Thou shall not tell everyone to eat Yams

[juneybean]

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

Hood to hear GP had been useful Grumpy. DH is not my DD’s Dad either so GP are testing him too!

Hi guys, I'm back as I had a scan today that confirmed I've miscarried. If that doesn't allow me to be fucked off and have a good moan I don't know what will.

So sorry @SoozC

Shit Sooz

That’s fucking awful news.

I’d offer hugs, if it would help.

Thinking of you x

Oh Sooz

That’s fucking shit. I’m so sorry.

That’s good about your periods grumpy I’ve had a baby too but 9 years ago. My blood doesn’t come out quickly though, it starts and stops and there’s no constant flow which is why I think something is wrong.

Oh sooz I’m so sorry :(

Sooz, I am so, so sorry to hear that. Shit news, you are most entitled to rant and be fucked off, I so wish this wasn’t your news. Hugs.

Oh no Sooz I’m really sorry to hear that xx

@sooz I'm so sorry, what sad news

Oh Sooz I'm so so sorry to read this sad news

Oh @SoozC I’m so so sorry, that’s utterly shitty for you

Oh sooz that is so shit. I’m sorry to hear xx

@SoozC so sorry to hear that ☹️ was hoping none of the BFPers on here would return.

Thanks everyone. I am heartbroken but aware that we need to get back into ttc asap. Just hope my body gets rid of the little that's left fairly soon, doc said there's not enough for them to do anything, just have to wait.

It's going to be a pretty shit Christmas this year. To think I even bought a subtle pregnancy t-shirt to wear over the festive season. And we were supposed to have our 12-week scan on DH's birthday. We are both so sad. How do you cope?!

It's absolutely awful to go through Sooz but you will find the strength in you to get through this. With my first MC I didn't process what had happened to be right away, obviously I knew and understood but I didn't grieve or allow myself time to come to terms with it properly. This was partly intentional, returning to work and normal life less than a fortnight later and the other reason was that 6 weeks later my mom was diagnosed with Leukaemia. I don't think I really dealt with my loss emotionally until I'd lost my Mom, my mind was too busy with other things.
I wouldn't recommend this as a coping strategy! I'd suggest marking the important days like when you would have been due, maybe plant a rose or something in your garden to remember your little one by.

God sooz am so so sorry; take the time you need physically and mentally. I'm sorry it's such horrible timing, it must be really tough. Is there anyone else you can talk to in person? Take care of yourself xx

@Bubblegum89 I would get a mooncup then you can see what is really happening in terms of amount and flow timing. Best of luck x

@SoozC Im so sorry to read your news. Theres no right way to get through it just do what feels right for you and get as many cuddles as possible and don't go back to work too quickly. Its so fucking sad and my heart really goes out to you. It does get easier after a little while but right now just be gentle with yourself and let your other half wrap you up in cotton wool for a bit xxxxx thinking of you.

@SoozC Im so sorry to read your news. Theres no right way to get through it just do what feels right for you and get as many cuddles as possible and don't go back to work too quickly. Its so fucking sad and my heart really goes out to you. It does get easier after a little while but right now just be gentle with yourself and let your other half wrap you up in cotton wool for a bit xxxxx thinking of you.

It’s so heartbreaking and unfair @SoozC, take your time, look after yourself x

@TheGrumpySquirrel Thanks for posting what the doc said. I guess its in the normal range then. I had my son 19 years ago! so not sure if that makes a difference. Ive got until tuesday and ill get all my hormonal blood results. They've done progesterone, testosterone and thyroid and a couple of others i can't remember.
@Bubblegum89 the moon cup is great. It takes a while to get used to it but i would never go back to tampons now. I do a lot of heavy weight training in the gym and i can just forget about my period. I couldn't do that with tampons. Once its in it stays put.

You’re welcome dude. Good luck with the results x

So so so sorry @SoozC. 😪 Sending gentle hugs.

I'm so sorry @SoozC I wish that this hasn't happened to you.

Last had sex the day before yesterday, and currently feeling a dull ache in my side. DH was too tired to have sex last night and will likely be the same tonight and tomorrow, argh. If i had my way we'd have DTD yesterday, tonight, Sunday and Monday lol.