Thou shall not tell everyone to eat Yams

[juneybean]

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

Got a 🙂! 3 days earlier than last month looks like the b6 and reflexology have helped after all. DH is on his way home...

Trying these this month!

Anyone taken them? They're all natural. Folate, instead of folic acid.

AF got me 😔 cycle 15 here I come. Thank god we have a minimoon booked for next month because I sure as hell need a fucking break.

Oh justwaiting sorry af got you. Have lots of fun (and alcohol) on your minimoon :)

Thank you Bubblegum. It’s the week after Ovulation which I did intentionally so I can’t do anything about conceiving whilst away. I plan to get very drunk and enjoy the Cotswolds! Today’s just been a shit one. DH was in an accident whilst at work ( paramedic) and I’ve been stuck on a shitty course for the past two days.

Oh well, onwards and upwards I suppose.

@Justwaitingforaline so sorry to hear af arrived enjoy your break

Stupid af. Hope you have a relaxing break Just.

I saw that stupid thread Steak and was just wtf. 3 months? 30? Fuck the fuck off.

Having a bit of a bad day today. FW approaching and I am in such a bad mindset with it all. Why oh why oh do pregnant people spend all day rubbing their bump and complaining about stuff? I know how it feels, I have been there, but when you KNOW you have a barren fucker next to you all day, is it truly necc?

Been saying for months I know it is too late for me, not quite prepared to jack it in yet but am rapidly approaching ttc saturation. I don't want a ton of tests which are just going to tell me I am too old, nor do I want to spend the run up to our wedding constantly depressed, bitter and angry. Arghhh.

Hi guys, my AF lasted just 36 hours (48 hours last month, it just keeps getting shorter!) so I’m glad I have doctors appointment tomorrow to raise it. It’s not light - thick red blood, not clotty. Then nothing/Brown spotting for a day. Everything else seems normal. Argh.

I’m now on cycle 7 post MMC but I am not TTC this cycle, I need a psychological break and do not want to risk being 6 weeks pregnant at Christmas with reduced hospital services. Also my due date (10 Dec) is around the time I would be testing this cycle so want to avoid the trauma of POAS uncertainty and just have the day to remember my baby.

@grumpy mine are that short. I literally had a half day one once, just a regular flow for half and day then nothing. I was v confused! Doc said really helpfully it was just my body reestablishing itself after years of the pill. I’d been off the pill for 2 years by that point!! But it did prompt internal US (clear). Since then I have a light, 1-3 day bleed and that’s it. Weirdly shorter and less painful than I’d had when on the pill. Id be interested to know if you get any other info- I’m obviously paranoid it’s a sign my eggs are running out! Hope you can enjoy your break from TTC as this difficult date approaches. We’re all here if you just want to scream how unfair it is.

Good luck with a nice relaxing break @just. I’m away end of the month too- next fertile week. Didn’t plan it that way but maybe that will help. God I hope something helps soon. I feel like time is ticking by for me.

Thank you Lexie do you use a mooncup by any chance? I read it can shorten periods. My flow isn’t light and I get painful cramps for 2-4 hours the first day - almost as if it is trying to get it all out at once! Then no cramps and medium flow second day. Then nothing! It’s been 3 days long since coming off pill a year ago. Then 2 days every cycle since my miscarriage in May.

I will let you know what the doctor says.

Oh and I was on the POP for ten years before that and didn’t have periods. Seemed like a good idea at the time

I have periods like that now lexie grumpysquirrel 3 days, 4 tops. One day I’ll get red bleeding for maximum one day and brown bleeding the rest of the time. Nightmare. I still get bad cramps now and again but thankfully not every month. I know it’s a symptom of scar tissue but glad to hear your US came back clear lexie makes me not give up hope just yet!

It’s a symptom of scar tissue?! What is? The short period? Or the brown after day 1.5?

grumpysquirrel both! I had a d&c 2 years ago and went straight on to the implant. When I came off it and my periods came back, they’d changed to much shorter and lighter and browner. I ended up having an US for some ovary pain and the dr said she thought she’d seen scar tissue. There’s a tonne of reasons for your periods getting shorter or having more brown blood though, most of them aren’t as serious as scar tissue

I had a natural MC in May but my periods have only been 2-3 days since then. This one was 1.5 days and the last one 2 days. Heavy at first and red with severe cramping on first day. Red second day too but no pain. Then just brown crap..

Hello all!

I've been TTC for 6 months and am so glad I found this group! So fed up of people telling me 'relax', 'it will happen when it's meant to' etc. I'm 34 and have PCOS. Currently 2dpo, just waiting for AF to arrive and then off to see GP for a referral.

I was pleasantly surprised that BBT said I was ovulating when I came off the pill but after POAS about a hundred times am starting to give up hope on a natural conception.

Currently taking a pregnancy vitamin, inositol, and metformin.

Hey there. Not much has been happening with me. Into the fertile window now (just the start) but don't think I've ovulated yet. My cycle started at the start of this monthish, and we've already DTD 7 times this month/cycle! Usual too tired on the weekend so I'm quite worried we are going to miss peak time, but we'll see. I'm enjoying all the action in any case. I'm too impatient for this lark though.

@NimbleKnitter Congrats!!!!!

@Justwaitingforaline Hope your DH is okay after the accident!

Grumpy I'm still having short periods too. This time i had one day of like 20ml in the moon cup, then red the next day but hardly anything, then brown crap the following day. I've got an appointment next week for blood test results and I'm going to ask about it too. I have to admit its worrying me and i can't get it out of my head that i have shit lining or low progesterone. ill be very interested to hear what your doc says as you seem to be in a similar situation.

dudemeister if it’s any consolation, my progesterone is perfectly fine (confirmed by blood tests) I’m thinking of getting a mooncup so I can see how much I’m bleeding. Can’t really tell for sure with tampons as it kind of soaks it all up. Gross I know, but I’d be interested to see how much I actually properly bleed through my period. Where’s best to get one?

You can get them in boots or order online I think.

This AF I had half a cup full the first day. Bright red. 1/4 the second day. Bright red. Then nothing / a few drops of brown liquid.

I think last AF I had closer to a full cup the first day and half the second.

I’m pretty sure my progesterone is fine - chart is lovely textbook rise etc.

I will let you guys know what the GP says.

Thanks grumpy I’ll have a look. I always panic with tampons because I read a story about a woman who died from TSS so I’ve been thinking of getting a mooncup for a while. And with lighter/shorter periods, it can be scarring, it can be a lining issue but it can also be an age think. Apparently as you get older, your periods tend to change and getting shorter or lighter or both is perfectly normal. Would love to know why I have so much old brown blood though, I’m wondering if maybe there IS an issue and all the blood isn’t able to make it out so comes out with my next period. Good luck with your tests!

So impatient, wish I could just POAS the day after sex and have it tell me whether we were successful or not. Don't thing I've ovulated yet though. Another useful thing would be if my body could give me 24hr advance warning that ovulation is about to happen. Maybe it could send me a text or something "btw I'll be popping an egg out at 21:03 tomorrow: get shagging!".

micro I’ve always liked the idea of my wee turning pink if I conceive so I could tell immediately!

I’m on day 3 of AF and have the opposite problem, super heavy for the first three days then starts to tail off. Only upside of no BFP this month is that my last three cycles have been the same length ( 27 days) which is nice - DH has also been coerced into zinc and Vit C supplements and is off for his GP apt on the 4th!

Ok so I had a peak opk on wednesday lunchtime. Dtd wedneday night.
Various sites suggest dtd daily on day of peak and the three days after.
We’re going to dtd last night but knackered and never managed it. Dh suggested we wake up early this morning instead. He woke and tried to wake me but as I’d been wide awake for no reason between 1.30 and 3.30am I wouldn’t wake up.

Do you reckon I’ve missed it? Or will tonight and tomorrow suffice?

I’m so pissed off with myself.

Update post GP - he doesn’t think my periods are concerning as I’ve had a baby (okay 13 years ago!) so cervix is going to be more open which means the blood comes out faster (I suspect mooncup also opens things up a bit). The fact that I am getting a decent amount of red blood is good. Half a cup to a full cup on the heavy day then 1/4 to 1/2 a cup on second day - I think that’s normal (it appears much less in the cup than it would on pads/tampons). This month there was much less brown crap after day 2, which is good (this is my 7th period post MC).

I had been on the POP since dd until starting ttc and only had 2 periods after stopping pill before I got pregnant which ended in MMC in May. So I don’t really know what my post pill period normal is to be fair.

GP thinks I am ovulating fine but wants to confirm with day 24 progesterone bloods and they will also check thyroid function and a ton of other things. But the first thing we are doing is sperm analysis (DH is not dd dad) as this may well be the issue.