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35+ TTC #1 thread 2!

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SoozC · 17/10/2017 21:28

We maxed out our last thread, so I've started another one for us!

Welcome, all those over 35 who are ttc number 1! Whether you're just starting out or you're an old-timer, come and chat with others who know what it's like to feel as though time is not on your side. When you feel like all your friends and family your age already have children and you need someone to moan to, we are here!

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SoozC · 20/01/2018 17:50

Hi All, af arrived today. My two post-mc cycles have been longer than usual - 36 days compared to 29 - which I wasn't expecting. We dtd at the wrong time this cycle as I assumed I'd go back to normal. So a bit frustrating and I'm upset that af has arrived again; going to book some counselling to see if that helps with my emotions about ttc and the mc and everything.

Keeping my fingers crossed one of us has a bfp before too long. I feel we're due another sometime soon! x

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SoozC · 20/01/2018 17:51

Hi All, af arrived today. My two post-mc cycles have been longer than usual - 36 days compared to 29 - which I wasn't expecting. We dtd at the wrong time this cycle as I assumed I'd go back to normal. So a bit frustrating and I'm upset that af has arrived again; going to book some counselling to see if that helps with my emotions about ttc and the mc and everything.

Keeping my fingers crossed one of us has a bfp before too long. I feel we're due another sometime soon! x

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SoozC · 20/01/2018 17:51

Hi All, af arrived today. My two post-mc cycles have been longer than usual - 36 days compared to 29 - which I wasn't expecting. We dtd at the wrong time this cycle as I assumed I'd go back to normal. So a bit frustrating and I'm upset that af has arrived again; going to book some counselling to see if that helps with my emotions about ttc and the mc and everything.

Keeping my fingers crossed one of us has a bfp before too long. I feel we're due another sometime soon! x

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SoozC · 20/01/2018 17:51

Hi All, af arrived today. My two post-mc cycles have been longer than usual - 36 days compared to 29 - which I wasn't expecting. We dtd at the wrong time this cycle as I assumed I'd go back to normal. So a bit frustrating and I'm upset that af has arrived again; going to book some counselling to see if that helps with my emotions about ttc and the mc and everything.

Keeping my fingers crossed one of us has a bfp before too long. I feel we're due another sometime soon! x

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SoozC · 20/01/2018 17:52

Hi All, af arrived today. My two post-mc cycles have been longer than usual - 36 days compared to 29 - which I wasn't expecting. We dtd at the wrong time this cycle as I assumed I'd go back to normal. So a bit frustrating and I'm upset that af has arrived again; going to book some counselling to see if that helps with my emotions about ttc and the mc and everything.

Keeping my fingers crossed one of us has a bfp before too long. I feel we're due another sometime soon! x

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SoozC · 20/01/2018 17:53

Hi All, af arrived today. My two post-mc cycles have been longer than usual - 36 days compared to 29 - which I wasn't expecting. We dtd at the wrong time this cycle as I assumed I'd go back to normal. So a bit frustrating and I'm upset that af has arrived again; going to book some counselling to see if that helps with my emotions about ttc and the mc and everything.

Keeping my fingers crossed one of us has a bfp before too long. I feel we're due another sometime soon! x

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di626 · 20/01/2018 18:34

Hi everyone, hope you dont mind me joining.

Im 35, nearly 36. I do have a DS who is 11 by a diff partner. I feel like i am trying for no 1 again as so long ago & would love to give dh a child.

I have been trying for 18months, i suspect i wasnt ovulating for first 6 months off pill even though had reg cycles but my progesterone indicated i wasnt. However i have had 3 bfps in last 9 months but have ended in 5 week mc, mmc at 10 weeks & a chemical in dec past.

We have been to RMC & have had our bloods taken (no resiults yet) & im being sent for hysterscopy. I have abnormal bleeding after ov so not sure what its down to as day 21 test has been good & bit scared about that.

AF started today so moving on to another month while everyone around me seems to be pregnant & dreading next preg announcement from friends 😔

Will read through thread to catch up xx

di626 · 20/01/2018 18:44

Just realised i had joined thread few weeks ago - head obviously not in right place 🙈! Ah well wee update of rmc app since then xx

Cobby81 · 21/01/2018 10:24

Thank you all for the messages of good luck. One minute I’m feeling positive that I’m being proactive but then a fear/sadness comes over me. I know I shouldn’t stress before I know for sure if there is a problem.

@spargle Good luck with Monday

@SoozC Sorry no BFP this month for you, keeping my fingers crossed for next month

@Janefx40 Mine is a private appointment too just for the initial follicle count and AMH. I think I’d have to wait a while for the NHS fertility clinic.

@di626 I’m sorry to hear about the miscarriages. I hope the RMC helps.

For everyone else baby dust to you all. xx

Janefx40 · 21/01/2018 13:45

@SoozC so sorry about AF. You are so amazing the way you keep going but I know it is hard. Xxx

@Cobby81 sorry must have got confused! I'm on a couple of threads and got muddled. Good luck with appointment and hope scan and tests go well.

@di626 welcome and sorry to hear about miscarriages. Good that you are doing some investigations now.

@Spargle good luck with appt tomorrow. Hopefully nothing too serious. Keep us posted.

Love to everyone else

Xxx

Lexjo · 21/01/2018 14:04

Hi all,

First post and thank goodness I found this thread. My partner and I are also trying to conceive baby number 1. I am 35 and he is 38. We are not having any luck at all at the moment and he is suffering from delayed ejaculation. It's not easy. There are two girls at work who are pregnant and one of my best friends is pregnant, another one TTC. Most other friends have two kids. It's all pretty normal, I know. I can't avoid pregnant people - but you know what it's like. We are desperate for our own little one.

Glad I found this group and am looking forward to sharing tips and experiences. love and luck for BFP's all round!

x

PixieN · 21/01/2018 18:27

Hi all,
This is my first post too, but i’ve been following your stories with interest - glad for the success stories & so sorry for the losses xx Started TTC properly at Christmas after having a go & seeing what might happen a few months before. I’m 35 & DH is 53 with a son at university so age may be against us. It’s taken a while to persuade him (we got together 11 years ago) and I’ve been unsure at times too, but now it finally feels like we’re both on the same page. I know that’s just the beginning though.....! Still need to get my head around all the abbreviations Grin xx

Melamine · 21/01/2018 21:19

Welcome newbies and continued good luck to the regulars. I got some good advice this week, to get it on when you first get in from work. Hoping this approach will increase chances this month instead of the one or two times around fertile week that's led to zero success so far...

Lexjo · 21/01/2018 21:35

That's interesting advice. I wondered if there were better times of day to do it... DP is self employed and often working when I get in from work... unfortunately, evenings are probably out. He's more of a morning person, but because we both work long hours, it's really hard to co-ordinate the shags Confused Argh! How long have you been trying Melamine? Hi to fellow newbie, PixieN Smile too. I feel like I'm going to be a regular on this board!!

Lexjo · 21/01/2018 21:36

Oooppps! just realised I didn't tag you @Melamine (such a nooob!)

Cobby81 · 22/01/2018 16:06

I’ve been to the initial appointment at the clinic. My scan all ok. He didn’t do a follicle count I think because I was day 18 I asked if I needed to go back and he said it can be inaccurate as it a subjective assessment and can also be dependent on the quality of the machine. So I’ve just got AMH and day 21 blood results to wait for. DP had normal results too. 😊 I’m so pleased for him (and us). So if the bloods are ok need to decide if I want to go on to do a HSG or not lose a month and keep trying for another 3.

di626 · 22/01/2018 16:24

@Cobby81 aw that is great news - what a relief!!!

I had my amh & other day 2/3 bloods taken today. Will get results of our chromosome bloods next week, fingers crossed they will be ok

di626 · 22/01/2018 16:28

@Spargle hope you have got on ok todayx

Spargle · 22/01/2018 17:07

Well, as expected the results weren’t great. They seemed to have given him a very strange figure for the sperm count - over 100 million, when they’d like to see over 10 million. I assume it’s a typo, and he’s just got a normal reading, but for all I know DH is just very prolific... (Or they mean he has over 100, and there’s no point in even considering the millions, in which case they expressed it exceedingly badly, and we are doomed.)

Anyway, his normal morphology is at 2%, and 4% is the lowest that is actually considered to be fertile, although if they are correct about the count, perhaps he’s effectively up at 20%?

However, the swimmers aren’t much into this swimming thing. He got 0% high motility and, I think, 35% with some motility, or however they put it. I think that means that none of them has a sense of direction, but perhaps if they magically ended up where they were supposed to be, they’d be able to deal with the situation?

My results were all normal, apparently.

So I’m expecting that these results mean that some form of IVF is likely to be as successful as it usually is. Perhaps they might recommend IUI, but I’m going to guess that they won’t. We’ve been referred to some NHS fertility clinic, but I don’t know which one. I asked for whichever was better, and I hope that’s what we get...

Hope everyone else is having a better day!

Cobby81 · 22/01/2018 17:20

@Spargle I’m sorry the results weren’t better. It must be very annoying to be given possibly inaccurate figures. From what you say the positive is there appears to be something that can be done and while waiting to keep trying. Big hugs.

Cobby81 · 22/01/2018 17:23

@di626 Good luck with your results next week. 🤞

di626 · 22/01/2018 17:50

@Spargle sorry to hear of the results especially when you are unsure that they are actually right. Hopefully tou get an appointment soon to see way forward. How is your dh?

Janefx40 · 22/01/2018 22:00

Hi @Spargle Sorry about the results. Sperm issues are at least solvable tho by IVF. So it's good news that there are no problems on your side. My OH also had 2% morphology - went up to 4% when he cut down booze and went for a few more walks. But even if they can't fix that they can do ICSI.

Sorry tho. Bloody annoying to get bad news :(

Xxx

Spargle · 23/01/2018 16:51

Thank you all for the support and encouragement! DH is not very happy right now - although we weren’t expecting good results, it’s a bit of a kick in the teeth to have things confirmed. He’s being a good boy and not googling anything, but he is listening to information I find online - we’ve agreed to make a few more changes, and will look at if there are any others we could usefully make. He’s looking forward to seeing the expert, and getting some authorised answers!

I think his 100 million plus count might actually be correct - looking at more stuff online, they expect a count of between 20 and 100 million in healthy men, and his, erm, production centres are relatively capacious (sorry - clearly tmi). If only he was making fast ones! Maybe he should start on espressos before DTD?

It is a bit uncomfortable knowing that our chances of success without intervention probably sit somewhere around the zero mark, but I suppose that does take the pressure off. Being too tired to DTD on a crucial day is likely to make absolutely no difference at all.

How’s everyone else doing?

Wednesdays2cats · 24/01/2018 19:45

Hi everyone!

I’ve been looking for a forum like this for a while. We’ve been trying for 3 years, we know there are issues and have our IVF referral in May to start in June. Being a parent was very much part of the life plan and it has been a struggle accepting that it may not happen for us. Our very good friends that we travel often across the world with have now got a baby on the way, and it has been very hard coming to terms with the fact they are on a new adventure now, one that we may never experience ourselves.

It is a comfort knowing there is somewhere I can chat to other people going through the same thing. Why on earth is this considered such a hush hush subject?

I look forward to getting to know you all and sharing in your journeys :-)