TTC after pregnancy loss - Love is the Drug - and lots of vitamins - thread 14

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Shiny new thread. Hugs and supportive chat for those TTC after miscarriage or pregnancy loss ♥️

I met dp when we was at school, i was in year 10 and he was in year 11. I was 15 and I've just turned 25 and we've been together 10 years in Jan and have our Beautiful little 21month old DD. My childhood sweetheart he is hehe xx

@Ema1984 that's really sweet of you. Thank you.

@BlueeSpottyTiger aww love a childhood sweetheart story! So lovely ❤️.

@mummykezza I'm taking 75mg a day.

@Ema that's lovely of you to look at how you can support her. I'd suggest looking at the miscarriage association Facebook page and looking at their "Say/don't say" campaign. I think a lot of people struggle with people dismissing it as it's not real loss. But I can also appreciate that sometimes things are said innocently to try and make the person feel better. Looking at this might help you with what to say.

@BlueeSpottyTiger That's pretty awesome.

DH and I met just after we finished school and started dating when we were 18. 10 years together next year and even though we've been through some struggles like being long distance for years whilst he did uni, I seriously think if I had gone through this with anyone else it'd be a completely different story. Fuck knows how he's put up with me 😊

Just catching up on messages - @yellowfrontdoor I am so sorry for assuming it was a postive story for you I feel awful. It sounds like the counselling session was very productive and I hope today you were able to do something nice.

@weasledee I am so sorry it is such a heartbreaking time there is really nothing else I can say.

I like reading about how and when peoplr got together 💖

I have no clue what's happening with my body. My opks are darkening.. then lightening and it carries on.. my temps are up and down everywhere! Obz my body is trying to ovulate but then probably not. I'm still only on cd 15 but would have normally ovulated day 13/14. I'm just going to keep dtd every day (expect last night- seriously cba😐) and hope for the best!

DP and I met online (pof - classy) when I was 26 and he was 36. We met for the first time 2 days after sending a message. I'd practically moved in a month later. That was over 6 years ago. We're not married and have no plans to marry. Started TTC almost 2 and a half years ago.

I agree it’s really lovely listening to how you met your dp’s!! I was on my own for 12 years from when I was pregnant with ds at 25 until I was 37🙈🙈 ds’s dad never been around so I just concentrated on being the best mum, building a home & work etc (I am a dental nurse worked at same place for nearly 22 years) when I met dp I knew from the offset that he was the 1❤️ My ds & older brother have always been very close & ds defo needed that male role model but thankfully my ds & dp idolise each other like 2 peas in a pod & dp is the dad ds has always wanted, ds is changing his name when we marry ❤️ ( his decision) ds was so upset when I mc & keeps asking when we are trying again, we both talked to ds & explained everything ds was very grown up about it especially being a typical 13 year old!!!

Loving the love stories! @Lovemysparkle that's so adorable about your DS.

Day 2 of flashing smiley here. We didn't DTD last night as I just wasn't in the mood at all. Will definitely start tonight. I can't help but feel the Miscarriage has taken the fun out of DTD. I'm not in the mood as much these days.

Ahh some lovely stories on here 😊 I met my dp after 4 years of being single and pretty much having given up on men. We met at a mutual friends Birthday party, I never even thought he would want a relationship as he is 5 years younger than me and was only 20 at the time! But we moved in together after 4 months and here we are nearly 7 years later. We’re getting married in December next year and desperately want some mini me’s! We just can’t wait to be a little family 😊

Currently in my 2ww I think! First cycle after mmc. Seeing as I’m never bloody able to record any actual ovulation I am just guessing 🙄 but dtd loads this last week so fingers crossed 🤞

Much love and hugs to anyone that needs it 😘😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗🤗

Flat- it’s really understandable how you are feeling about dtd especially when you have been feeling very emotional & low, & it’s hard to get that nice happy medium about dtd as of course you want to be intimate with your oh’s but also want to ttc your rainbow 🌈 baby, it really is a tough one & Sod’s law when you feel ready your af shows up early or stupid spotting starts!!! I really admire you all with all of your charting, vits, acupuncture etc we have been lucky to fall pregnant & tmi🙈🙈 dtd maybe 5 times a week whether I’m ovulating or not ( I’m making up for 12 years being single🙈) I personally have found our dtd has been more affected when we have had to use protection for tests/polyp removal etc like now I know for a fact I’m very close to ovulating & I’m still waiting for appointment from hospital!! I have never done opk’s bbt or charts have considered it though!! I think there is no right or wrong way about how/when you dtd I would say just give yourself the time/space you need everyone is different, you have to do what’s right for you❤️❤️

Have changed my username to flatwhite32 to reflect my new age!

@Flatwhite32 Now what will I do with your old username which seems to have added itself to my auto correct?

Stowie- my dp is 5 years younger than me as well🙈 just goes to show that love really does conquer all❤️ When I first met dp I was worried I was a bit old for him (worried about his mum & dad thinking I was to old as well) but I needn’t have worried!! Dp has 2 nieces & a nephew who’s 5 months & I know it twinges his heart we see them very regularly, dp is so good with them! When we found out our baby had died dp’s brother & sil were at the same hospital at the same time finding out the sex of their baby ( the Now 5 mth old nephew) they both came straight to us & I remember us all hugging & crying together they were great support & still are. I so want a baby with dp as you all do with your dp’s I really hope we all get there soon ❤️❤️❤️

@Lotty515 please don’t feel bad!

Maybe it’s time to do a roll call again?

Name: yellowfrontdoor
Age: 35 (for a few more weeks!)
Cycle: 3 since mc
Cycle day: 15
History: pg in January, mc’ed in April.
Pg again in May, mc’ed in July.

I'm taking aspirin mummy

Good idea re the roll call!

Name: Kerry

Age: 33
Cycle: 21 trying for number 1, 2 since miscarriage
Cycle day: 5
History: started ttc late 2015, diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Had 2 iuis on the NHS, fell pregnant after 2nd and miscarried at 12 weeks (baby died at 9)

Age - nearly 36
Cycle 35 ttc #2
History - 3 mc, 2 at 6 weeks (2011 and 2015), 1 mmc at 12 weeks in August 2017, 2 failed ivf, 1 amazing 5 year old dd. 2nd cycle post mmc, now in 2ww. Feeling rather over the whole ttc thing.

So I've had some (not constant) sharpish one-sided pains for the last week and just figured I'd ring for my peace of mind. Anyway, 111 now want a gp to deal with me within the next 2 hours and I'm now waiting on a gp call. Fml -__- Also meaning im probably now missing my shift as well.

Just a quick one as I'm at work, Today I saw the Dr I saw in the recurrent miscarriage clinic (his office is near mine and he popped in to follow up about the NK cell research stuff) and I asked him about low dose aspirin again "for a friend" i.e. You guys! I asked if best to take it only when you get bfp (I almost actually said "bfp") or while you are ttc and he said guidance advises only when pregnant. He said if you know you ovulated then you could start it a week after you ovulate x

Obvs this is just generic advice and doesn't take into consideration any conditions you may or may not have

Hi everyone
I’m new too - have been reading your thread over the last few days and felt like I really wanted to join you here to exchange support ❤️

Here is a bit about me
Age 31
Cycle: #1 since my last two miscarriages (2 chemicals in a row)
History: we started ttc in 2012 and had a mmc in 2013, then an early miscarriage in 2014. I then started taking thyroxine as I have had a thyroid surgery and we have a lovely 2 year old boy born in 2015. This summer we decided to try for another baby and I was very naive thinking it would all be fine and easy now but we had two consecutive chemicals, one in July and one in August. We didnt try in september to give ourselves a break but back on trying from this month although dtd has become a bit of a chore and we certainly arent trying as much as we should. Kind of lost direction a bit again and I’m also worried as I thought we had found the cause of the problem (thyroid) but now my levels are fine and miscarriages keeps happening (4 in total). All tests have so far come back clear although dh hasn’t been tested since last time which was back in 2014. I dont know what to do, has anyone got any info on why recurrent chemical pregnancies might be happening? Anything I can do? Not taking baby aspirin or anything else apart from 5mg folic acid -do you guys recommend anything I should ask docs for?

Love to all and fingers crossed that by Chrisrmas we will have all seen bfps that end up in healthy squishy babies ❤️

Hi all, can I tentatively join you guys please? :)

I'm 30 and already have one son born August 15. We started TTC again in July this year. I fell pregnant first cycle and went for a private scan at 8 weeks to find baby stopped growing several weeks previous. Obviously I was heartbroken. :( I had surgery on 21st Sept and I've just had my first AF since the surgery.

So now we start again. We've been lucky enough to conceive first cycle for both pregnancies so I can imagine I'm going to get very frustrated if we are not so lucky this time around!

Welcome and sorry to see you here (in the nicest possible way!)

Name: Daffodil77
Age: 30
Cycle: 3/4 since MC but they've been very short so far
Cycle day: 12
History: TTC #1, Pg on 3rd cycle, MC'd at 7/8 weeks. Suspected but unconfirmed ectopic which resolved by itself.

Having more cm so building up to fertile time. Pleased it's much later in the cycle than last month (cd8?!)

Hello new Ladies! Sorry for you losses 💖
unicorn i hope your okay!? Did you get seen?

Stats-
Age 25
ttc #2
DD- 20months

Had DD with a Healthy Pg but suffered with HG and was induced due to pre eclampsia in the end. Started ttc #2 in March and got pregnant cycle 3 and had early mc at 5's in May. Fell pregnant again after 2 cycles and haf mmc at 12+5 on the 8th of Sep. Baby died at 9+5 now I'm on cd 15 of my first proper cycle after mc.

I cried at work today! A lady was talking about her early mc right behind my chair saying how she's not arsed about it and so on.. only been with her bf a month. I could feel my eyes filling up and then came the floods. My manager saw me crying and knew what I've been through and just looked at me concerned but didn't take me away so i was just sat at my desk! 😐

Think I'm out ladies. 10dpo and a lot of pink just now when wiped and cramps. I think it's AF (due sun) rather than implantation as had pink from sat and don't think implantation can last 5 days.

About me:

Age: 39
Cycle 2 tic number 1
CD: 26
History: Conceived first time on cycle 1 in July. MMC end August. Fed up. Wish had met OH earlier instead of being engaged to a complete nob head for almost 4.5 years and wasting my fertile years with him then working like a trojan and dating stupid idiots. Want to plan wedding but can't as need bambino to come first. Just opened a bottle of red.