TTC after pregnancy loss - Love is the Drug - and lots of vitamins - thread 14

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Shiny new thread. Hugs and supportive chat for those TTC after miscarriage or pregnancy loss ♥️

Still have a flashing smiley and negative IC on CD 14! Arrrgh! This will be the latest I've ever ovulated, that's if I ovulate at all. DH and I managed to DTD once this weekend, so we'll have to make up for that when we are back home! That said, if I am going to ovulate, at least it'll be on our own house! Lol.

Hope you ovulate soon flat and well done for DTD whilst at parents!!!

Which basal body temp thermometer do people recommend? Quite a few on amazon but they don't seem to get good ratings.

Idk what it is with new parents and fb and sharing pictures of their babies with insensitive captions which make you feel like less of a mum because you don't have your child. I feel unconditional love too but I guess it must be a different form

Unicorns with my DD when she was born, I don't think i loved her straight away. I mean ofc i loved her because she is my baby but i feel like my love for her grew. I just remember a few weeks maybe even a month or 2? in it clicked. See i would never admit that at the time but even with your own baby you have to fall in love with them. Some women feel that love from day 1, I just never did. Dp tells me off when i say that but i can't help how i felt lol. I love her to the moon and back now she's my best pal 💖 i dno, I just feel it's a diff kind of love for her. A love I've never felt before.

How are you feeling? How many weeks are you now :) xx

Still got that bloody flashing smiley this morning, and my IC OPK is negative. I don't think I'm going to ovulate this cycle . It's CD 15 today, and I never ovulate this late. I hate how the miscarriage has well and truly messed up my body. It really hasn't been the same since.

@Flat ovulation can be delayed for a number of reasons including stress, so it's not impossible. I thought I was running up to ovulate at the weekend but still not had a positive. I have had the pre-ov temp dip that I had the cycle i conceived. On that one I ovulated on cd21. I'm on cd18 now. Think my DH is feeling the pressure to DTD but we need to the next 2 nights as he's away Wednesday

That has reassured me a bit @Daffodil77. Thank you. Xx

oh @flat am sorry this is happening. I can offer no suggestions/explanations other than know you are not alone and many of us are feeling this way. We WILL get there in the end. Then I think we should have a bloody big coffee morning with all our rainbow babies wriggling around causing chaos!

@unicorns - I've found it's mainly those women who haven't have a MC with these sorts of posts. Friends of mine who have had MC's are v sensitive about what they post because they realise others may not be so lucky/going through what they went through. I have found literally unfollowing everyone with kids on FB works for me!

Flat I have ovulated between cd15 to cd21 since I started tracking, I wouldn’t worry about it. Ovulation can be delayed for any number of reasons and the follicular phase can naturally be variable.

Unicorns echoing what blue said, it took me a while to fall in love with my dd too.

I’m cd16 today and temp has risen slightly but not enough. I’m also still getting ewcm so not ovulated yet, slightly annoying, but hey. Need to DTD again today at some point. I hate the pressure to do it takes the fun out completely!

flatwhite i usually ovulate on cd 13/14 always! And cycle immediately after mc i ovulated cd21 and this cycle cd19! So don't worry it's prob just taking a while to happen x
grumpy i hate the pressure too! I've had too much sex this month because my fertile window was estimated a week before it actually was 😐 I'll do it again today just to make sure then i think I'm done for this cycle 😂 how's your chart looking.. as you can see mines a mess lol

When would you say i ovulated? Yesterday or the day before? I think yesterday
My opks although darker than the test line at 8am on cd18 was literally purple yesterday like the surge increased more i don't know. And i know you usually count ovulation within 12-36hours after a postive.. do you think it's more likely i ovulated yesterday going off my temps? X

@BlueeSpottyTiger 6 weeks and generally I'm okay. Have a scan on Friday morning.

@coastalchick Sadly that seems to be the case. I get it, I really do, but don't caption things to make others feel crap when they don't have theirs. Maybe having your child every day is different to how I feel about mine, but come on, have some common sense.

I fell of this thread a little while ago but have been catching up periodically.

I've booked with the GP for a referral for tests, appointment is next Friday, but I'm now a day late and have had none of the usual spotting, boobs still sore etc. I'm going to test with a FRER on Wednesday if still no sign of AF, but feel crazy for hoping that it could finally be my time after 19 months since my ectopic.

Lord help me I’m off to see a psychic medium tomorrow 🙄😂😂

Hey all, I hope you are all ok. I have just received a letter from the hospital & I go in for my hysteroscopy next Monday 6th November, I’m so happy which hopefully means we’ll be on the ttc journey again😁 hugs & love to all❤️❤️

That’s great news lovemysparkle!

I was at the hospital this morning for a scan and my ovaries have gone berserk and produced at least five big eggs this iui cycle. Having the procedure on Wednesday, fingers crossed

@kerry that sounds promising does it?? I'm not really sure how happens with an iui, sorry if this sounds silly but does that mean that in theory all 5 eggs could be ovulated?!

@sparkle that's great that you have a date and that it is not ok far away!! Hope it all goes well.

@unicorns I'm 6 weeks today too and have a scan booked for next Tuesday. I'm going to be a bad of nerves and think I'm going to have to explain to the scanner why I'm so anxious and ask her to say immediately if a) there is something in the sac and b) if there is a heartbeat

Not silly Fillybee! The injection I take tonight should make one follicle rupture and the others stop developing but sometimes more than one ruptures - hence twins and triplets. Trying not go get my hopes up

Nice to see some good news @Lovemysparkle and @KerryLeanne84!

@UnicornsandRainbows1 and @Fillybee good luck with your scans. We'll be thinking of you!

I'm not feeling great today with a bad tummy from all the indulgence and travelling over the weekend! Not ideal when teaching! DH and I are currently in the GP waiting room waiting to be seen. He wanted an appointment about trying again, and to be fair to him he hasn't spoken to any medical professionals about anything since it all happened. Xx

Hi everyone. Can I please (tentatively) join this thread? Found out on Saturday I’d had a mmc, went to the hospital today to discuss my options and am booked in tomorrow morning for medical management. We’re hoping to start trying again as soon as possible (doctor on Saturday said to wait at least 6 months, which thankfully was not the view of today’s doctor)! I’m terrified about tomorrow and the next few days, and my emotions are all over the place, but I guess I’m trying to be positive and look forward to ttc’ing once again. Reading these posts is oddly comforting. Sorry for the ramble.

Zoo33 I'm so sorry. I had a miscarriage last Monday and I have found just reading these kind of threads have really helped to know I'm not the only one.

Hi @Zoo33. I'm so so sorry for your loss. This group is a fantastic support. There's also a secret Facebook group which you are more than welcome to join when you feel ready. I didn't have medical management (I had surgical) so I can't comment on how that went, but I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. Xx

Hi zoo. Welcome to the group, though I'm sorry you need to be here (if you see what I mean). No advice as I miscarried at home, but I just wanted to send a huge hug. Be gentle to yourself and rest lots. Xx

Wow @kerry so twins or triplets are a very real possibility?! Or quintuplets 🙈🙈 Are you on medication to stimulate the follicles or is the only meds you have the injection tonight? Good luck for Wednesday!! Have you had this procedure many times before? xx

@zoo so sorry to hear about your loss... I had medical management and I didn't react great to it. I had a small bleed the night I had the drugs then it tailed off and I was suspicious it hadn't worked but they said not to worry. Then 2 weeks later just as I was supposed to go back to work I had a huge bleed over a few hours and the sac passed then. I don't know if this was it finally 'working' or if this was it happening by itself at this point. My friend who had medical management at a similar time to me had literally the exact same thing happen, although she ended up having to have a second dose of the meds and then it still didn't work so she had to have the surgery anyway. Obviously this doesn't happen to everyone and many people report ok experiences using it so fingers crossed you will be fine, but stats show excessive bleeding does happen in 15% of cases. If I had a mmc again I think I'd have the surgical option.

I hope this post hasn't worried you, it wasn't my intention at all, I would just say if you feel like it hasn't worked, go back and ask for a scan to check, rather than leaving it like I did. All the best xxx

@Fillybee Ah I'm a day ahead. That's exactly my plan. Tell it to me straight and quickly, I don't need a 'Oh so we'll slowly look at the sac and it's so magical' bollocks. I need a yes or a no.

Good luck to them getting me on the bed though