STILL TTC your first baby

[nomoremagnolia]

Thought someone better start a new thread as we're getting close to the 1000 mark!
Ready - what's your question?

see now for me its the other way round......scared to death of the preggars part and labour, then cant wait for the new baby bit as i know what im doing!

Hey! I can help you out on the second bit, you me on the first! Deal?

Deal! I know this is prob mad logic but I reckon when I'm preggers I'll be more in control cause it's my body. Now I know things can go wrong, but I'm staying positive. Planning to have an active birth at a midwife centre near where I live. No pain relief of intervention.
Hate hospitals so only going there if I need to. Have heard way to many horrendous stories and one of my best friends caught a superbug and nearly died after a hospital birth - cheery chat eh?!
But don't want a home birth as want to keep birth seperate and get the feeling of bringing new baby home - if that makes sense?! Plus don't want the mess at home!
What are your plans? Happy to help in any way I can Fi so ask me anything. Am no expert but have researched for Britain!
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Hi guys! I'm not sure I have an expertise but i've read lots and lots on pregnancy and parenting so hopefully I'll have something to add at some point! Can I use your expertise too?

My parents and in-laws live miles away too so we're going to be on our own with the baby once it comes.. there I go joining you in counting my chickens!!

Of course we'll help you Toomuch - not that I think I'll be that much use!
Also worth remebering that lots of folk in London feel how we feel and are in the same position with family so we are bound to meet other new mums like us. That's why joining NCT is so important. I'm going to call them the minute I find out cause they get so over subscribed.
And we all have friends who will help us out. I have my little sister which I am really thankful for. She has less of clue than me but is another pair of hands at least.
What are your plans for the birth Toomuch? Have you thought about home vs hospital kind of thing?
And what does everyone else think? Always so interested to hear people's opinions.
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Thanks Treenie.

My sis is miles away too so I'm just going to have friends to rely on and I think that relying on friends is going to be quite limited! I have visions of me being house ridden for years . DH was saying the other day that if we ever got invited to a wedding or birthday party or something we'd both be going to without kids - that we'd really struggle..

Have thought about the birth and I really hate hospitals so I'd love a home birth or a maternity unit birth but I've looked into my options and I'm not sure I'll be able to do it. Bit scared of full on home birth so would prefer a unit but not sure there are any near me! Definitely going to try and just stick with gas and air though..

What's NCT?

NCT is national childbirth trust. They run antenatal classes and everyone I've spoken to who has been to them has made amazing friends. All based around local area but there are loads in London. Google them and you can look up your area. Are you N, S, E or W?
Also there should be a midwife centre near you. My advice - and anyone can feel free to contradict me here if they think I am wrong - is that you don't need to be in hosp in a totally medicalised situation if you are having a normal healthy pregnancy and baby. I wouldn't advise going it alone a home or anything but you could get an independent midwife who will bring gas and air etc.
I know what you mean about home birth - don't fancy it either. So an going to go to The Birth Centre in Tooting, SW run by amazing woman called Caroline Flint. She is meant to be a wonderful midwife, has written loads of books and was chair or the royal college of midwives or something like that. Google it. If you like the idea of a midwife unit it will be right up your street. Not cheap mind you but I think it's worth it. But that's just my opinion, I know some people don't want to or can't pay for these kind of services.
Anwyway, check it out for more info anyway. In my opionion that is how birth should be and can be if women are given the right support and surroundings.

My SIL just had her second baby - a little girl! So happy to be an auntie again! I want one too!

OK I know we said we wouldn't count chickens but I thought you might like to check out this website! Type in dates and it tells you what to expect and when! How fun! Can't wait for next af to come so I can get on with it!
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www.pregnancy.org/pregnancycalendar

this one's even better, no advertising!!

Treenie - know what you mean about researching for Britain, I have a full shopping list for baby stuff, all researched and have read up on everything (well I have had plenty of time to plan it, haven't I?)

You've all been busy again today!

I am worried I"m starting to get a bit obsessed. I've just found out two more of my friends are expecting their second and I do feel a little bit like I'm going to get left behind.
Does that make sense? I'm really hopeful that it may be this month (AF due Sun17 /mon 18) but know that these things take time and I have to be patient.....
Sorry, I'm conscious this may be insensitive to those of you who've been trying ages as I know I've only been trying for three/four cycles but...but....but.

Pinky -I know what you mean, all of a sudden everyone you see is pg or has a lo. Best of luck for this cycle, are you in your 2ww?

dur, just read af due soon! sorry for dense-ness. shouldn't try to mn whilst also trying to catch up with big bro on tv!

How's it going ladies? I have been away for what seems like ages... what have I missed? Do I see some new faces? Or are they name-changes? Sorry for not being up to speed

Have there been any juicy questions in my absence?

You're back! Woohoo!

new faces and new news. I'll let you read!

Oh read faster!

I'm reading as fast as I can!!!

You Have Been Missed

Ok? there is no way I will be able to catch up on everything

Sorry if I miss anyone!

Bellabear - Congratulations chick!!!! WOO! That is wonderful news, I am thrilled for you. YAY! So exciting!! And to think that just before I went away you were the lowest you have been. Chuffed to bits for you sweets!

Cityangel - How are you flower? Posted to you on chartspotters, but didn?t want to miss you out on here!

Geek - Are you lurking on here? How are things chick?

PinkMartini - Giggled at your ?twirl? and keeping your name. I am pleased you did. I would have not had a clue who you were otherwise I genuinely wasn?t lurking, and have spent all evening catching up. I?m a slow reader!
Sorry to hear that you are worried about being ?left behind? ? I know exactly what you mean! Perfectly natural to feel that way. Hang in there

Gilly - Sorry to hear what your Dad said ? But I am a firm believer that you have to do what is right for you, and not worry about what others think. I know it is hard to hear things like that though. Big hug. Mucho impressive where you will be working ? go get ?em tiger!

Kensgirl - No idea where we will be moving to just yet, it depends on where DH will be working, and that is all up in the air. How are you getting on with the temping?

Nomoremagnolia - I loved your post about there not being a hierarchy of pain on MN ? isn?t that what makes this place great! And I pmsl at your ?Johnny-come-lately? comment too - I have missed this thread! ? I did at you missing me. Very lovely of you to say that.

Woodmouse - PMSL at you seeing yourself as Lynette Scarvo! You?ll be a wonderful mother!! And mothers can still have an identity!

Graysongirl - How are you?

mistlethrush, Treenie, fifilou, toomuchtimeonline,

Scorpio - I love that you lurk/post on here too!! Our little guardian angel!!

PinkElephant - How are you chick? Lovely news about the heartbeat ? just lovely!

I am so very sorry if I have missed anyone? not intentional.

Yes, it's posts like that I've been missing!

Thank you very much.

Hello, Readym honey! Lovely, lovely to have you back! I just knew tonight was the night to see if you have been watching over us!

How are you? Do you have lots of loverly news for us?

I'll fill you in on my rubbish attempts at temping when you have had time to catch your breath, but it is very good to have an old friend back!

Phew everyone still posting like mad, its brilliant! I have been off work today, been sick and bloated but def NOT in a pg way, I have caught your bug Treenie!!!! Feel a bit better tonight but sleep patterns all wrong as being asleep half the day after throwing up all last night, nice.
Hi Ready and waves. We have all missed you!!! I am good thanks for asking I'm sure you have seen earlier post about tests so won't go into detail but feeling good about actually doing something rather than just stressing about what might be wrong.
As for the MIL question, well my MIL sadly died last August and FIL is a pub landlord in Salford (used to be a real hardcase apparently) so not much in common with him but a lovely man all the same. He is probably retiring to Spain soon so there will be no grandparents around for our kids. However DH has 2 sisters and I have a brother and sister, we are all really close so lots of brilliant aunties and uncles to make up for it!!

Hi Ready (waves back!)
Nice to meet you! This is going to sound stalkerish and weird but I've been following all your progress for months on here before posting! I know Toomuch has confessed to the same so at least I'm not alone! Really helps to know we all have the same (ish) fears and worries.

My SIL had her second baby yesterday and I spoke to my MIL last night about it. All is well and all the talk of little pink toes and cute ears made me want one even more!
And isn't it nice when DH gets so broody?!
Really touching.
Anyway, off to sort out flowers for my SIL and buy some cute clothes to send them (they live very far away) and do all the general cool auntie stuff.
Hope you all have a lovely day and as I said in an earlier post I'd love to hear people's thoughts on births - if it's not way to early to talk about that stuff?! Please just say if it is and I'll shut up. Am just an obbsessive forward planner.
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Nomore I love the BBC website - much better than the one I found. Thanks! x