TTC after pregnancy loss - Love is the Drug - and lots of vitamins - thread 14

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Shiny new thread. Hugs and supportive chat for those TTC after miscarriage or pregnancy loss ♥️

Oh weasel I am so sorry to hear your news. Sending love and strength to you.

I am also in the tww juan and bean. I got my static smiley on day 21 like always so hopefully my cycle is back to normal. I have a 12 day luteal phase so def not testing before that.

Is anyone taking baby aspirin? I don't know whether to or not. I have had 3 mcs but still awaiting test results and my rmc appt so no idea why. I did have some huge clots when I last miscarried though. Literally the size of my fist. Is that normal? Could it indicate a clotting issue? What do you all think re baby aspirin? The Internet is not conclusive one way or the other!

@yellow - so sorry. This must be so tough. Know what you mean about feeling numb. Hugs. x

I did a FRER this morning and couldn't be more negative. First response website said I could test today. Part of me hoping it's too early but I think deep down I know. I just don't "feel" pregnant this time, whereas last time I did.

Did an IC OPK also and a mid-range line (in terms of darkness). But o had the weird set of smiley flashings last month towards end of cycle whilst I was away just before AF apprared so wondering if it's that again. Which suggests to me I'm not ovulating after the MC.

At 39 not sure whether to go and seek help now. My amazing gynae just retired. If she was still practising I know all I'd have to do is write to her and she'd have me straight in for tests. But she's gone now.

Had a good old cry to OH this morning, I'm 40 next sept. Just feels like we met too late and we are running out of time. Know he feels incredibly guilty for not proposing earlier (which he shouldn't). We just feel so in limbo. Can't plan wedding or anything for next year "just in case".

Sat in loo at work typing this as can't focus. Just want to go home but can't as had 2 weeks off sick after MC and law firms don't tolerate sickness

Big hugs yellow ⭐️ Sounds like you're doing as well as you can be today

Costal i would say too early! Don't worry. The earliest I've ever had them is ay 9dpo but i only have a 12day lp. Sorry your feeling down, 40 is still young in baby making terms these days. Would you ever consider and fertility help in the future?Goodluck thats it's just too soon to get yout bfp & A big Hug xx
Yellow thinking of you 💖 xx

My temp is sooo erratic! It's up and down like a flipping yoyo! And my opks are starting to darken again today. Weird!!!

Big hugs @yellowfrontdoor. There are no words. Just love, hugs and kind thoughts. Xxxx

Coastal- I feel the same about wishing I’d met dp earlier!! I’m nearly 39 & he’s nearly 34 (I also wish I was his age🙈) we are nearly a year on from our 1st loss (had 2 other mc’s) & are trying to wait patiently just waiting for polyp to be removed & then back to the start line again! I also get planning everything around ttc & having a baby we have done this all of this year but we have gone ahead & booked our wedding (June 2018) as we were getting upset with the “what ifs “ etc. Dp is my rock & soul mate & also hoping 2018 is our year cos quite frankly 2017 can do one!!!! I hope 2018 is great for us all❤️ Hugs to all

Really sorry weasel and yellow.

@MissMagpie - I've just started taking aspirin but like you not sure whether to or not. I have really light periods and when I had a scan I thought it looked like my uterus lining was thin from the results. They didn't discuss that with me as it wasn't the purpose of the scan.

I've just bought a thermometer called a femometer. Was a little extravagant at £50 (along with all the vitamins, OPK sticks and conceive plus I've bought) but it syncs automatically to the app on my phone so should make it fairly easy. I figured as we're going to go to a fertility clinic after Christmas I may as well try everything first.

Weasel I hope the news will be good for you keeping everything crossed 🤞🏽 big hugs to you & your family ❤️❤️

Well I met my oh at 21 but we didn't start trying till I was 30 and we're still in this boat! I often think that we should have started trying earlier but then I remember the saying about 'shoulding all over yourself'! There's no point stresssing about things you can't control and I definitely can't build a time machine.

Had my first scan earlier to see what my ovaries are up to. I start daily injections tomorrow and then will hopefully have the iui next week. 🙏🏻

@bluee - thank you. Just words, any words, help! Feel I can't keep moaning to OH.

@lovemysparkle - omg we are in same boat! My OH turned 34 in June! I do wonder whether we just go for it wedding wise but (perhaps rather stupidly) I just want to be thin for my wedding day (I've put over 2 stone on in last year) and be able to have a raucous hen/wedding day so wanting it after bambino. But being married to OH is also v important to me. Think we just don't want to spend the money on a big day if it's not going to be exactly how we want (would rather put it towards extending house!) and we don't just want a small one either as we think that might be boring!

I met DH at 28. We started messaging in March 2014 on match.com then met in April at my local. I knew as soon as I met him that we were going to get together! Unlike so many previous bad dates that I'd been on, we just clicked. We then 'officially' got together in May 2014. He moved into my flat in June 2015. He proposed in February 2016 and we got married in February this year when I was 31 and he was 36. All quite quick, but he's nearly 5 years older than me (he'll be 37 in January) and it all just felt right. I came off the pill not long after the wedding, hoping maybe for a honeymoon baby. However, we conceived in June which was the first month I took TTC a bit more seriously with OPKs etc. We were so happy, but I'm glad to say that apart from a couple of hiccups, the MMC has brought us even closer.

I LOVED our wedding and our honeymoon. Whenever I feel down, I look at our photos from both, and they always cheer me up. Best days of our lives without a doubt!

Coastal- I completely hear you with wedding planning!! We both agreed after all of the emotional stress/loss of our babies that we just wanted to marry also we just bit the bullet & booked as we are afraid that “life”/finances would get in the way so we just said sod it & booked everything (saving really hard at the moment) with everything it has been such a happy thing to plan & a really good project for me & dp to do together, when the chips are down dp gets our wedding file out & I’m soon out of my “fuck the world I want my baby back” emotional snotty state!! It’s a personal choice coastal (the right one for us) & I have thought about hen weekend/dress etc but my friends have said if I’m pregnant at my hen do they’ll do a night out after I had a baby & my wedding dress is easily altered👍🏼 So easier said than done I know but we are trying to live our life &not be dictated by the “what ifs” I must learn to take my own advice when I’m having a “fuck the world day” 😬😬

Flat- me & dp were pretty quick met June 2016 he moved in with me & ds December 2016 (pregnant with 1st mc) he proposed in April we treated ourselves to a weekend away at a de vere hotel (looks like downtown abbey) he proposed in the grounds & we marry next June ❤️ Your meeting & marrying with your dh sounds so lovely.... I have to give a lot of credit to my dp I have been very emotionally difficult at times but he is always there to catch me when I fall...

Ahh your stories sound lovely. I met my OH when we were both 18. Will have been together for 20 years this New Years. Can't believe it. We have a 2 and a half year old and I'm 38. Definitely kick myself sometimes for leaving it too late, especially now it's so hard to ttc number 2.

However, as my OH says, we wouldn't have been the same parents to our boy 20 years ago, even 10 years ago, as we are now. It's easy to think "what if" but don't let it get you down. We make the best choices at the best time of our lives xx

Thanks ladies! Love all your romance stories - they cheer me up!

flat - love the 'we clicked' when you met online! 😹

Me and oh met on MySpace for anyone that remembers it!

Kerry - I loved Myspace! That's so sweet :)

Haha @KerryLeanne84 no pun intended! My DH did say in his speech how much I 'cost' lol! We always joke about that. I paid £15 which was a 'special offer' at the time hahaha! Loving reading your stories ladies. Xxx

Meant to say @KerryLeanne84 I do remember MySpace! I was more of a bebo girl though! God that feels SO long ago now!

Hi, can I please join your thread? Early MC sometime in September. Just got AF and feel quite deflated and annoyed by the whole thing. Think I'll wait a few months and start again :) fingers crossed for 2018!

flat - it was so long ago now!

@KalaLaka - welcome and sorry (in the nicest possible way) that you are here! It's a good group with lots of support.

God yes, bebo and myspace, remember those!

We were another internet miracle - tinder! Though we were both on pof too. My OH messaged me on Tinder (after we both clearly swiped right) saying "you are one of the better looking 36 year olds on here" (as I was 36 when we met in Dec 2014) and some whacky emoticon thing. I gave him short shrift and only bothered to "speak" to him properly when I saw him on pof and his profile read like he was actually not a nob!!!! Went to meet him in a bar on 13 Dec 2014 and the rest is history!

Hi, everyone
I was reading your posts, and I was touched by each of them. I joined to the community as a support. My sister, younger two years than me, had a miscarriage couple months ago... It was the difficult time for all of us in the family. So, I just wanted to connect with girls with the same problem, so I could help her as much as I can. She can start trying again in a month, so we are all holding fingers crossed!

Hi, everyone
I was reading your posts, and I was touched by each of them. I joined to the community as a support. My sister, younger two years than me, had a miscarriage couple months ago... It was the difficult time for all of us in the family. So, I just wanted to connect with girls with the same problem, so I could help her as much as I can. She can start trying again in a month, so we are all holding fingers crossed!

Can I ask how many of you are taking aspirin?

I was a bit torn but read more positive then negative so have been taking one 75mg per day