD but not sure we can keep it going for much longer! 😂

@LookingAtTheStars I have had watery periods, but red rather than pinky. Is this norm for you?

milk nope, didn’t have to hold off at all.

I think I have depression. I've had a terrible day today; DH has been away and I was meant to go out (to something I've paid for) but didn't, just sat in my pyjamas and watched DVDs, eating junk food. But I didn't enjoy it, I didn't feel happy doing it. Eventually I had to stop and come out to something I'm committed to do, but it was really hard forcing myself out. I feel so unhappy but also a bit numb, if that makes sense. It's clear to me that it's only DH and the fact I'd get sacked that are getting me out of the house.

Sorry, I just need to tell someone. I haven't even been able to text DH and tell him. I just want him to be home so I can have a cuddle.

Oh Sooz. You've had a rotten time, it isn't surprising you feel shit, although it's positive you can recognise it. Numb sounds depressed. When is your dh home? Can you make a gp appt tomorrow? Sending a virtual hug.

@SoozC Is DH home? Don't be alone today. If he's not then go see a friend or family. ideally one who knows you well enough so you can flump onto their sofa and demand tea and hobnobs. Being alone and down is horrible. X

I POAS today. Thought I'd do one for torture fun every week, and as there has been some notable er, changes in my cm I thought maybe I was ovulating really late (cd60). So I did a pg test and an OPK (so I could be cheered up by possible ovulation when the pg was negative). Both stark white negatives. FFS.

DH comes back today, thank goodness. I don't have any friends near enough to pop round for tea and sympathy so will have to stay here until he's back.

Posted too soon..

My mc is a massive factor. I don't really care about ttc now but every day I want to cry for what I lost. I know I need help. I'm trying to find a counsellor and I've ordered some St John's Wort. It doesn't help that DH is also struggling with depression, mainly for different reasons, although I know the mc hasn't helped.

Sorry you have negs, Wonky.

Sooz have you contacted the Miscarriage Association or Cruse? For both you and DH? X

So sorry to hear you are struggling @SoozC. Some wonderful advice has been posted below, so just sending a big virtual hug to you. x