Thou shall not tell everyone to eat Yams

[juneybean]

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

Congratulations Sooz and thanks Juney for the new thread. About 8 dpo and a weepy mess today...pms kicking in so im predicting another failed cycle. That said I had pinchingstinging pains in my lower ab yesterday and yellow cm...but had that before. Thinking maybe I should try aspirin for the next week in case there's been some attempt at implantation...totally overthinking all now. Might now considdr acupuncture but feel why bother. Don't know what to try next 😣 feel like chucking everything and just take folic acid as that's all I was on when I had my chemical. Sorry im in Moaning Minnie mode (you can tell I've had v little sleep this week!)

Great new thread  thanks @juneybean . Loving the rules too!

And @SoozC !!! What can I say? Congratu fucking lations!!!

Back from baby shower. Things like that are really not my cup of tea at the best of times, but sitting there surrounded by it all, thinking I would be about 20 weeks by now...shitty mc shitface. I know it’s a happy time for others and I hate feeling this way but yuk and bler. And more yuk. Bitter, barren old hag reporting in 😨

@LimpLettice sorry it was as shit as you expected. When did we all start having baby showers anyway ? We're not American (not that I've anything against Americans but it's not a British tradition at all.

Hi @minime2017 This is the right place for feeling bleh! What does aspirin do? I chucked in the acupuncture after 6 sessions - I liked it at first but when they tried to sell me herbs for £60 per fortnight my bank balance brain finally kicked in and said nope. I'm sure the herbs would help but there has to be a limit to what we all pay out for this stuff no?

One of my best friends told me that she and her husband are still in debt from all they paid out for acupuncture and herbs - and their kid is now 3! They think it was worth it of course x

Can I join? I'm only on my 6th cycle TTC #2 but DH and I both have fertility issues and had fertility treatment to conceive DC1.

Jane I know! I had one, thrown for me, and insisted on cake and wine no games, so I’m a hypocrite, but that was a first baby, not thrown by me. It all seems to Americanised now, gender reveals, pregnancy reveal videos, showers, nappy towers. It all seems a bit ostentatious to stiff upper lip me. Part of me feels uncomfortable about celebrating so much before babies are safely here too.

I wonder about that too. Especially when you wonder if people might have just got there anyway and needed more time. At my age the odds are slimmer, and of course I’d do anything to make it happen, but my cynical brain does think there is some cashing in on our need to do something, anything.

@LimpLettice sorry you had a shit time.
I loathe baby showers and if I can get out of them I do (even before failing trying to conceive) luckily they weren’t the thing to do when my sister had her 2 nor when my best friend had hers.
The last one I went to had a “game” where someone melted different chocolate bars into nappies and people had to sniff them to guess.
I couldn’t hide the look of horror/disgust which I think offended people sorry not sorry
A) it’s rank
B) those nappies will sit in a landfill for about 700 years
C) it’s a tragic waste of chocolate that I could have eaten
D) it’s a stupid game that’s not fun.

Welcome unicorn!

Oh gosh I couldn't go to a babyshower. You are a saint for just turning up! I'd feel all doom and gloom.

@limp sorry you feel so shit. I hate baby showers too and also hated them before all this TTC malarkey! We are not American!! I feel like it turns into a massive expense buy a present for the shower buy a present when it's born buy a present when it's christened buy a present when it shits itself! It's just too much!

Not strictly TTC related but fucked off. Haven't spoken to my DH since Sunday as no lines of communication work where he is! Not what's app calling Facebook messenger calling etc and is £2.50 per minute to call from mobile to mobile. Feeling very lonely and fed up. Tried to use lyca calling card and it's used the credit on the card and still charged his mobile! Just cost £25 for a 15 minute call. What the actual fuck!!!!

Hooray @SoozC!!!!! And Hurrah for @juneybean for setting up this thread!

Welcome @UnicornBerry !

Sorry @Mrsjones17 I forgot to answer you earlier... I haven't had any acupuncture since maybe day 4 of this cycle compared to the 3 appointments I had last cycle haha! I might test tomorrow but feeling so crampy seems pointless might just wait for AF :(

That's shit about not being able to communicate properly with DH :( bit expensive to call often as well! Poor you :(

Aghast at the nappy game!! Who the fuck comes up with this shit? Just cringe. Unforch very limited choice, Blackcat, this is (was) a close colleague who I love dearly, in front of lots of other colleagues. I hate some of her choices, and I’m bitter as all fuck, but she has been a good friend. Things are awful enough as I can barely look her in the face without avoiding the shower from hell. Which is all making me feel shitter coz I’m a pants mate.

I may be self medicating with wine and Scandal. DD is with her father, DP buggered off to London, dinner is already prepared and I’m off tomorrow, so fuck it all.

Sorry that was a bit mememe. Is it always like that MrsJones? I’m sorry you’re lonely for DP, sounds horrible.

Jane apparently the 'baby' aspirin (ha!) can help blood flow to uterus and aid implantation...i really need to stop reading and researching! I'll have gained a sodding doctorate in reproduction before I actually reproduce! I love this thread so much for its realness. I don't post much but reading your posts reminds me I'm not alone in this miserable ttc journey, as sometimes it can feel like im only barren woman of the village. Don't think I could cope with another friend/relation/aquaintance announcing a pregnancy. I so hope we all get a lovely bfp soon

@Mrsjones17 aww it must be awful not being able to speak to him. When is he coming back?

Hopefully you manage to have a proper was expensive) chat soon.
Can you skype?

@limp your not a pants mate it's so hard when friends are waltzing round with huge pregnancy tummy's to not feel bitter. In regard to DH no it isn't always like this it depends where he goes.

@steak I think I notice it more at the weekends! He's away for 9 weeks. I'm hoping his work will come up with some sort of solution. In the past they have been issued with phone cards so maybe that will happen soon. We tried Skype but that doesn't work either. It's must be shit internet out there!

@juney shit that you're feeling crampy hopefully is a sign of an egg bedding down in there! I hate the waiting part it sucks. I would think after this long it gets easier but no...

Hi all, can I join you please? Been lurking for a while...

TTC #2
Cycle 8 (early mc in June)
Age 33
AF 31st Oct (6dpo)
Supplements: folic acid, vit b complex, vit d, vit a and evening primrose oil in the lead up to ovulation

Been to another baby shower today ffs! Only another 1 to go this year. Another pg announced today by a friend so feeling very jealous.

I don’t know what a yam is but my favourite type of potato is chips!

Found you all!

I had a shitter of a day yesterday. Went to a friend’s daughters first birthday party and was not only surrounded by small babies but 4 pregnant women. I wanted the ground to swallow me up. Instead I shovelled in cake,

@Justwaitingforaline good to see you. Shovelling in cake is an amazing survival strategy.

I have to say that I'm lucky. At 40 I'm obviously the last to have kids but no one so far has had a baby shower! I seem to have escaped - maybe we're too old and it's missed our age group - like proms - we never had proms when I was at school but they seem common now.

Totally agree on baby showers. It's just weird. And I've only ever been to very gentle ones where people ate cake and chatted. But it all seems very unnecessary to me.

Great name for a thread! Although I do like a good yam, you know...

I'm 32. TTC #1. Cycle 9. We had private fertility MOT this week and found out that husband has poor sperm quality and I have probable pelvic adhesions. So feeling quite despondent. Like there's a very good chance that this might not happen. Since we've been trying, I've found it difficult to see friends' sprogs. And as others mention, there seem to be sprogs everywhere at the moment. My dad has been quite ill this weekend and it has been really scary. It's dawned on me that parents are getting older now... and it would be so lovely for them to have a grandchild soon. Husband and I really would like a little one. Definitely not going to happen this cycle though as we didn't get to try on my peak days because dad was unwell. So already out for this month! But at least dad better now which is really the main thing.

This week it has dawned on us that we are likely to need assistance with conceiving given our issues. That IVF is a distinct possibility. I find myself thinking about how expensive this is all going to be and can we afford umpteen cycles. I am definitely a glass half empty person, it turns out.

Anyway the whole TTC thing sucks. So I'm with you ladies. I don't even do the whole pregnancy testing thing as it seems like it would add another layer of misery. I'm running out of excuses when people ask me if I'm broody and want kids soon. Arrgghhghhghh. I confess I had no idea how awful these questions were before.

Congrats to sooz on the positive result! That's great.

I could not cope with baby showers. Definitely not going to any of those. Thankfully I've never been invited to one! Find hen parties enough! I'm totally turning into a grumpy old killjoy ;)

Hi again guys. AF finished and a little hope has returned, not as angry with the world and everyone on it. Let the new cycle commence!
Really happy for you sooz ❤

Getting AF cramps this morning. She's due either tomorrow or Wednesday.

Can I join too? I’m 40 and have been ttc #2 for about 18 months. AF showed up last night and I’m struggling a bit today. Feeling like a bitter, barren old hag just as limplettice said.