TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 15 - Christmas miracles

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

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Hi rumgone so sorry you've had such an awful time of it. Hugs x

@Kidd10 will try adding you again. I'm not sure where the request pops up, as it's a secret group. Maybe someone on here can answer that?

Thank you @NoCatsHere. You're right, I did say symptoms mean nothing! I still had every symptom going when I had my MMC, even though baby hadn't been alive for over 3 weeks.

@di626 the nausea definitely isn't as strong, but I need to try and stop focusing on symptoms.

Hi again. Just tested yesterday and today and got what I think was a faint bfp yesterday and a VERY faint one today. All I can think is it’s going to happen again. I’m almost just observing it like a scientist. I can’t get excited or happy. Which makes me sound so ungrateful. I haven’t even told DP. Not even sure if I’m imagining these lines. I’m not imagining my sore boobs or the sickness though.

Someone help.

Oh @TheCatsPaws I don't know whether to say congratulations or keep calm! I think it's probably self preservation kicking in - not wanting to get too excited in the hope that it hurts less if it happens again. I'm scared at the very thought of another pregnancy, so I think it's completely understandable. Maybe telling your DP will help but take it slowly and don't worry about not being happy or excited yet. Hugs. Xx

The emotions are so conflicting @TheCatsPaws. Bless you. Congrats though, although I totally get that you just don't know how to feel. My GP told me that's it's perfectly ok to feel 'negative' emotions about a BFP following MC, because the BFP is an immediate reminder of what happened before. All we can do is hope. I'm currently in a 50/50 situation and will find out a week on Monday whether this pregnancy is 'viable' or not. All we can do is hope. Xxx

I can’t tell DP. He doesn’t want to know before 6 weeks. He thinks it’s silly to test so early but I pretty much know because I get sore boobs, tired and sick straight away.

I feel like I’ve just detached myself until I get confirmation either way and then I can either feel sad or celebrate depending.

flat I hope it goes well. I had that with my first pregnancy and he was fine, if that is any consolation.

Unicorns and others - I'm so sorry for what has happened. Flat - I have my fingers crossed for you.

I am a proper HT at the moment. I am 11DPO. At 7DPO I had the weirdest abdominal pain all day, felt more like ovulation pain than period pain. My boobs have been incredibly sensitive the last week - normally they're sensitive and I can't run at the gym, this time I'm noticing them just walking down the stairs. I ovulated early so am expecting AF around Tuesday / Wednesday. Usually I get period pains for 7-10 days before but haven't had it this month.

I got a BFN this morning, although last time I tested at 11DPO I got negative and then tested on 14DPO and got positive. Am trying to convince myself that I don't mind this month as I'll be able to have my usual prosecco fuelled Christmas. TBH, it would be easier if I'm not as I have loads of parties to go to, and I don't want people jumping to conclusions, especially after last time.

Today marks 6 months since the mc, I didn't realise how much it would still hurt.

Well I've deleted my fb and whatsapp so will just be solely on here for now. I hate that this has just made me a jealous angry bastard also I only really seem to care about people and pregnancies if someone's had problems previously. It's made me such a hateful person

I’ve decided the lines are definitely there. Trying not to freak out over today’s seeming paler. Last loss my lines got lighter until I lost the baby.

I’m just going to try and not obsess. I don’t have loads of tests and I figure this will either be okay or it won’t. No point analysing it.

Thank you @TheCatsPaws. We are here for you.

@voxnihili thank you. Got everything crossed for you.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I totally get how you're feeling. We've just had a pregnancy announcement at work, and I'm ashamed to say that I cried about it, even though the girl in question couldn't have been nicer to me. I think it's a feeling of resentment that some people sail through pregnancy, yet we don't. At the root of our emotions is a huge sense on unfairness, and it is absolutely justifiable, as it IS so unfair. You are not a hateful person, as you have every reason to feel the way you do. Xxx

@UnicornsandRainbows1 big hugs to you. You aren't a horrible person. I think it's our brain's way of trying to make life seem fair. Because it certainly isn't

@TheCatsPaws good luck, I hope the lines get darker, best not to test too often as the hcg can vary so much at the start, I would not be able to practice what I'm preaching though! Sending you strength x

@Flatwhite32 Sending you all the good luck I possibly can!! Try and relax if you can until you know more I know this is so much easier said than done

I still don't have a request for the FB group. I'm trying to search for it unless anyone else can help me? @Flatwhite32 I will message you

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I am completely with you and understand you can't help feel resentment or a pang or jealousy! It's normal I have come to grips with that now and one day it will be our turn to be that person.

Not sure about anyone else but this has really changed my outlook on life as in stressing over the simplest things that I did before just don't matter now

Hi, can I join you lovely ladies.

I'm 36 ttc #1. I got my first ever BFP on Monday but sadly I'm now having early miscarriage ( 4 weeks 3 days).

I'm feeling quite sad but glad it has happened earlier than later and I'm happy that I can actually get a BFP.

Can anyone advise when I'm likely to ovulate given that the miscarriage happened so early.

You seem a very supportive group and I really appreciate any support right now.

@Kidd10, if you sent your email address to @flatwhite32 then you should have an email with the FB link in it.

@Hopefulbunny, welcome! Sorry you're here, though I'm in almost exactly the same situation, 36 with my first bfp in October. I miscarried about three weeks ago (so around 7 weeks). I believe I'm ovulating now, so pretty much exactly 3 weeks after my heaviest bleeding. Hope that helps. x

Hi Soozc,

Thank you for the welcome and sorry for your miscarriage.

Did yours happen naturally and how long did the bleeding last are you planning to start again straight away?

I had already made an appointment to see GP so gutted I will now have to say its failed but also need to check all is okay.

Lets hope there are lots of BFP's very soon!

👋🏻

I've reached a whole new level of HT - marking a set of students' books and I can 'smell' the individual students (probably just a case of year 11 and their excessive perfume).

If one more person asks me what my address is for Christmas cards rather than asking me how I actually am I'm going to lose it

Hi @Hopefulbunny Sorry you find yourself here.

Went to look at a house to buy today (we're in the process of buying another one but the seller won't reduce the price following the long list of issues discovered by the survey, so thinking of pulling out and buying the one we saw today). Anyway. The estate agent quite happily says it's a great family home and points out how close it is to the local primary school. That's partly why we like it but it still stings a bit. 😢

@Hopefulbunny, sorry for your loss, too. My mc was natural, started bleeding at 7+1, it lasted four days. I've been tracking ov with opks since Thursday 23rd Nov and got my positive yesterday (hope to confirm with bbt tomorrow), so I'm ov'ing a week later than usual.

And yes, we're trying again straightaway! At 36 I feel I don't want to lose any time, we were both over the moon about the bfp as we've been trying nearly 2 years, so would love another one soon.

Hey unicorns so sorry it's all so shit at the moment and just to say that I'm a jealous, angry, and also judgy bastard checking in too...
I know quite a few mums whose rainbows have only appeared after their second MC's. There's hope, I promise x

Hello,

Can I sneak in??

I'm 33 and had a MMC about three weeks ago - baby measured 11weeks. I opted for expectant management thankfully as it all happened at home that evening.

I also had an ectopic pregnancy in 2010 and lost my left tube. Though lucky enough to have had 3DC since, youngest in just 2.

Just waiting to do a PT on 5th to check its negative as per EPAU before getting back on with TTC.

I hope everyone else is having a good weekend :)

Hi all

I am 34 and my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage 8 weeks ago. I was 11 weeks along.

Before conceiving I was active on the conception forums and if I’m being honest the idea of coming back to them has been unappealing and I’ve avoided it. But here I am in our first 2ww since losing the baby and I find myself drawn back.

I am currently 8dpo and don’t think I am pregnant, although I do seem to have some breast pain that feels different to pms. Although I had very minimum, barely existent symptoms last time I was pregnant.

Throughout the 11 weeks of my first pregnancy I was always worried I would miscarry, though that lessened a little as time went on and we had 2 really positive healthy looking private scans. But now even more so. I’m trying to not think about things but naturally that’s impossible!

12 DPO and just got this. I tested at 4.30am and got a BFN, decided to test just now and use an OPK also as that showed positive last time. I left it slightly longer than I should have done (only whilst I had a shower) and I think there is a slight line. The OPK is also much darker than I would have thought it should be. I don't know what to think, how to feel or what to do. Am sat here with tears in my eyes.