Where there’s a Yam, there’s a way

[Bubblegum89]

Thread numero four-o.

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement.

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day

• Thou shall not give advice to others when TTC for one month only

• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways

• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month

• Thou shall not be offended by strong language

• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams

• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

And most importantly...

• Thou shall not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if they do so.

Welcome and welcome. We’re all very nice and friendly despite being horrible bitter old cows ☺️

Oh @Limp I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself x

Oh god limp I’m so so sorry. I can’t even begin to imagine how you’re feeing right now. Take care of yourself, sending you lots of love

I am so sorry @LimpLettice - sending you gentle hugs. Xxx

I won't derail the thread but will try and let you know what happens tomorrow. DP is home, just about to get DD to bed. We are both just in bits, can't believe this is happening to us again.

So sorry limplectuce, just rubbish, just really really rubbish. Try to ignore the unhelpful comments xx

@limp it’s not derailing the thread, this is a safe place for how we feel whether good, bad or ugly. Completely get the ‘well at least you’ve got one already’ bullshit that people spout. I’ve had it from my mum when discussing TTC. Yes DD is the light of my life and I love her more than words but it doesn’t lessen the desire for a 2nd baby or take the place of a sibling for her. Try to ignore the people that say it, they clearly can’t understand.

When TTC DD I used to think the same, that at least those with one had kids and that it couldn’t be as hard. But it really really is.

Definitely not derailing the thread Limp x please let us know how you get on and please know that everyone here genuinely cares for you.

Dreamers you made me cry a little.

Weird appointment. Consultant did abdominal and tv scan. He found a gest sac twice the size of Monday's scan and a tiny yolk sac this time, intrauterine so not ectopic, but no fetal pole. Also lots of fluid in the other fallopian tube which may have made the ttc more difficult.

He basically said he wouldn't go by hcg now, not to give up hope, and he'll rescan in 2 weeks. No more bloods as he says they don't help now.

We then went back to the midwife. She gave me her condolences, made the appointment, but kept saying the hcg shows it isn't viable and she was sorry for our loss.

DP has gone to work. I'm just sitting on the sofa numb and weirded out.

How many weeks are you @limp? It’s unlikely to find a fetal pole before 6 or even 7 weeks. Maybe plan for the worst but hope for the best. It’s going to be a long two weeks but keeping everything crossed that it’s all okay. I’m sure the consultant would have told you if there was no hope. Keep talking if it helps xx

Sorry Limp didn’t mean to make you cry, I’m sure you’ve done plenty of that already xx

Just echoing everyone else's sentiments @LimpLettice - sounds like an impossibly confusing set of circumstances that I can't imagine going through. Can only hope that the next 2 weeks go quickly for you. Look after yourself x

By my count coming to 6 weeks now. I asked the midwife if the repaired machine might be buggered or I might have my dates out but she just kept repeating about the hcg meaning there's no hope. Ten minutes after the consultant said not to give up. I think I just need to accept it and wait.

How confusing limp if it were me, I would be listening more to the consultant but I understand why you would rather be expecting the worst rather than the best. It must just be so frustrating for you :(

I’m sat at home today, I’m my sister’s birthing partner and she’s been in hospital since Wednesday and she’s only just been taken to the labour ward but still no broken waters or contractions. I called into work thinking she would be in labour by this morning but still no sign of a baby coming so I’m doing what any normal person would do when they have time to kill and I’m googling LTTTC women who have got pregnant after having a HyCoSy/HSG. A friend of mine who had been ttc for 4 years with no pregnancies ended up having a HyCoSy a few months ago and got pregnant on her first cycle afterwards so that’s bound to happen to me, right?? 🙄

well @bubble I hope you have more luck than me - i'm first cycle post HSG and have been woken up with a night sweat and cramping early this am. Af here tomorrow I reckon. damn it. To cheer myself up I'm looking around for a new poas vessel - switching to dunking swab things next cycle as they're cheaper than sticks so I need a suitable pee receptacle!!

Oh no Lexie :( I don’t even buy pregnancy tests anymore, I can’t cope with the disappointment

Dreamer they weren't the terrible tears. It was a nice thing to say.

Bubblegum I'm hoping like mental your procedure has cleared something for you.

I want to listen to the consultant. Apart from anything else he was lovely and gentle and positive and midwife was a grumpy old boot. But I darent get our hopes up yet again. Taking a few days sofa time and just trying to be nice to myself.

Just catching up now. @LimpLettice I'm so sorry - that must be awful for you. Hope you get answers soon.

Our beautiful cat was knocked down and killed last night by someone in a car. Then I got to work this morning and got hit square between the eyes with a baby bomb from my line manger. Happy half term to me. AF due Monday- that'll be the icing on the cake.

Self indulgent moan over now.

So sorry to hear about your Cat @BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy, that's my worst nightmare. Hope you're ok.

AF has arrived here. 😢 The FRER I am saving for when I am officially late & feeling pregnant is rapidly gaining dust & probably would have expired by the time I come to use it. Ugh!

@LimpLettice I hope your weekend plans are trashy tv, takeaways and lots of chocolate. Got everything crossed for you.

@BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy what an awful couple of days, hope you're ok.

@Milknosugar1 I too have to POAS, repeatedly, from 10dpo to af, it's a compulsion I have no control over!

@biscay so sorry about your cat, big hugs it’s heartbreaking 😥

@milk having optimism around TTC doesn’t make you a loser at all! Sometimes I think my cynicism is stopping us getting upduffed!

@milk I just mean the test strips. I was using the Superdrug/boots sticks, then a few months of nothing and am now going to try the strips. They were a pack of 30 online instead of the pack of 7 sticks I got in the past! The difference being you can’t pee on them so I’m not sure how this will happen when I’m at work 🤷‍♀️

Oh Biscay, I'm so sorry to hear that. My cats are absolutely members of the family, I can't imagine.

Very trashy. Big Love boxset. I'd quite fancy a sister wife. In theory. It's distracting but it is going to be a long 2 weeks. Or not. Bloody limbo.

Everyone's positive thoughts mean a lot, truly. I'm a believer in good vibes. It's never going to work out but the positive thoughts make me feel less hopeless.

Sorry to interrupt but @Milknosugar1 THAT is some next level widdling I can just about manage in my Scooby-Doo Nutella-cup 😂