STILL TTC your first baby

[nomoremagnolia]

Thought someone better start a new thread as we're getting close to the 1000 mark!
Ready - what's your question?

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dh sperm - he doesn't smoke, doesn't drink very much, is very fit and eats healthy food. GP said he's doing everything they normally suggest. we don't know what assisted conception options are available until we get referred to a clinic but reading up on it I sohlud think it would be ICIS - which is the IVF where they select a good sperm and inject it into the egg (normal ivf they just put sperm and egg together in test tube and let 'nature' take its course) Will know more once my blood tests are complete and we get to speak to a specialist.

Nomore - I thought your DH would be trying everything anyway - I hope my post didn't come across as patronising I just meant that hopefully something will work soon and you'll get your BFP! Do they think there's a chance you could still conceive naturally? You hear about people getting their referal to the clinic and then finding out they are pregnant (fingers crossed for you!).

p.s. thanks for the profiles tip - I will sort when I get a min

nomore, thats very hasrsh on you poor love. It must be so frustrating. I cant really give any advice because i dont know much about any of this really.

am giving you a virtual hug though. and a cup of tea and a big chocolate cake.

well we're still trying naturally (there's no harm in that!!) but our chances are lower than 1 in 20 when normal couples have a 1 in 4 when bd-ing on the right day. So we're as likely to get bfp in 20 cycles as a normal couple are in 4
and you're not patronising at all, I asked all those q's when we first found out!

phew - had just re-read my post and worried that it just sounded wrong..

1/20 is still 1/20 though - so fingers crossed for you - it only takes one strong swimmer in the right place at the right time

p.s. cup of tea and chocolate cake all round

thanks fi - it's actually easier now we have a 'reason' than it was when we were just failing every month. see my post 31/5 - the whole ttc thing doesn't make any emotional sense!

Name: graysongirl, TTC: 1 year this month, waiting for my first blood tests and DH SA tests, Hate to tell all you eager beavers out there (no pun intended!!) but I really struggled after being on pill for 11 years, very long cycles with no idea when I was ovulating culminating in a huge 11 week cycle over Xmas. That seemed to kick start cycles and have been 29-31 days since Feb. Hope you don't mind me giving you a bit of advice, it could take alot longer than you think to get pg. I was really naive and just assumed I would get caught straightaway and was pretty gutted when I didn't. It can take a healthy fertile couple up to 18 months to 2 years to concieve. However I have 2 very good friends who were pg within 2 months of ttc which actaully mde it much nore difficult for me to come to terms with my not very good fertility. You just have no idea till you start ttc.
(graysongirl gets down off her preachy type soapbox)
On that cheery note I'm going!!!! Hope I didn't depress you all x x

yes 1 in 20 is better than nothing at all. and like you say theres no harm in Bding!

Chocolate cake is good for the soul.

and belly.

Fi - 32yrs married 18months, came off the pill 1st june, new to all of this but not to children (have been a nursery nurse for 14 years, working as a nursery nurse in a hospital, a nursery supervisor, and as a nanny))

nomore - age 29, married 5 years, ttc 18 months currently undergoing inital fertility tests before being referred (dh has v. low % of properly formed o~ so will need assisted conception of some sort, waiting on my results before we can proceed)

Toomuch - Age 27 - started TTC June 07 - just coming of the pill now so waiting to see what will happen.

Treenie - age 27. Married nearly 2 years. Came off the pill last week so now on cd 7 (if counting from first day of af, which I think is what I'm meant to do) Waiting till after next af to start trying.

Graysongirl, TTC: 1 year this month, waiting for my first blood tests and DH SA tests

Graysongirl - thanks for the advice - all info always gratefully received! I have a few friends TTC or with babies and know that it can take a long time so I'm prepared for the long haul (I think..) - do you ever really stop thinking that it's definitely going to happen this month though? My mind is saying it will take at least 6 months and probably more likely a year or 18 months - but my heart is saying - you never know this month could be the one.. It's a bit of a rollercoaster isn't it!

Hey nomore, was on the phone so missed your posts. Really feeling for you and I know what you mean about wanting a 'reason'. I'm a bit nervous about tests but really wanting to find out if anyting is wrong NOW!!!
BTY I'm loving that you are all so excited, its nice to have a bit of optimisim on the thread even though I was a bit too realistic on my previous post!

graysongirl and nomore, i hope my posts arent coming across as insensitive.

Im just over excited and really happy at the moment. I have a feeling its going to take me a very long time, im just excited that im finally strating to do something about TTC. My friends have all had babies, and ive put it off for so long until my time was right.

I just knew that it was nw or never, i know im only 32 and its not old at all, but i wanted to give me and dh a really good start, so if there were problems I would have loads of time left to try evrtything.

my Bf has been trying for 3yrs now, and has found out her dh has low s count. They are trying lots of different things to get the count up, and i really feel for her so much. In the time she has been trying 5 of our friends and one of her family have c'd.

Ditto for me.

Nomore - how long do you think till you can speak to a specialist? It's awful for you to have to wait for all this - people talk about the 2ww being too long to cope with - so I really feel for you being in the dark about what your next step is

Grayson - when are your test?

moan

I just spoke to my dh to tell him about it being my oh so excting bd day, and he said, oh thats v exciting but what about your girly holiday in august? you wont be able to have lots of fun!

I guess hes right, but then thats taking it as getting preg first time trying, soooooooooo unlikely!

boo.

fi - you're not insensitive and I remember being so enthusiatic! (now I sound like the old lady of the thread, don't I?) I think what grayson is saying is don't be disappointed if it doesn't happen straight away. (having said that some people are more fertile straight after stopping the pill, so it goes both ways!) We started trying just before my 28th b'day, thinking we'd have no1 before I was 30 and no2 when I was 32, but you know what they say about the best laid plans... from the sounds of it though you are realistic and by starting 'early' you're giving yourselves a good headstart if you do need help (this is something I am really glad dh and I did as we're still very young in IVF terms, which gives a real advantage)

thanks nomore xx

fi - don't put anything on hold thinking you might be pg by then, you'll miss out on loads and even if you are pg by aug, you won't care about not getting pissed every night on your girly holiday as you'll be pg!

toomuch - next blood test on 21/6, then a few days for results, then referral to clinic, then join clinic waiting list...so who knows?

Fi - go for it anyway - you'll be so pleased if you're pregnant by August that virgin cocktails will be the last thing you are worrying about!! I had the same problem that I was going to keep putting it off as I had things coming up like weddings and nights out - but as you hear from people, this could take years..

No more - - are clinic waiting lists really long? Sorry - this is all new to me.. seems harsh that you have to wait for so long when you've been trying for 18 months.

nomore- thats exactly what i thought too!Thankyou.

I'm worried im getting too excited about it all, and will come crashing down when it doesnt happen. i hope not. im pretty realistic tbh, i know it probably will take months or even years.

i think if we start thinking oh, theres this holiday and that holiday,so lets hold off this month then i wont go anywhere!

anyawy you dont need alcohol to have a good time!I will be on a high if it happenend that quickly!!!!

Gee whiz you ladies can talk! The reason I have been away is because I've been throwing up all morning! Before we get to excited no possible way (short of a medical miracle!) that I am preggers so must have a tummy bug. Feeling like death and praying real morning sickness isn't like this. Friend's baby who was round on sunday had a bug she said so maybe I caught it. Whatever the cause am really struggling so going back to bed and will read all posts and join in later when I feel better.
Have a mountain of work to do too - being self employed means no time for being ill!
Anyway, just didn't want you to think I was ignore you as I see from a quick scan of the posts there have been some important things said. Will be back later.
x

Get well soon Treenie xx