TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

Just a quick pop in to say that I conceived the month after I did yoga every day for 30 days! That was cycle 3 off the pill. So maybe it helps! Been going much less since my mc, as work and life have got in the way. But going to a class tonight 👍🏼 and am averaging 2-3x per week. Regarding relaxation, I am fucked, because despite all the yoga I am a stress head, even though I'm feeling more chill about TTC now I've just gone back to stressing about work
HOWEVER looking forward to going to a wedding in Somerset this weekend which will be a nice break from everything. Ov day should be early next week 🤞🏼🍳

Frau while my GP was really understanding, he too said the same thing; 2 was considered 'unlucky' not worrying. It's mad isn't it? My two miscarriages were absolutely devastating, heart-breaking occurrences that left me reeling, yet to them it's 'bad luck'.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 yayyyyy! I got one that was slightly darker today & a little bit of ewcm so I too was happy today!

Frau that's so silly. I don't quite understand the concept to be honest. 2 mcs are normal, but one more suddenly makes them pay attention? All the nope on that one.

yellowfrontdoor that's great news! Hoping for more positivity for you soon.

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Well I stupidly bitched about everything thinking others were out of the house. I stand by what I said though, this whole thing is isolating and to not say anything (apparently to let me move on and not keep dragging it up) just isolates me more (to me anyway). sigh why did I have to lose it tonight? All because stuff got stuck to a baking tray... yeah I don't know how either :/

Sorry to hear that @swimchick1980. Have they suggested anything?

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I'm feeling shit today. Two days of ridiculous bleeding, followed by barely any blood today - this is NOT normal, and I'm worried the ERPC has done some sort of damage. Meanwhile, this week I've heard about 2 new pregnancies and a gender reveal. I then realised DH and I had set aside next weekend for a 3D gender scan, but instead I'm sitting here feeling empty literally and metaphorically. I know I shouldn't think about the 'should haves', but I can't help it. You have every right to lose it. I certainly feel that way.

I got a flashing smiley on cb this morning! So relieved to see it in black and white that my body is beginning to work again and that cycles are beginning to regulate after my MMC. My ERPC was in April so it has taken 5 long months but I hope it reassures some of you in the earlier stages that things will hopefully settle down for you too.
I'm being naively hopeful now that we can make a baby this cycle so that I'm pregnant by the time my due date for the MC comes around in mid October. It has been horrible having so many events that I should have been x amount of pregnant for. Even thinking now that I'd be on the home stretch. So feels good to know that dtd will actually have a point this month and hopefully there is an egg on the way!

So pleased for you @Elpheba. I'm really worried things are going to take ages for me too. I want to be pregnant by Christmas, but I realise that's really optimistic. At the moment Christmas and birthday are off the cards anyway as I don't feel like celebrating either.

Omg!! Can this be true??? Can I be pregnant 1st cycle of trying after losing our baby 8 weeks ago at 14 weeks??? In shock. I really hope this gives hope to those struggling at the moment.

Ahhhh congratulations @weasledee!!! Amazing amazing news and certainly does give hope. Fingers crossed for a super sticky bean and that you're feeling ok!

Yes you can @weasledee! Congrats! So pleased for you. Did you have an ERPC? I'm worried it's messed up my system, as I've gone from a very heavy bleed to suddenly absolutely nothing which is not like a normal period at all.

Also, how long did it take you to get AF @weasledee? Sorry for all the questions!

Flatwhite I had a medical miscarriage, so basically I was induced. Before that my periods were like clockwork every month. However I thought the same as you, first period after miscarriage was all wrong!! 2 days of normal/heavyish bleeding then 2 days of nothing and then 4 days of normal/light bleeding. Don't know when I ovulated either.
Hope you have the same luck as me x

5.5 weeks flat

Thanks @weasledee, that's so helpful! Glad to hear my AF isn't the only one being weird. Did you use OPKs or temping or anything? So pleased for you! Xx

Exactly one month after find out we'd lost our bean, I've got a BFN. I thought I'd be pleased in a way, but I actually can't stop crying! Perhaps it's because it's the one month 'anniversary'...

That's awesome weasledee! You're one of the 'more fertile right after a miscarriage' unicorns! Hurrah! What did you do this past cycle?

The one month anniversary was tough for me too flat and i don't think I'll ever not be aware of how far along I should be now (18 weeks). Hang in there x

Wow weasle! Great news.
I don't even know what cd I am as period was so on and off so possibly as much as cd 12... opk stark white. Not even a glimmer of a line.

My body is just so cruel to me. Firstly a MMC, then a huge bleed on the day of our heartbeat, and now a BFN on the month anniversary! The timing has all been awful and has just added to my distress. I should be 16.5 weeks now.

That should say the day of our heartbeat appointment.

Congrats @weasledee that's amazing news!! Love a bfp on this thread!!

@Flatwhite31 milestones are so so hard. Be kind to yourself today

Flat white sending you a big hug, every empty milestone will hurt, but I promise it does get easier. I should have been 29 weeks tomorrow.

Weasel massive congratulations - to be honest I'm very jealous of your ability to conceive again instantly! Although of course am happy for you too! It's cycle 5 post mc for me now and I'm wondering why on earth it hasn't worked yet , when I've been ovulating and tracking and DTD loads and at the right times every month ???

CD12 today and a negative but not totally faint OPK, with some nice fertile looking CM, so we should get going again in earnest. Wish I could be more hopeful / excited about it!

Thank you @yellowfrontdoor and @TheGrumpySquirrel. My hair has been falling out too the past few days, which isn't helping. I googled, and it seems it can happen to some people after MC.

@TheGrumpySquirrel apologies if you've already said this, but have you tried Clearblue digital opks? X

Yep flat. Mine coming out in clumps.

Congrats from Sicily weasel! That's great news.

Sorry to everyone struggling. I've been struggling a bit today too - we did a food tour and all I could think about was how I should've been finding it hard cos I should've been pregnant

Then we were in an outside cafe for a drink and these two little children ran over to their mother crying as a dog scared them - I just thought "I want that". So anyway, onto the beer I go!

I know how you feel @coastalchick. DH and I went on a boat trip in Italy, and I was offered a glass of prosecco! I couldn't stop crying, as I kept thinking 'I don't want to be able to drink prosecco!' It was only 1 week after my ERPC too. I still feel like that about alcohol.

Yep that's exactly how I feel flat - like I don't want to be drinking because I want to be pregnant! But given I'm not ovulating (testing every day) then I may as well enjoy the booze (and food) even though hard.

Hoping to be pregnant by Xmas too. If we hit next cycle then I'll be 12 weeks Xmas eve. My parents are spending Xmas with me, OH and his family this year. Would be the most fabulous Christmas gift if we could announce we are pregnant then. Though part of me is scared as I don't want a bloody MC around Xmas time!!!