TTC #2 January BFPs

[Cariad2017]

For all those ttc #2 and hoping to banish those January blues with a new year BFP, this is the bus for you! All welcome. Let’s hope for a flurry of BFPs before the month’s out. 💕💕💕💕

My Stats are as follows:

Age: 35
DS (2 in November)
Cycle: 16 (groan!)
AF/BFP due: 20 January (my Grandma’s Birthday)

Enormous congratulations Kit. Wishing you a happy, healthy nine months. Xxx

Sorry to hear about AF’s arrival Pina. You’re right - ttc#2 is very different to ttc#1. We had a bit of a rollercoaster getting to DS and I assumed naively that even if it took longer second time around, it would be easier....

It has taken longer for us this time around and if anything it’s harder, not least as literally everyone I hung out with during my last Mat Leave has now got pregnant and all bar one (who is still pregnant) have had their babies.... It’s very very tough. That feeling of abject failure and being left behind every month never gets easier.

I shall be keeping everything crossed that February IS your month. Xxx

Sorry af showed up @Pinacollider TTC #2 is so much harder. I'm really feeling the age gap, DS will be at least 4 when/if number 2 arrives although I have spent all night in a&e with him because he thinks he's bloody Spider-Man so it does make you question why you want another one!

Hi everyone, congrats Kit, hope all goes well this time.

I’ve just had a MMC, confirmed on scan at 8+5 yesterday. This makes 3 losses in a row so I’m devastated. Ongoing nausea isn’t helping. Waiting for the inevitable bleeding now, hoping to avoid surgical management.

I probably won’t rejoin for a few cycles until we’ve had some investigations- the lovely consultant I dealt with yesterday agrees with my concerns about Asherman’s syndrome and I think I need some time to regroup. Although conscious of time ticking on!

Sorry for hopping on the thread with a downer, you were all so supportive before. Hopefully none of you will still be on the thread when I get back!

Oh Para so sorry to hear that. I've had a mc (only other time I've been pg - before DD) and it was awful. I was so unset. Take care!

Oh @para I’m so sorry to hear this. Look after yourself.

Paranormal - Sorry to see you back here. Life can be incredibly unfair at times. There really are no words.

I shall be keeping everything crossed that you get your rainbow 🌈 baby very very soon. Thinking of you. 💕💕💕

Thanks everyone, I was fairly philosophical about the first 2 losses, they were very early but I allowed myself to get hopeful this time. So am taking it much harder than expected. Hoping all the poking at my useless cervix sets off a natural miscarriage as I’m sure an ERPC will only make my adhesions even worse. My DD is almost 4 so the age gap grows ever wider.

Cariad has there been any progress on your investigations? We are being referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic but I know they seldom find much. I think my pleas for a hysteroscopy are finally being heeded though at least.

Do sorry to see you back @Paranormalbouquet, take care x

Paranormal - We’ve been burying our heads in the sand about it slightly. Tests last Summer showed that I’m ovulating normally (which I suspected) and that my ovarian reserve is pretty good. DH’s SA revealed poor morphology which they regard as a “contributory factor”, although as his count and motility are good, there is no reason on paper why we shouldn’t manage it naturally. This will be Cycle 4 of DH reducing caffeine and alcohol and taking all the vitamins, so we’ll see... I moved jobs at the end of last year and am a lot happier/ less stressed (so much so that my Fitbit tells me that my average resting heart rate has fallen by about 5bpm) so I’m clinging onto the hope that the stars will align sometime soon and we’ll get a BFP (not that there is any guarantee with my track record that it will stick)... Planning to head back to the fertility clinic in March if we haven’t had any joy before then (we’ll give it two more cycles) with a view to getting the ball rolling on IVF/ having some more tests.

I’m having more trouble staying pregnant than getting pregnant. Terrified I’ll need an ERPC and end up with more adhesions this time which will make conception difficult too. I think my mental health needs a short break from trying- first loss was 2 years ago, we weren’t trying, it was only a few days after test so I was fairly laid back about it. Second one was after a few months of trying, again early. Was a bit more upset but put it behind me very quickly. This time I’m really knocked though- think it’s all hitting me. I’m still nauseous, boobs still tender and have had a little brown spotting (which could just be from cervical examination) but no real bleeding. Isn’t it terrible that I spend months hoping not to see blood and now I wish it would just start!

Going to try and see gynae for hysteroscopy and have my cervical procedure done before trying again I think. So will probably be the summer before I can but I really want to prevent another loss.

Has anyone looked at your tubes yet? If semen analysis is ok and you are ovulating it’s the next logical step. Hopefully reduced stress now will help and you’ll be pregnant before that!

DH and i have been ttc dc2 since Jan 17. AF is due today but is currently a no show. Had 2 days of terrible cramps but now i just have lower back ache, weeing for england, dull headache, nausea, strong smelling urine and heightened sense of smell. Just took a digital test and its a bfn. I have no idea what is going on. Any ideas?

Hi, can I join please?

Age: 33
DD, 9 months
Cycle: 1
AF/BFP due: 2 February or there thereabouts

I know we probably look crazy TTC when our daughter is just nine months, but I had a traumatic delivery so I kind of want to get on with having another before I lose my nerve. Also, we don’t have a lot of storage space and, since we’re stopping at two, the sooner we have another and they start growing, the sooner we can start clearing out things we no longer need. 😂

Hi All,

Congrats Kit! Yay!

So sorry to see you back here Para. It's such as joy when someone gets to leave but really sad and sometimes shocking when you see someone back again. This whole pregnancy thing is not just about the initial getting pregnant, but then the whole issue of staying pregnant once this first hurdle is out of the way. Unfortunately I am yet to conquer the first challenge so I can't even start to think about the second, or about how awful it must be when it doesn't work out, especially when you have been waiting for so long. Take care of yourself Para; hope everything goes well for you with future testing and medical care.

I am 5 dpo and desperately trying not to symptom spot but failing as usual... and of course I know it's way too early so its pointless, but I still can't help it...

Does anyone else just feel so much shitter during the tww / luteal phase of their cycle regardless, whether pregnant or not? Even without the stress and emotional turmoil of the waiting and hoping, I have so many physical symptoms which I guess are from the changes in hormones....crippling fatigue, sore boobs, nausea, tender womb/ovary area, headache, general depressive feeling.... and I have never been pregnant in all these months.

We have a joint app at the Dr's this coming week to sort out DP getting a sperm test, and to discuss referral to the fertility clinic. So something to look forward to!???! I look upon it with a bit of trepidation now that I have been rejected for the transvaginal ultrasound scan I was meant to have to check out tubes and womb etc.

Oh, and welcome Newbies! Let's all hope that none of us are here for much longer!! x

Oh yeah and I made a new thread for Feb as I couldn't see one; think this should be the link to it.... hope it works:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3152455-TTC-2-February-BFPs?watched=1

Got my BFP this morning! I only tested as I was going out with friends and wanted to check I could drink-DH had a shock when I told him! So the stabby pains about ten days ago were something after all I feel incredibly grateful and lucky but also feel bad reading on here about others having a tough time
If this goes to plan we will have a 22 month gap which I'm trying not to panic about...!

Congratulations @amatree xx

Many congrats amatree

BFN at what I was hoping was 14dpo (cycles haven't yet returned). Still no AF either, and just to rub salt in the wounds I've got endless ewcm and a positive opk. So for the past few months I've been getting ewcm and positive opks every 2 weeks so have felt like I've been in back to back two week waits, but it seems I'm not even ovulating.

I made the decision this morning to step back from trying and just wait for my first period. Then I saw the ewcm and thinking about giving it one last try, but worried I'll be in exactly the same position in 2 weeks for the 7th time. Burst into tears at baby group this morning, don't think I'm emotionally strong enough for this right now

Just did test as sore boobs...v faint BFP! Pic is a bit crap and its evening pee and I'm only 3+1 from missed period.

I see it! Congratulations!!!

Congratulations to those who've got their BFP in last couple of days...so BFN this morning (tested as cycle varies between 28-31) and lo and behold AF has arrived this evening...am annoyed as even when hubby and me were poorly we still did it - ''twas grim!!!

so am going to go join the Feb bus! Good luck to those still waiting.

Feels like wasted effort doesn't it Minions? I did another test this morning, DH can't see a line (I can but only v feint and I could be imagining it) so don't think am actually pregnant. We are going away today for a few days childfree so will forget about ut and have a few beers/ go to a spa...things I couldn't do if I was pregnant.