STILL TTC your first baby

[nomoremagnolia]

Thought someone better start a new thread as we're getting close to the 1000 mark!
Ready - what's your question?

Evening All, thanks for the lovely welcome . Well my madness will be a peak level over the next few days as we have had the CALL at work today and the dreaded Ofsed are coming on Monday and Tuesday next week. Positive angle, I won't have time to stress about being pg as will be stressing about being inspected. Actually its not too bad for me and my team, we're student support staff (have replaced Heads of Year) but still have to be interviewed about exclusions, attendance, child protection etc, etc... I'm spending tonight doing a crib sheet for my team, well should be doing that right now!! Now I feel guilty so I'm going, will catch up with you all next week.
Bellabear - I too am spotty at the mo but can offer no useful advice except don't squeeze!!!

chocolatedays - Oooh how exciting!! 3 weeks huh! Are you nervous? I haven't tried any alternative therapies yet. I want to try them, but I wanted to get the first 12 months out of the way first, without GPs telling me that I shouldn't be doing such and such. Probably daft. If I have had no success after 12 months, I am going to try reflexology first. Sounds good that the acupuncture went well, and has filled you with optimism! YAY! Fingers and toes crossed for you sweets.

Bella - I was only teasing about the gradings My piano portfolio extends to 2 bars of Fur Elise, and chopsticks
I am not really sure about the spot question - I would guess that if a rise in hormones gives you spots, then pg hormones might well do too. Not a scientific answer

Woodmouse - You are right, it is very quiet. It's worrying isn't it - maybe people have lost their sparkle.
at you already buying your pg tests in preparation! Do you test earlier than your due date??

Graysongirl - Good luck with your inspection. My MIL is a teacher, so I have heard plenty about that joy!

Everyone else... I hope all is well. Sorry that it's so quiet on here at the moment.

Hello everyone
I've been v busy this week and so has DH which has meant a couple of missed BDing opportunities. I'm hoping to get back on the horse as it were, but we'll see how we go.
Ready, I expect that it's quiet because of the amazing weather. Hope it holds, we're off to a wedding tomorrow and I want it to be sunny for my sunny friend!!

Ready - no, I'm not testing early. Just trying to be prepared - it's the anally retentive control freak in me!! I've have read on the threads that it is very naughty to test early, so I never will ). I don't think people have lost their sparkle, but maybe we are all in the 2WW period now, so there is little to report or people want a few days away fromt he threads. Maybe because it's friday afternoon and people are winding down for the weekend, there might be a few more post later.

hello hespera - my DH has been away again, so I missed a few BD-ing chances. I am sure I will be on the TTC threads for ages when everyone else has graduated because Dh is never home!

anyone got anything exciting planned for the weekend? I think we'll go and watch the London Marathon because a few friends are running this year.

Hope you all have a lovely weekend in the sunshine!
Here's a question to ponder: What will your parents and parents-in-law be called? Since one lot of my grandparents are from israel, I called them sabba and savta (hebrew) and the others grandma and grandpa, but we won't have this opportunity with our baby. So what will it be?
I like grandma/pa but I don't like nana (sorry if offending anyone who uses that) and perhaps granny?

Our parents have already decided what they want to be called, we had no say in the matter!!
I'm off on holiday for a week, so won't be around but will catch up with all the news on my return. Here's hoping there'll be some BFPs when I return.

Nomoremagnolia - Have a lovely holiday!!

Woodmouse - So long as you are just getting prepared, then that is ok Just don't be tempted into testing early

Bellabear - Great question!! And one that DH and I have discussed at length.

Gilly - We don't have the normal family stereotype either, so it's not as straight forward as for some.

I personally think it should be up to our parents to decide what they would like to be called.
My maternal grandmother was "Nan". My paternal grandparents were "Granny" & "Grandad" - my Grandmother despised the term "Nanny" - she used to say "I'm not a Goat!"
DH's paternal grandmother is "Nan" - His maternal grandparents were "grandma" and "grandpa".

I know my Mum will want to be called "Nan" and MIL will definitely want to be called "Grandma". Both our Mum's are with new partners (my mum divorced, MIL widowed) but they are relatively recent additions (!) so they are not really considered step-parents as we'd already grown up and left home before they were on the scene. So we thought they would just be called by their names. Eg. Nan & x and Grandma & x. And we will explain about their real grandfathers.

Friends of ours whose parents all wanted to be known as "Grandma" and "Grandpa" all just had their names added by the children "Grandma x" and "Grandma y" Thankfully we won't have that issue.

Hi Ready - yes having fun with ovulation thank you !! I'm a tad worried as I'm sure ovulation was on friday and I have a few cramps today and can't figure out what they are caused by. I normally get ovulation pains and got them all last week but they've got slightly worse today. I had an awful paranoid and hysterical moment earlier worrying about the pains and potential ectopic again. Maybe I'm just getting myself all worked up over nothing but what could these cramps be caused by? feel all shaking at the thought of another ectopic again now...

PinkE - I imagine that you are going to feel every little niggle and it will be magnified. I'm not trying to belittle your pains at all. It's natural to be anxious and paranoid after what you have been through, sweets. Take it easy and try not to worry - you said yourself the chances of it happening again are very low. I totally understand the panic though. Thinking of you.

Ladies - Just wondering if anyone else has had this -- The last few nights I have dreamt about babies and pregnancy. Last night's was particularly horrid - I dreamt my MUM had just had a baby, and was not doing the best job of caring for the wee mite. I ended up looking after her, but she got sick and I just panicked. It was a very frantic dream and I woke stressed Am I cracking up????

Ready - poor you! No, you're definitely not cracking up and yes,I have been having weird baby dreams and I'm sure some of the others have too. A few night ago and woke up very upset. I had a horrible dream that I'd had septuplets (?) - seven babies - only they were tiny all began to turn blue in their cots and wouldn't breathe and i was panicking .

Who knows what the dreams mean - and no, I don't want mine analysed! - but I assume at the most basic level they must reflect an anxiety at having/not having babies, which is absolutely normal for TTC #1. I suppose babies are a preoccupation in our lives (they must be to a greater or lesser degree or we wouldn't be posting here) and this comes out in our subconcious when we are asleep. Dreams are odd - we've all had strange ones - but everyone gets them and it most definitely doesn't mean you are cracking up, m'dear.

AF has turned up so I am CD1. Fingers crossed for this month for everyone!!

I've had dreams like that too. horrible. and yet so disappointing when you wake up.

I am glad I am not the only one dreaming of babies, in whatever capacity. Makes me feel a little more normal. Thanks girls.

I've been dreaming all SORTS of weird things recently, from bleeding and losing the baby, to having a really nice chat with David Tennant (aka Dr Who)!

Not really got any idea what our kids will call our parents. Both my grandparents were Grandma and Grandad, distinguished either by surname or location (as in "Grandma in Sheffield"!), so I guess my parents will probably go for Grandma and Grandad too, but I don't know about DH's parents. I think its up to them, I don't have a particularly strong preference.

Well I said I would, so if anyone's interested you can take a look at the pic from my 12 week scan on my profile now Since we've started telling friends about the baby, I'm not so worried about anonymity (sp?) so I've added a couple of me and DH too. The scan was absolutely fab, all is well, we saw the heart fluttering and arms and legs moving - in fact it looked like the baby had hiccups at one stage! So happy, and I promise you all, the 8 months we were trying, which felt like years at the time, are already fading into the distance.

wow, i really seem to have killed the conversation! sorry!

Hello again, another crap input from hespera-
I'm in the waiting game now. My persona is giving me the green light which I guess means that BDing opps are over. CD20.
It's so chilly today in my hse that I've had to put a cardi on.

No, no, you haven't Geek - unfortunately, it been a bit of a quiet thread recently! All the regulars have been quiet, busy or on other threads. We need to build up the first time TTC community again.

Congratulations and the picture of the little one is lovely!

hello hespera and anyone else who is lurking on the thread ! AF is just finishing so looks like all by BD-ing fun should be about to come, but DH is abroad with work for the next week, so I may be on the TTC threads for a while

'Tis cold today. Went out at lunchtime and got soaked!

Oh and on the "what to call the grandparents question" I'll leave it up to DH's parents, but guess they will plump for Nanny and Grandad, because that's what they use in their family for both sides. Nanny reminds me of nanny goat or Mary Poppins but if it pleases them, it's fine (sorry everyone who has a nanny). My mum will want to be called "Gran" and my dad, if he wants anything to do with me, will probably be called "grandpa"

Oh no!!! Geek honey, don't feel that you killed the thread - really bad timing for me to have a low mood and no time to post on all my usual threads! Talk about neglecting my responsibilities
Your scan is wonderful, thank you so much for sharing it with us!! My heart just melted looking at your little bean I SO cannot wait to have a scan of my own to look at!!! You and DH look so lovely on your wedding day too! How are you getting on? Made many new friends on the ante-natal threads yet? Doing my best to join you But it's not going well

Woodmouse - Sorry to hear that your DH is away next week. Hope ovulation holds off until his return!

I think we should do the Name Game again - since there are quite a few new faces and therefore we will get some new names thrown into the fray!! What do you all think?? [hopeful emoticon]

Just to clarify - it's not really a Game... just banter about names really. I tried to make it sound fancy

Thanks Ready. So sorry you've been feeling down recently, especially since it's so unlike you! Hope you're finding time to look after yourself properly, and to get some quality time with DP too. Just think, if you DO get a BFP soon, you'll have to start counting down the months that you have him all to yourself, so make the most of it now!

Re names, now it comes down to it I'm feeling quite at a loss actually! It seems like such a daunting get-it-wrong-now-you'll-regret-it-forever type of decision! When I've thought about it before I've been quite keen on old Bible names for boys - Benjamin, Matthew, Isaac, that kind of thing. I'm a lot more clueless when it comes to girls. So I'm really interested to see other people's suggestions, hopefully they'll inspire me!

Geek - Yep, DH and I are making the most of each other at the moment . I am trying to look after myself properly, but emotions are so hard to control aren't they!!
I think you are the first person other than me and DH that say girls names are a struggle. We could have 10 boys and happily name them all - but girls names are so hard to agree on!!
I love all your boys names - Benjamin being my fave of the 3 - I am quite partial to Samuel(and therefore Sam) at the moment.

Ready, I'm so glad you are back, I was getting worried! Now, where is MrsMcJnr?

Aw Bless you Bella - I was having a mini depression, and really busy too! - I am feeling a little better today!!