TTC after pregnancy loss - Love is the Drug - and lots of vitamins - thread 14

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Shiny new thread. Hugs and supportive chat for those TTC after miscarriage or pregnancy loss ♥️

The things we do when we are ttc. I've just hurried home like a crazy cat to make sure I didn't miss my conceive lube and opk' s being delivered lol x

@TheGrumpySquirrel. My flo has been weird too and I'm heading off to the docs too. I hope they can give you soon reassurance x

Turns out my miscarriage is incomplete. Why is this process so completely awful??

I’m sorry zoo. Have they suggested the next step? It is a horrible process, and feels very hard to begin looking forward while you are still in the middle of it all. I hope you are ok. Xx

Zoo im so sorry, why are things never simple. Hope you get sorted soon xx

@Purplepjs I’m okay thanks, just completely fed up and want it all to be over. I think I’m cried out for the moment.

They’ve given me the standard options. I’m not interested in letting it pass naturally or trying medical management again in case it doesn’t work and I’m bored of the bleeding. Think I’m going to go for MVA. I’m less bothered about being awake given the baby has gone and this is just a clean up so to speak.

They can’t do it until next Friday though which is really frustrating. I’ve already taken that day off as that was the date of my 12 (well, 13) week scan, so at least it won’t be too intrusive work wise.

Oh Zoo i am sorry! That's the last thing you need to hear after all what's happened xx

Thanks @di626 and @BlueeSpottyTiger

All I can say is it had better be worth it!! They said I’d get an early scan next time I’m pregnant so that’s good at least...

Oh no @Zoo33 I'm so sorry to hear that. You poor love. I had an ERPC under general, so please feel free to ask any questions. Xxx

@LookingAtTheStars89 I hope your doctor's appointment went well.

@TheGrumpySquirrel hope your doctor's appointment tomorrow is helpful.

@beanhunter, how are you feeling today lovely? Xx

just need a small whinge if you don't mind...

been trying to avoid a play date for my son because I'm really not enjoying socialising at the mo, but got caught this morning and i knew he would love it. anyway, we went. the mum is pregnant and her due date is exactly the same as mine would have been (why do these coincidences happen???!). she got her 3D scan pics out for all the kids/adults to see. All totally reasonable and lovely, but I really, really struggled. The picture was so beautiful and I am so so so sad.

The play date has become a regular thing, so its at mine next week. I think its lovely in general, but I am just finding it so hard hanging out with this mum (she's totally lovely....just a 'bump' thing). And I can't even imagine how I'll feel once her little one is here. It will be exactly the same as mine would have been. I don't know her very well at all and she has no idea about our situation; I wouldn't share that with her.

Sorry, am feeling really sorry for myself tonight. I can talk to my OH about anything, but I don't want to. I really feel like I should be coping so much better than I am, but I'm sad every day. We have been trying for over a year now and my little boy is getting big (he's nearly 5), the age gap, if we manage another, is going to be so big. Urgh. Just feel sad.

Thanks for listening ladies. Apologies for wallowing in self-pity. xxx

Just started AF at 9 dpo 😪😪😪

Aww Purple :( situations like that are really hard to face! I did and do find the whole bump thing harder than seeing a baby. Even know im pregnant again i feel really sad when i see a lady with a bump as that should have been me.. due in 2months. I think your brave for facing her each week, I'm not sure i could. As for the age gap thing, I have 3 siblings. There is 20months between my sister(23) and i, 9 years between my brother(16) and then 15! Years between my little sister(10) and i. I totally love the big gaps! But like you personally want smaller gaps between my children. Don't let it make you sad though as there are upsides to having bigger gaps, they will be best of friends no matter what. I adore all my siblings although i wouldn't let them know that 🤗 your allowed to wallow here 💖💖💖 xxx

I have been AWOL for a while ladies because I just didn't know what to post, but basically, I am miscarrying again.

I was really surprised to find myself pregnant so soon after my mc in August at 11 weeks. My symptoms were different but stronger this time.

I felt more confident but was being cautious but then my worst fears came true on Weds when I started spotting at 6 weeks and 4 days.

The bleeding and cramping got worse and I was in hospital most of yday having tests. Got to go back tmrw to check my hormones again as basically the doctor isn't convinced I have miscarried but I totally have. The blood has been thick and period like and the pain much worse than last time.

This is my 4th mc this year. I can't believe it.

Next week I have my referral to the rmc anyway and also the service of cremation of my previous mc.

Not sure if it's possible to be numb and devastated at the same time but that's what I am feeling today.

Missmagpie, i truely am heartbroken for you & there are just no words. Xx

missmagpie i am so truly sorry :( i hope your have alot of support around you. Sending you a hug 💖 i don't even know what to say except i am so sorry xxx

Missmagpie I am so sorry 😔💔 I hope they can find out why it keeps happening. Thinking of you today

Update post GP - he doesn’t think my periods are concerning as I’ve had a baby (okay 13 years ago!) so cervix is going to be more open which means the blood comes out faster (I suspect mooncup also opens things up a bit). The fact that I am getting a decent amount of red blood is good. Half a cup to a full cup on the heavy day then 1/4 to 1/2 a cup on second day - I think that’s normal (it appears much less in the cup than it would on pads/tampons). This month there was much less brown crap after day 2, which is good (this is my 7th period post MC).

I had been on the POP since dd until starting ttc and only had 2 periods after stopping pill before I got pregnant which ended in MMC in May. So I don’t really know what my post pill period normal is to be fair.

GP thinks I am ovulating fine but wants to confirm with day 24 progesterone bloods and they will also check thyroid function and a ton of other things. But the first thing we are doing is sperm analysis (DH is not dd dad) as this may well be the issue.

Pregnacare before conception.. I caught the first month taking them

Hi all. Hope you don't mind me joining.
I had a mc on 10th october and starting to feel really down and frustrated about it again now. I've had years of gynae issues and expected it to take a long time to conceive but was lucky and caught on the first try. Unfortunately shortly after my bfp i had a huge bleed and knew it was all over. I was lucky to be well supported by my epu but was given false hope as the bleeding stopped immediately and my hcg was nice and high. Went for a dating scan on friday 13th (dreadful day) to see an empty uterus ☹. Have been temping, using opks and BDing since i got a bfn 2 weeks later.
I'm getting frustrated because my temps are all over the place, got a positive opk 2 weeks ago so thought I'd hit my 2ww but then started showing o signs with positive opks again a couple of days ago. Still getting bfn. Not had AF since the mc. Just wish something would happen!

Good luck to you all xx

missmagpie I am so so very sorry. I think numb and devestated probably sums it up perfectly. I wish there was something to say that would ease your pain. I am so sorry. Xxx

@MissMagpie I'm heartbroken to read your post. I am so so sorry. There's nothing I can say or do to ease your pain, but we are here for you if you need us. Xxxx

Hi All, I have to join; scan today confirmed I've miscarried - probably last weekend when I had cramps and bleeding. Still some 'product' left but just a small amount of blood so I just have to wait it out. We are so heartbroken; it was our first pregnancy, ttc for nearly 2 years.

I am so sorry Sooz. I wish there was something I could say to make it hurt less. We have all been there and will listen if you want to talk x

Kats welcome and I’m sorry for your loss it must have been awful to get that false hope. It might take a couple more weeks for AF to show. Good that you are getting BFN. Just keep swimming x

@Katsanddogs and @SoozC so sorry you are joining us here, but you'll find some excellent support from very lovely ladies.

@TheGrumpySquirrel glad the GP is going to do some bloods and a sperm analysis. How are you feeling today after your appointment? Xx

@MissMagpie I'm so sorry the world is treating you so unfairly. I hope you've got people you can lean on. Sending big hugs xxx