Thou shall not tell everyone to eat Yams

[juneybean]

Welcome all anti-fertile fuckers! This is our clique for those trying longer than 6 cycles and are pretty fed up.

Here are our Fucked Off TTC Commandments

• Thou shall not arrive one day and post BFP next day
• Thou shall not give advice to other when TTC for one month only
• Thou shall not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
• Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
• Thou shall not be offended by strong language
• Thou shall not tell everyone to eat yams
• Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night

Our spreadsheet which includes what supplements (and potatoes) we are trying in our journey to motherhood.

Ah Bubble don't lose hope yet. It sucks to have to wait longer than everyone else, but we will all get there in the end.

I'm just at the start of the TWW and would definitely like a crystal ball to tell me now that I'm not pregnant. I'm not holding out much hope this month anyway so I don't see the point in all this waiting around, trying not to put my life on hold , when really it's all we ever seem to do.

Due today and just waiting for it to happen. I just know it’s coming. My progesterone bloods weren’t back yesterday so I’m preparing to make the call again later today.

dreamers thank you. I’m just starting to panic that I’m going to be one of those people that doesn’t ever get there. I know most do but honestly I feel deep down that maybe it’s just not meant to be. I’ve been pregnant twice whilst on birth control so it makes me think that there must be something seriously wrong for me to not get pregnant a year OFF birth control. I’m only 1dpo, I’ve got another 13 days of this!! What dpo are you on now? The tww is the worst thing ever.

Bubbles I'm also 1dpo, which is always the worst day because it's just after FW with the full two weeks ahead of us! I always feel like I've missed my opportunity again. I wanted to be more relaxed this month, but it's been so obvious when I OV'd that it's now all I can think about

AF arrived this morning and it’s total shit. I knew I was out so it wasn’t surprising, but it’s made me so sad. I’m struggling with life in general at the moment and this is obviously a large part of that, but it just feels like another kick when I’m already down.

I had an appointment with the doctor this morning though, so things are on the move there. I may have a slightly under active thyroid, according to my blood test in August, the tests will check on that, among other things. I can’t get my day 21 (day 18 in my case) bloods done this month because I’m at a wedding, so she said it’ll have to wait til next cycle. I’m also now waiting for an appointment for an US. I’m so glad to have you lot to whine to, I don’t feel I’ve got anyone in real life to talk to. 😥

And I weighed myself at the doctor’s and have apparently put on over a stone since June and I haven’t even noticed. I think the scales in June were actually not working properly because the weight I got then was a stone less than I thought I was. So I’m fat and barren.

Spark I am in the same situation- AF arrived today, I’m seeing doctor on Friday to start investigating what’s going on. I have put on a stone since my miscarriage in May. Urgh

@bubbles @dreamers @justwaiting @sparkwood I feel your pain! And impatience with the 2WW and despair over it never happening and being alone in being barren and misguided hope cause I’m due af Friday and hoping hoping hoping even though I KNOW I’m deluding myself.
Now that I know all this info about my body how can I go back to not knowing when I’m fertile and ever again have sex without the hope it might work. I mean 13 cycles down nearly and it’s not bloody worked. I knew it would suck if I struggled this much but I really didn’t guess how much it would take over and affect every part of my life!!

I wish I had some encouraging words to cheer you all up but I don’t. Today is a shit day. But I’m sending you all a supportive hug 🤗

I've stopped trying pregnancy tests at all, no longer see the point, I just wait for AF to show up as I know it will (spotting for a whole week before it does just makes for a double set of disappointment every month). Not really feeling much hope anymore and of course I'm the last of my close friends to not have kids :(

I too send everyone a big hug. Its funny how the beginning of your cycle starts out with positivity and hope then quickly turns to despair. Its an emotional rollercoaster we willingly get on every month. Today AF is in full swing and I'm kind of relieved that i know now. I can take some proper painkillers and have a starbucks and try again. Im convinced after reading an article someone posted in the 40 TTC thread that I'm ovulating on the same day as i get positive opks on clear blue and cheapie. Apparently the window between the surge and actually laying an egg gets shorter the older you get. Im going to try to concentrate on molesting my poor husband in the days before my positive opk and see if this makes any difference (bearing in mind that he's never here or comatose after a 70 hour week!)

Mrs RL me too, i haven't tested this time. i don't think ill bother anymore either unless I'm late. I got AF a day early although this might be because I've been on the baby aspirin this cycle.

MrsRL sorry i forgot to ask if you've had your progesterone levels checked RE the spotting?

Yep, after a pointless test at cd21 (I usually ovulate around cd19) I had one at 7dpo which came back as ovulatory 31.2 and no cause for concern and I had just started spotting the day the bloods were taken).

The first GP I saw had okayed the tests because of my spotting, 2nd one just said that it's normal for some people, despite me saying that it's never been normal for me.

All cd1-5 bloods came back fine, as did smear and GP internal exam. Don't really know what else to ask for as they won't refer us to the fertility clinic for another 3-4 months

Can I moan please? So, cd13 I think, no AF - although I’m sure it’s just around the corner as -ive test at 5am.

Next to no sleep last night for no good reason, and as I’m not well I was back to GPs today. Apparently the post-viral fatigue I was diagnosed with 3 weeks ago is psychological and after TTC for 19 effing bloody months a referral to IAPT is what I need as it might help me relax and then I’m more likely to conceive. So of course I burst into tears which just gave the idiot locum more fuel.

I’m just so angry. And fed up. And now I do just want to bloody well sit & cry.

Not a good day.

Hi All,

Not posted here for ages as have been so super extra fucked off with all this that I couldn't face it.

Welcome to all the newbies!

Congrats to the bfps as well - so happy for you and so so jealous!

I'm apparently in fertile week - I'm on CD 13 and haven't had a sniff on an opk yet - just the blank circle, not even the effin flashing smiley face!
Trying to regularly dtd (every other day) dh pointed out last night after dtd that he really wished he was in his 20s still as it's pretty exhausting! (such a first world problem)
Now taking preconception vitamins, EPO (only up to Ov), Ubiquinol and Bee Pollen (Not entirely sure what this does but read that a woman took it and got preg first month after previously trying for a year)
And I've bought preseed.
This is getting ridiculous, but I'm nearly 38 and dh is in his 40s so I'm chucking everything and the kitchen sink at it now.

Hopefully I'll get a bloody positive opk this month, unless I've gone into early menopause - last period was weirdly light and only 3 days

Hey Steaksauce long time no hear. I'll now have to add Bee pollen to my ever growing list of shit i take. Sometimes it feels as though it would be more fun to sit and throw tenners onto a fire. Glad you're still around though X

Thanks dudemeister! It's Bee Pollen, Royal Jelly and Bee Propolis combined in handy tablet form! I bet it does shag all. I'm such a mug. And I'm a scientist - I should know better

@MrsRL whats classed as the normal level for progesterone? just asking because I've got my results on 21st. Im sorry you're none the wiser too. Hopefully you'll get your BFP before the 3-4 months are up!

Steaksauce i like handy tablets lol i take a handful of them everyday! one more won't hurt. In terms of burning money, i may change my screen name to Pablo Escobar as he burnt a million. Mind you i think he burnt money for fun. This is not fun.

steak long time no see! I think I’ll be going MIA once this period makes an appearance too, I need a break! Bee pollen? Not heard of that as a preconception thing, is it in a capsule form or something? I mean, I think my tubes are blocked so I doubt it’ll help me but I’m willing to try anything at this point lol

Has anyone used castor oil packs and massage to try and break up adhesions? I’m thinking of giving it a go

Day 21 bloods back as ‘ normal - no action required’ but I have to wait for a callback for the actual figure as the receptionist can’t give them out.

Has anyone used conceive plus? I’m toying with giving it a crack this month...

Hi @Bubblegum89 yeah sometimes it’s good to step away for a bit this TTC malarky can get quite intense sometimes.

This is the stuff I’ve got. Not sure if its going to make any difference tbh.
But royal jelly is made specifically to make the queen bee pop out more eggs so if it works for her....

@Bubblegum89 think I’m going to be awol too. Been having toothache, went to dentist today and I’m grinding my teeth in my sleep which is stress induced also had reflexology last night and she said I was stressed. I need to relax and not focus on TTC so much. Cd14 and no + opk yet.

@dudemeister76 all I know is that my GP said my value indicated that ovulation had occured. I only happened to know the value because I ended up getting my progesterone test done privately because my 7dpo fell on a 3 day bank holiday weekend and I wasn't prepared to wait for a third month for the test, after the first month was a pointless test

Woman on train next to me on phone ‘blah is pg- first time, it’s been so easy for all my friends’. Aaaaahhhhhh who are these freaks!