TTC after pregnancy loss - Love is the Drug - and lots of vitamins - thread 14

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Shiny new thread. Hugs and supportive chat for those TTC after miscarriage or pregnancy loss ♥️

Sorry coastal...it's such a bloody rollercoaster isn't it?

Name:purplepjs
Age; 35
TTC: number 2
Cycle: 2 since mmc in July.
We have a gorgeous 4 year old. Been trying for number two for a year now with a mmc at 10 weeks in July. Took the summer off as I get HG in pregnancy so needed to recover. Been TTC again since September.

Just beginning our tww, but for some reason am completely convinced we're not pregnant this month. Think I got timings wrong (dh has a disability which affects all sorts, including being able to dtd, so we only really get one/two shots each month so have to time things really precisely). Felt really fed up over the weekend but have had a word with myself today!! It took 6 months to get pregnant with our son and our little bean, so am trying to keep that time frame in mind.

Hope you're all doing ok this evening...loved reading your romantics stories!! X

Ladies, would any of you be interested in a private Facebook group? On private groups nobody but the group members can see what you post. Let me know, and if there's enough interest I'll set one up.

I would Flat i only use fb for my DD's baby group and when i was in my March 2018 antenatal group.. sigh! Xx

I'm Grey, I'm in my late 30s (argh)
TTC No.2
3 mcs - one before DS, one this time last year, one last month.
Hoping a healthy pregnancy will happen for us soooooon!

@Flat I would be.

I’d be interested in the fb group too - so easy to keep a track of x

I would be flat I'm in an ante natal one for DD's birth month and it's great

I'm Juan, 39, TTC number 2
Started TTC in Jan, BFP in March Mc'd in May at 8 weeks and nada ever since

@flat. Yes, definitely

Count me in @Flatwhite32

I'm in flat

Great! I'm not actually 100% sure what I'm doing, so I'll look it up tomorrow and go from there.

I'd like to join too.

Yes I'll join!

@unicornsandrainbows how are you feeling this evening? I've also been having some sharp feelings and have pretty much convinced myself that with the nice range of miscarriages I've had so far this one is surely due to be an ectopic 🙄

So sick of being on tenterhooks all the time and convinced that every time I go to loo I'm going to see blood. Doesn't help that the progesterone pessaries mean it feels like you're constantly leaking. Just did a heparin injection and think I did it wrong as it really hurt and still hurts. So all in all feeling a bit poo at the mo. Usually I'm pretty good at not feeling hard done by but tonight I might just wallow! I am very grateful I'm pregnant but it's such a shame what an angsty time it is now xx

I think I need to be friends with one of you to get it started. Inbox me if you don't mind being that person! If I'm wrong about that, let me know. I'm fairly good on FB, but haven't set up a group before.

Great idea flat! I've set up secret groups before and you don't need to be friends but having the email addresses we use for Facebook is the easiest way to invite us to the group. People could pm you with those?

Aww filly you're totally allowed to feel fed up with it all. The magic has somewhat faded in all this hasn't it and that doesn't seem at all fair. I was thinking the other day that when/if I get a BFP, I won't know whether to smile or cry as then the real worry starts. Even my little boy adds the caveat 'if you have another baby in your tummy, and it lives...'. I feel awful the magic is gone for him too.

But take heart from each day done. You are doing well. Sending hugs. X

Hi I miscarriaged on Monday at 8 weeks after 8 months of ttc, I just hope it doesn't take as long to get pregnant again

Thanks @KerryLeanne84! PM me your emails everyone and I'll go from there. I'm going away tomorrow evening til Sunday (to the parents on my fertile days of all days!) so if it's slow to be set up that's why.

@Fillybee we definitely have the right to be fed up. I'm resentful that I'll NEVER in my life enjoy pregnancy, as I lost my first one. That's it for me now. It'll just be anxiety central from now on. We DTD tonight and while it was nice to be close to DH, all I could think about was TTC rather than sex. It sucks. Xxx

Hiya, I'm new to this thread and reading all the comments on here makes me realise I'm not alone in how I'm feeling. I found out I was pregnant 2 months ago...within a couple of days of finding out I suffered a miscarriage. We had been trying for over a year....coming up to 18 months in fact. I have irregular periods, always have done. Not posting really to ask any questions really just to get it off my chest. I'm finding it harder and harder to cope with. This is so not me, to share things so openly but I just don't know what to do. I've never felt so awful in my whole life. I feel like everywhere I turn people are announcing pregnancies and having babies. We have been trying to conceive as soon as I stopped bleeding and I had convinced myself that I was pregnant again this month . I had to pee more frequently, sore boobs...needless to say I feel like it's all I ever think about and i can't stop obsessing about it. I think I'm likely to be due on my AF today or tomorrow so did a test yesterday and was negative. I just need a hug

Sorry for the above rambles! X

@Fillybee that makes me feel a bit better. If I remember rightly we're like a dat apart or something. I'm sure it's not ectopic but they want to check it out. I just rang for peace of mind and then 111 wanted me to contact the GP surgery and be seen within two hours. So a Dr rang me ask, then they said to come in so I did (so went to work later) and they've referred me on for blood tests because obviously I'm too early for anything else really. Part of me thinks it's bugger all and normal, part of me thinks this seems horribly familiar (not that I had an ectopic last time).

What is this about a group? A secret fb one? Sorry I've only briefly skimmed through

@Disneyrules That's so shit. I'm sorry you're here. I'll give you all the hugs you want

Thank you @UnicornsandRainbows1 the husband is at work so I'm sat on the sofa like a loser with my dog who isn't entirely sure how to deal with me being a hormonal mess lol xxx