TTC after pregnancy loss - Love is the Drug - and lots of vitamins - thread 14

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Shiny new thread. Hugs and supportive chat for those TTC after miscarriage or pregnancy loss ♥️

Sorry @UnicornsandRainbows1 completely missed your post from earlier. Just read it now. Really hope they are just being precautionary, but I can totally understand your worries. I'm going to set up a FB group (secret) if you're interested in joining.

So sorry @Disneyrules and @Martydog. It's so hard, but the ladies here are lovely, and we really do understand how you both feel.

@Disneyrules I would love to say 'hey you're not a loser!'. Honestly I think we've all had those shitty days where you just sit there and feel like a waste of space, not because you're doing anything exactly, but because you feel nothing but crap and you can't drag everyone down there with you.

@Flatwhite32 I hope so. I'm going to feel like such a knobjocky later but I guess I'm not making them do anything so who knows! Oh that'd be good! Do I just PM you my email address?

Hi ladies I have missed loads as been working “like a Trojan” (that made me laugh coastal) so I have only skim read and hope to have a proper catch up when DH drives us to wales on Friday (1 more work day before a week off!). I work in finance, it’s pretty ruthless. Maternity leave is a big taboo. I’m going to take 6 months off, but I’d probably be better off taking 3. But family matters more than work so fuck it. Wish I hadn’t waited to start TTC but we wanted to be married first (I already have a dd from a previous relationship).

I met my DH when we were at school (teenage dream/heartbreak) but we had about 8 years of not talking in between and started dating again when I was 25 and he 27. Now we are 31&33 and got married last year. Started TTC in January 2017 and fell pregnant on cycle 3 but had a MMC at 10 weeks in May (baby was 8 weeks). Now cycle 6 post mc and not a whisker. 😔Acupuncture tomorrow! First session. I’m due to ovulate in the next few days / 1 week so hope it will help.

I’m not keen on FB so will stay on here only, I do have an account but hardly use it.

Huge hugs to all the new joiners

Unicorns I really hope all is okay x

@disneyrules I am so sorry you have joined us - def hugs all round.

@flatwhite31 I would really like to join the FB group please - I am not entirely sure how to find my FB email but I am sure I'll figure it out (maybe not at 4am!!).

My history
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TTC #2 I have a DD of 22 months
Conceived after 10 months - waiting for blood results but 99% sure had a MMC 2 weeks ago.

I met DH over 10 years ago but we didn't get together until 2011.... def feel I wasted time with other boyfriends but makes me appreciate what I have now all the more. Seeing his eyes well up with tears at the scan broke my heart.

I wish us all some good news stories very soon x

I'm out. AF arrived 3 days bloody early and 2 hours after I'd wasted my money and had to hover over a pot to do a FRER!!!

SO annoyed.

Anyway, nothing I can do other than troop down to shop for more tampax, pregnacare pre-conception, replenish the preg test stocks and wait.

OH is now on orders to not go out at all during FW week.

Oh I'm sorry coastal. It sucks. Be kind to yourself today. X

@Coastal I'm so sorry. It's such a rollercoaster every month. Even though we all know the chances of conceiving are actually quite slim every month, naturally you still cling to the hope that this will be your month.

I take the boots pregnancy supplements. It has pretty much the same stuff as the conception one and is cheaper. It also means that you can bulk buy it knowing that you'll still be able to use it if you get Pg.

I hope you've got some wine lined up tonight. Xx

Thanks ladies. Good to re Boots own. Will go seek those out!

After passing 2 small clots (about size of 2 peppercorns) it's stopped. Wtf is going on?!

Unicorns I'm thinking of you - I really hope you get positive results back asap. Early pregnancy is just the most worrying time.

Hope all is ok Unicorns. Thinking of you!

Argh Coastal that's so annoying... did you actually do the FRER?

Oops sorry my brain melted and I forgot how to to bold!

Oh sorry to hear about the bleeding @coastalchick. I've had very weird bleeding since my MC. Is it worth doing a pregnancy test just in case? Maybe a cheap one rather than an FRER?

I'll try and get started on the FB group today ladies, so feel free to PM me your email. Heading to parents' place tonight. They live on the north of Scotland, so it'll be the first time I've seen them since the MC. I remember my mum saying 'looking forward seeing your bump' when I last saw them in the summer. I'm fairly convinced baby died in their house when I was visiting in the summer (not that I knew at the time of course) so I've got mixed feelings about the visit to say the least. As I've previously mentioned, it's also my FW! Flashing smiley again this morning though. Knowing my luck I'll get my peak tomorrow! I'm actually hoping now it holds off til Sunday when we fly back in the evening!

Good luck Flatwhite bit of a squeaky headboard situation in my folks' house this weekend

Haha @GreyCloudsToday! I'm not sure DH will be able to, erm, 'perform' knowing my parents are in the house! Honestly can't believe the timing.

Thanks guys! Still waiting on a call. Knowing my luck it'll be just before I head out to work to make me look like a douche

Just wondering, has anyone else lost interest in pretty much everything since their mc? I'm fine with work - it has become my focus but I cannot be bothered with absolutely anything else.

I have @voxnihili. I unfortunately couldn't care less about work either. It's hard. Xxx

Yes same here. Also couldn’t care less about Work either. Just dragging my arse out of bed is a struggle 😕

Have pm’ed you Flat.

General question, Ovia seems to think I’m ovulating, but my opks have been negative. Two days ago I had an OPK that was negative but very close to positive. Subsequently from then, the second line has faded to nearly non-existent!

Is it possible I had a very short surge & missed my positive?

How do you inbox someone?

I have never managed a positive opk ever... at one point I did them 3 times a day from the day period finished til the next one started! I think they are a pile of crap 💩

I've tried setting the group up, but now I can't find it! It's called 'Mumsnet Hopefuls'. I typed all your email addresses in. Can someone let me know if it has worked? I put it as a secret group.

Have found it again! I went on Facebook on a computer, which I haven't done in years! The cover photo is a rainbow.

Have pm'd you Flatwhite32

@voxnihili - yep, just can't be stayed with anything anymore. No motivation whatsoever. Almost tempted to give up and buy a horse and a couple of dogs tbh

arsed damn autocorrect!!!