TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

@Flatwhite31 I still dont drink and it's been 2.5 months or so. It's so stupid but part of me feels like I shouldn't be doing it because of where I'd be at (23 weeks Monday) or I don't deserve it. I dunno!

Same unicorns! I gave up drinking a year ago to help with ttc and even though I can now have a drink again I don't want to, or want to be able to

Me too @UnicornsandRainbows1. We definitely deserve it after everything we have been through, but it's just not something I want to be doing really!

Well this is the thing, it has 0 % appeal to me right now. Even if it has a 0.0000001% of having an effect on any future bean, that's a percentage that's too much for me. I know that's extreme as fuck, and I know in hindsight I did everything 100% correctly, but if god forbid anything happens again I'll beat myself up over it. I don't want to be in a position to be able to drink. I don't want to ttc again. That's not to say that the next baby would be any different to me of course! But eurgh, so many mixed feelings

I feel exactly the same @UnicornsandRainbows1. Not finding out until the 12 week scan has set us back at LEAST four months. That's practically half a pregnancy. Just more bloody time. I hate that all the sickness, food aversions etc were for absolutely nothing.

@Flatwhite I found out at 12 weeks too (day before the 12 week scan which they then ofc had to cancel on my behalf). I eel a bit like it's wasted time. It isn't in the sense that they existed and I learned so much from the experience, but for it to all be for nothing seems a bit like a kick in the teeth as far as ttc is concerned.

I honestly will be so ecstatic to have all the crap that goes with pregnancy again, but I also know first hand that really it means bugger all in terms of certainty.

I know, that's the hard thing. I had morning sickness on the day of the scan. Pregnancy will never be enjoyable again unfortunately. I won't be taking so much as a paracetamol next time. That's if there is a next time!

There better be a next time. That's the only thing pulling me through right now tbh

Thanks for the good wishes people, I'll be hanging around if that's ok because I don't feel very optimistic. After giving birth to a baby at 14 weeks I don't see how any of this can be enjoyable ever again...?
Hanging round to hear your good news, I'm sure it will come soon x

@weasledee Hang around as long as you need to! You've given me a bit more hope (am I right in recognising you from the January thread? :/). Take it day by day my lovely :)

Hey girls, sorry i lost the thread when it moved and I've not been on much, Hope your all as well as can be 💖 x

I'm ready to 'try' again now, Gosh! It's so scary isn't it! I think the chance of 3 mc in a row is like 1% (but 2 in a row was 2% and i still managed that 😣) I'm petrified of what might happen. All my family and close friends tell me to wait and let my body have a break. I tell them just because my baby has gone it doesn't mean my longing for another has too. I want a small gap with my DD! With my first mc the gap would have been 23months.. second mc 25months now it would be atleast 31 and that's if I'm even lucky enough to ever have another.

Weasle Congratulations 😁 xxx

And just to add.. symptoms are no certainty are they! I had hg up until 2 days before i passed the baby even though it had died near enough 3 weeks before. I was actually prescribed (but never took) antisickness meds a few days before my 12 week scan where i got the news because it was so bad. I still had sore boobs too! 😣

My boobs were still really sore too @BlueeSpottyTiger. I honestly had NO idea baby had died. I remember the consultant asking me if I'd had a reduction in symptoms, but I'd had nothing. This really doesn't reassure me at all, as this could SO easily happen again!

Yes massive congrats weasledee so happy for you! Please do stick around, we are here to support you.

flat it's my due date this Wednesday. I cannot tell you how shit that makes me feel. And because I have had 2mc this year I have double the bloody milestones. Sometimes I have to just try and switch off from remembering them all too much as otherwise it becomes too hard. Time has been a surprisingly good healer though... hang in there.

I'm so sorry @NoCatsHere. There are no words for this situation . I feel really overwhelmed tonight by the love I have for our little bean. I've been looking at the scan photo all day. I don't know why, but I just have this strong feeling it was a boy. God knows what I'm going to be like on the due date!

❤️ To you NoCats. Will you do anything to mark the day?

FMU at 5am. BFN. AF due Wednesday 😓

Just bobbing on to say enormous congratulations to weasledee and halloumisandwich! Occasionally still lurking as I am always convinced I'll be back soon and always hoping you have good news.

Sorry @Presh12345. Remember that you aren't out until AF appears though. What cycle are you on?

Flat, started trying in April and got pregnant first try! Had MMC in June. Abstained for a month. Was home in July (don't live in uk) but at this time DH was here, 3500 miles away so obviously nothing happened. Tried August and September. So not even sure what cycle this is!!? A bit disappointed about this month especially after seeing that line.
And other symptoms, feeling hungry all the time, peeing, tired....maybe all in my mind!!

@cats - so sorry and hope Wednesday passes ok.

@presh - hang in there

Im opk testing whilst away. Zero for 2 days and now flashing smiley this morning - which is bonkers as had static smiley last week. But as someone said, body may be having several goes at ovulation after what happened. We are leaving Palermo this morning (thank god - too noisy here!) and heading to cefalu for next 4 nights - should be much more relaxing so hoping to DTD lots. And now going to cut down the alcohol drastically too now that may be ovulating

How normal is it to still be getting totally blank opks by cd13/14? I normally have 28 day cycles. I'm to even going to ovulate this month am I?

@beanhunter last month mine weren't totally blank at around cd14 but were unbelievably negative. I ovulated (If I did) around cd20 and had OPKs that went from basically nothing to A sudden surge and back to nothing again. I usually have 28 day cycles too but right now, sadly, remember that anything goes

Ha. Having posted that I decided to to one now (last night totally blank) and there's def a line. It's not that dark but there. What's counted as positive? If it was a pregnancy test it wouldn't have been a squinter but not as dark as the control line. I've never used opks before.