35+ TTC #1 thread 2!

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We maxed out our last thread, so I've started another one for us!

Welcome, all those over 35 who are ttc number 1! Whether you're just starting out or you're an old-timer, come and chat with others who know what it's like to feel as though time is not on your side. When you feel like all your friends and family your age already have children and you need someone to moan to, we are here!

@Spargle really am thinking of yous and can imagine your dh wouldnt be in the best form - its not easy news for you both to take in but stay positive in fact that something can be done, why can it not be an easy journey

Welcome @Wednesdays2cats its definitely not an easy journey & i always feel worse when hear of pregnant friends as it just makes it hit home that bit harder. All my friends seem to have babies or are pregnant so find myself avoiding them in order to protect myself & also that is their topic of conversation when together so i feel like a lemon sitting there 🙄

Hello All
How are you? I'm still in the 2ww resisting the urge to poas. Still waiting for my blood results. After reading several threads I think I'm going to add grapefruit juice and sweet potato to my diet. I'm also going to take evening primrose oil and buy some preseed.
I sound a little crazy and I know I'm not out this month yet but I feel having a new plan for next month helps with staying positive. (Although this didn't work yesterday when I cried my eyes out to my sister)
Keeping my fingers crossed for you all

@cobby81 I am with you in the tww dtd much more this month especially around fw so feeling hopeful but part of me thinks it won't be this month trying to keep positive and holding out until af is late (sits on hands)
Goodluck

Hi everyone, hopefully works out for some of us this month. Im on cd 7, have started taking eve primrose oil & red raspberry leaf tea which will take to ovulation. Ive had 2 very early losses so hoping this helps my lining🤷🏻‍♀️. like you @Cobby81 i feel better if i am trying something x

AF got me a couple of days ago. So I’m on CD2 and gearing up for the next cycle. Going to follow a Sperm Meets the Egg plan, also using preseed and digital ovulation sticks. Also flying home in March to visit my clinic and have a chat about next steps.
Have any of you heard of this book - Pregnancy Approach. Guarantees to get pregnancy after 60 days, apparently, it’s all about holistic approach
www.pregnancyapproach.org
I bought a copy and happy to share it with you, it’s in PDF format. Just PM and I forward it to you.

@Russkispy going to try follow smep myself this month. Cd 8 today so may get started tonight lol!! If you dont mind sending it ill pm you - thats very kind x

Di626, the plan starts from CD8, go girl! I’m gearing up for the next week action haha
Some of you might not know but we’re TTC for #2. We had our DD last June. Through IUI, paid privately back home.
I’ve also attached recommended foods to eat while TTC. I had fertility acupuncture last year and my acupuncturist sent me that list

Welcome newbies! Hope to hear some BFPs soon.

@di626 @wednesday2cats - it's hard when you're TTC and it hasn't happened and then everyone around you seems to get pregnant easily. My SIL got pregnant super quick (2 months!) with 2nd child at 39 and they started telling people around the time our 1st embryo transfer failed. My mum actually stopped them from telling me as she thought I would be too upset (they knew we were TTC for some time but didn't know we were doing IVF).

@Spargle - My DP had slight motility problem (can't recall stats exactly, but not bad enough that natural conception was ruled out) and ICSI worked perfectly. I also heard of someone who conceived via ISCI due to husband's motility, but then conceived naturally later on.

@Janefx40 - hope IVF is progressing well. Do you have little pin-prick bruises on your tummy? I did!

@Russkispy - better luck next month.

@cobby81 - pharmacist told me to wait until 14DPO to test as doing it earlier means less accurate result. When I got my BFP it was at 14 DPO (10 days after embryo transfer) & it was strong line that appeared quickly.

I'm now 26 weeks and apart from getting bigger/slower and more easily tired, everything is fine. However, I'm aware that many health problems arise in 3rd trimester, so not out of woods yet. I'm currently fighting my 3rd (FFS!) cold of this winter. I didn't know that pregnancy naffs up your immune system making you susceptible to everything, and you can't take hardly any medicines (not even Strepsils!) .

New job is great althought quite full on, but part of this is me adapting to new role/getting used to consultancy again after being in a university for 2 years. They're relaxed about my maternity leave and are doing everything correctly. I've said I want to take 6-7 months off then come back 4 days a week and that's fine .

@Blueberry1 great to hear you are so far on & generally keeping well!!

@Russkispy ah we may dtd tonight, we were shattered last night after busy day & fell asleep 🙈! Quickly read through the book - interesting! I currently go to reflexology & firm believer in it. Might start acupuncture - its just the expense!! We will hopefully get blood test results this week for RMC, really hoping they show up no problems 🤞

Blueberry1 So glad you are doing well. I'm afraid I already did poas stick and you won't be surprised to hear a BFN yesterday and this morning. I was hoping I was going to be one of those people who got their BFP 11dpo or 12 dpo although I'm getting my usual pms cramps so I'm fairly sure I'm out.

So now I'm reading, It starts with an egg. How much q10 did you take this book says 200mg so two of the standard Tesco tablets. My sister thinks I'm being a bit extreme and luckily DP is in work so he can't see how much time I'm focusing (well probably obsessing) on this. But I think I will crumble if I stop looking at possibilities to improve the chances of getting pregnant.

blondecat How long are you going to wait before you test? Fx for you.

di626 What does the raspberry leaf tea do?

Baby dust to everyone

@Cobby81 apparently helps the uterine lining, since ive had 2 early losses im hoping it might help with better implantation or thicker lining but sure who knows in this game🤷🏻‍♀️!

@Cobby81 hopefully you arent though i know its hard to stay positive after bfn's!

@blueberry1 glad to hear you are progressing nicely fx for a smooth 3rd trimester.
@cobby81 I am sure af on Wednesday though was couple of days late last cycle so who knows. I think I will test Friday if nothing showing by then. (still sitting on hands trying to be strong and not cave before then as would rather just get af than another bfn)

Due not sure

@di626 Thank you. I'll have a look at it.

@blondecat I think it's a good thing I'm out of the early tests so I will have to wait until AF due (probably Friday give or take a day).

Hi ladies id like to join this thread if you don’t mind. I’m 39 next month, ttc#1, 2mc. Came off cerazette in last June, smear in July all good (had minor treatment last time hence waited for all clear before ttc) pregnant August Mmc/chemical 5 weeks, same thing again December both 5 weeks to the day. But Cycle otherwise seems healthy 28 days.

Using OPKs, dtd before during and after ov this month. Af due Thursday 😬 when I tested early in the past it was always bfn until af actually due.

Today I think I may have symoooms, tender/ nausea but then worried it’s psychosemmatic!

I think I actually hate this.

Good luck to you all. It’s hard but we just have to keep trying x

@Cobby81 If I recall correctly, I took 600mg of coenzyme Q10 (3x 200mg capsules) per day (for about 9 months...). I also took maca (3x 1250mg capsules), and 2x pre-conception vitamins on a daily basis. Oh & I already took a daily (seed oil; am vegetarian) omega 3-6-9 supplement for other reasons, but I think it can help fertility. DP used to goggle at my "pill popping" .

Fertility clinic consultant said evidence was weak for Maca & CoQ10, but they wouldn't do any harm. He also said vitamin D was important. NB: had to stop taking all supplements when I started IVF drugs then restart pre-conception vitamins upon embryo transfer.

CoQ10 is supposed to improve egg quality & mine turned out to be very good especially for 41 (the embryologists were rather enthusiastic!) despite low-ish ovarian reserve. IVF retrieved only 7 eggs but all fertilised (not typical even for much younger women) and 3 made it to 5 day (blastocyst) stage. 1st embryo was BFN & 2nd is the 26 week baby currently doing gymnastics in my womb! Can't know if CoQ10 was responsible; eggs might have been good anyway.

Hi Guys

@Blueberry1 I am 5 days post 3 day transfer. All fine tho I have a headache which is worrying me as I usually get them when my hormone levels drop pre-AF. Everything is worrying me at the moment actually and mostly I worry that my worry will prevent implantation so it's a massive cycle!

Good luck to all of you testing this week. Fx for some BFPs

Welcome new people and fingers crossed for you @Janefx40! The not worrying is so hard!

AF finally arrived today after torturing me by being four days late! I’d been having cramps since Friday though so suspected it was on its way. This cycle was a lot more like my pre-IUS ones were in terms of being longer and having cramps for a few days pre-AF so I’m taking it as a positive sign that my body is getting back to normal again.

So onwards to cycle #6. Good luck to all of you still in 2ww, hope you get BFPs.

Ah sorry about AF @Darkstar4855 it always sucks even if you are expecting it xxx

Thanks. Suspect I probably ovulated a bit later and that’s why I didn’t pick up my surge this month. Going to supplement the CB with some afternoon cheapie OPKs this cycle as a back-up and keep going a bit longer if it doesn’t show!

@janefx40 - you can't worry an embryo into not implanting, so you can stop worrying about that! I started getting AF like cramps after 2nd transfer & was convinced it hadn't worked (told DP that) & that only reason I was late was due to progesterone supplements. I was TOTALLY WRONG & my lack of positive thinking didn't change anything...

Am curious; why 3 day transfer? I thought 5 day was now common practice (I don't recall anything else being mentioned)? Mind you an embryo that will implant at 5 days will implant at 3, so I guess it doesn't matter. Hoping very much you get BFP .

Thanks @Blueberry1 for the reassurance. It's good to hear.

My clinic do quite a few Day 3s. They feel that an embryo does better in the uterus than the lab. It's true that Day 5 transfers have a better rate of pregnancy but this is because if they don't make it to blastocyst stage, they won't progress. So you have more chance of disappointment by doing Day 3 but they think there's a chance that some may make it, who wouldn't have otherwise.

They say that if they can tell which embryos are best at Day 3 (or they only have 2-3) they will transfer, if not they wait. It is also a numbers game. They specialise in women who have not succeeded elsewhere so would habitually not get loads of embryos.

This is probably also why they like to put in 3 if you are over 40!

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@janefx40 - that makes sense. I only had 3 good embryos, but did single transfer as under no circs did we want twins. Clinic would have let me transfer 2, but didn't promote it at all.