TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 15 - Christmas miracles

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

New thread!

Line is darker this morning 👍🏼 hope everyone is doing ok x

Thank you @Boboelephant. I'm 8 + 3. It doesn't help that I'm exhausted from work and ill with a cold that is refusing to shift. I feel so guilty too. Many women would be so happy to be in my position, yet here I am just worrying constantly.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 so sorry you're feeling the way you do. I'd be the same, and I was the same after my MMC. Remember to put yourself first. If work is too much, get signed off again.

@TheGrumpySquirrel glad the line is darker! Xx

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I'm sorry you're feeling so rubbish. Hope the return to work is ok. I'm going back after mine on Monday and dreading the questions too.
@TheGrumpySquirrel glad the line is darker! Hope you don't get sick. Lots of honey and lemon!
@Flatwhite32 I totally get why you feel worried. Unfortunately you can't go through what we have done and then just blindly assume everything will be fine. Hopefully you are out of danger zone soon and can start enjoying this pregnancy! Are you now past where you got to last time? Will you be having any more scans before 12 weeks? Hope you feel better soon!

Unfortunately not @Boboelephant. My MMC was discovered at my 12 week scan sadly. If I get that far, I dread to think how crazy anxious I'll be before it!

@Flatwhite32 oh that's really tough! Did they tell you at what stage baby stopped growing? I just had a MMC too which was found at a private 9 week scan measuring 7+6 but if I hadn't had private scan it would have been the 12 week too. Maybe if you know you got to say 9 weeks last time you could get a private scan just after that to appease your anxiety. Hope the next few weeks fly by for you!

Just after gettin msg through that my hubbys friends wife had her baby boy last night who was due exact date as me, im also waiting on news in work today of someone - happy Fking thursday with tears rolling down my face already!! Really do hate myself at the minute that im not happy for people so can relate @UnicornsandRainbows1

di626 right there with you lovely- also feeling like the world’s most miserable person with two of my best friends currently pg with DC2. Sending you hugs xox

Hi everyone. I had a MMC found at 11+4 last month and had a D&C. Was obviously devastated. Yesterday I took a test thinking I was 8dpo as had symptoms. It was positive. I called the EPU and they've got me in today for a blood test as they can't be certain it isn't leftover hormones from my previous pregnancy. Hoping it's a new (sticky) one.

for everyone.

@WJStaff ooh I hope this is a new one for you!! That would give me so much hope too. Have you had a period in between? What time is your appt today? Good luck! 🤞🤞

@WJStaff , hope its good news!!! Did u take preg test in between. Dont want to dash ur hopes as hope not same as me but i was still getting positive test 3.5 weeks after erpc x

I’m 10/11 dpo and had a little sporting this morning. My breasts have been a little tender the past few days too. Not sure if implantation or AF letting me know she’s on her way. Keeping optimistic though! Going to test on Saturday (last time I didn’t get a positive until I was a week late)

Really cant believe im posting this but just got my bfp at 10/11 dpo (3.30am!) & after bfn at 8/9 dpo. I have been spotting after every BM this tww so im very sceptical that all will be ok!! Im so so happy & incredibly thankful but terrified after a m/c & mmc in last 9 months.
Ladies i hope youse get bfp's so soon for those that havent because i know only too well that heart sinking feeling when you hear or read a post like mine even though you are happy for others you are incredibly sad for yourself. Xx

Congratulations @di626 try and stay positive

Congratulations @di626! Your comment at the end is so lovely. Xxx

Congratulations @di626! I hope this is the one that sticks for you! Do you know when your first scan will be? Try and stay positive!
Thanks also for your lovely comment. It's been so great to see so many people getting their bfps on here. I hope it's coming soon for the rest of us too! 🤞🤞

Thanks ladies 😊. Not sure @Boboelephant, will play by ear over next few days & xmas & 🤞 if still ok will get one then x

More amazing news. Congrats di626 Love that you did a test at 3.30am!

Congratulations @di626 !! Fingers crossed all goes well.

My anxiety has kicked in and it's horrible, hardly slept last night. I feel my miscarriage was like a trauma that keeps coming back to haunt me.

Just about to head out and thankfully it's only a 4 hour shift. Been a complete teary mess this morning so I'm not even holding out being there the entire time right now. Ffs all I want to do is go forward and go back to normal for a bit

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I'm so sorry I didn't respond to you on the FB group. I don't check my phone at work most days, so I missed it til now. There's absolutely nothing I can say to make you feel better, but we are here to listen whenever you need us. Xxx

@UnicornsandRainbows1 so sorry you are feeling like this & as you say hopefully fast forward couple of weeks & it will improve.

@TheGrumpySquirrel of course you will be oit of ur mind this time with worry.

Im already freaking out that mine wont last as had some brown spotting there now & cramping - constant mind boggling 😢

Hi ladies, can I join? Started ttc in 2013, I had a chemical pregnancy and a miscarriage in 2014, then a finally got pregnant in 2016 and had my little boy who's 14 months now. We just started ttc in November and miraculously got pg first time which was a bit of a shock after how hard it was first time. Unfortunately, it wasn't meant to be as I had a natural spontaneous miscarriage this week in week 7, so I find myself back here.
I had a scan today to confirm that the mc was complete and the dr said we can start ttc straight away.

He said there was no need to do any investigations since I have had a full term pregnancy and so it was just bad luck.
Fingers crossed that he is right. It's put me on edge though, when I got my bfp I naively hoped the mcs were in the past having had a dc but obviously not. It's hard not to beleive that there isn't a reason but trying to stay positive for now.
Seems so strange to ttc so soon after a loss but there doesn't seem any point in waiting either.

@TheGrumpySquirrel sorry you are feeling like this!
@UnicornsandRainbows1 hope today wasn't too bad and the next few weeks go quickly for you.
I'm a bit worried that I am setting myself up to fail. I had ERPC only 3 days ago and have become a bit obsessed with googling success stories of people falling pregnant immediately. I'm terrified that if (and probably when) I don't fall pregnant within weeks and more likely have to wait ages for af to come back that I am going to fall into a big angry pit of depression. God I hate how hard and all consuming this is.

@Hollymchollyface welcome although I'm sorry you're here. I feel the same as you. It's difficult to think it's just bad luck isn't it! I had an ectopic previously and once we realised this baby was in the uterus I stupidly assumed we were in the clear but sadly not.
Hopefully the next ones stick. And quickly!

@di626 your comment about the heart sinking moment is exactly how I feel I thought it was just me and I would think I was really horrible but I was happy for people but just wished it was me too.