TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

Welcome @Daffodil77 I can’t imagine what you’ve been going through for the last few months 

@BlueeSpottyTiger my thermometer arrived today too.... and I’m CD 4
Mind you, last month I ovulated around day 24/25 so I never get many cycle buddies.

I’m going to start taking my aspirin as soon as AF finishes.

yellow Aww man! How long are your cycles?
Mine are 26days usually. So af should be the 6th Nov.. anyone else due af around them??

Infact i think I'll leave the aspirin, I'm concerned as I'm breast feeding still.. unless i do it alternate days!? Because it does pass through milk. Reyes scares me! Even though it's rare.

This last cycle was 36 days. It’s a little worrying because my LP isn’t usually that short. The cycle before this was my first post-mc; and was 57 days.

I can’t wait to start temping, I’m hoping it’ll take the guesswork out of my cycle.

I’m your case I can totally understand why you’d be hesitant to take it, I would be too!

Yeah, probably best to leave the aspirin bluee After weighing up the risks, I didn't take it until I finished bf'ing. Like you say Reyes is rare but you don't want to chance it.

Still no period, maddening!

When I got pregnant last time I had no idea how common mc was. I’d had my dd with no issues so I assumed the same would happen. I bought loads of cute babygrows, a sling, and a few nice maternity clothes. They are currently all folded up in a drawer waiting to be relevant again 😥 and all the girls I talked to on the pregnancy boards are now 30+ weeks. I would have been 32 weeks tomorrow. What a different life that seems.

Hope everyone is doing okay this weekend x

It really opens your eyes doesn't if @TheGrumpySquirrel. I was quite nervous when I found out I was pregnant in the very early weeks, but after our great week scan and being told my chances of MC were less than 5%, I really relaxed. I also didn't know you could have a MC with absolutely no MC symptoms whatsoever and STILL have pregnancy symptoms. I have no kids, so I will never, ever get to enjoy pregnancy in my life. I feel really robbed in that respect.

The ladies on the thread I was on will all be having their 20 week scans in the next few weeks. I am with you on how deflating it all feels.

I hear you too. I should be 24 weeks. Instead I'm nothing. So fed up.

Omg just watching a Louis Theroux (love him!) documentary about heroin use in Huntington, Virginia. They filmed a woman having a pregnancy scan. The guy doing the ultrasound said the growth was good. The woman looked pretty far along. She had been a heroin addict and had 'weaned herself' onto a legal form of some sort of opiate for the pregnancy. Clearly herbaby wasn't enough for her to stop drugs completely. I'm sorry, but what a joke. Why do we lose our babies, yet a junkie twat like her has a pregnancy which progresses? Poor child!

When start to feel low and think about dates and milestones that should've happened i try to remember what a strong woman i am, how all woman are strong even in the midst of tragedy we come back like warriors, ready for the next round. Tomorrow is another day and we will live to fight another. There is strength in numbers too. All of us helping each other through this, the way that women do. When you think about it, its inspiring. xxx

I'd be 32 weeks on Weds grumpysquirrel Bobbins innit?! Hugs x

Aww :( im sorry ladies 💖 With my first mc i would have beem 26 weeks today, I was due the 22nd of Jan.
My second would have been 20 weeks tomorrow :( i had my first mc then 2 weeks later my grandma died. Then my other mc so I've had a shitty 6 months.
I think we're all due some luck! 💖 Xxx

18 weeks* tomorrow.

Filly & unicorns am so excited for you both everything crossed here for you ❤️
Flat it's so crap when af is looming but I hope you can enjoy your birthday.
Dude I hope you enjoy every moment with your granddaughter😘
Daffodil can't imagine what you are going through, I really hope the counselling helps you.
Af in full swing here & feel completely outta sorts I had no warning at all with this af usually sore boobs, ache in back,spots but it just appeared from no where!! Feel a bit deflated today & just hope polyp removal appointment comes through soon so I can make it my new milestone! Hugs to all 😘

@BlueeSpottyTiger I would've been due 22nd Jan too, and 26 weeks on Monday. It feels like a lifetime away now!

Everyone round there is starting to soon approach the 30wk mark and it's so painful when I should be there too.

Aw its horrible for us all, i should have been either 32 weeks or 13 weeks, 2 m/c’s in 6 months, instead im waiting on AF since mmc 3 weeks ago 😔😔

Lovely words dude 💗

Hugs to all.. I had a temp drop this morning so af is probably gonna show today (still no sign though). Just want it to hurry up now!

@UnicornsandRainbows1 how many periods did you have since the MC before this cycle? The doctor at the hospital said I could 'easily' conceive in the first two as MCs can increase fertility, but he was clearly wrong! I'm disappointed he said this as I feel like my body has let me down.

Bfn again. I've decided to stop testing, as I'm just too upset to keep going. I even had a dream that I had a positive test. How mean is that?! 2 cycles since MC have failed, despite DTD at exactly the right time. No kids to focus on. No reassurance from any previous pregnancies that I can carry a baby. No sore boobs either, so something is clearly going on with my hormone levels. I hate my body so much. 😥

Flat I’m sorry. It does get a bit easier - I’m on cycle 6 now (well as soon as af shows up) and cycle 1&2 post mc I was just so desperate to be pregnant again above all else. Since then I have started to relax a bit more and enjoy other aspects of my life sometimes.. although of course it still hurts.

Still being a hopeful twat over here - cramping lots, no blood or pink cm at all, now cervix is high and cm is milky! This was my test this morning (looks totally blank in real life, I colour saturated the photo):

@Flatwhite31 I promise it gets easier. I’m in the same boat as you, no children. It’s that niggling panic that creeps over me; that I’ll never carry a baby, that it’ll never happen for us. I just have to cling onto hope, the fact that I’ve had two now makes that very hard. I’m 36 now & feel like time is against me, which doesn’t help!
I just keep telling myself that I’ve now been on high-strength folic acid for almost 4 months now (isn’t the golden time 90 days for supplements to get into your system?!), and that as soon as AF finishes I’m going to start on aspirin. I’m going to start temping as well this cycle. I’m hoping these things will help me feel more in control of things & stop me from going all-out loony!

@TheGrumpySquirrel keeping my fingers crossed.

flatwhite i was told the same! It's not fair to say things like that. Just gets your hopes up for nothing :(

grumpy i feel like i can see a line!!!! Have you got any frers? 😁 goodluck!

I was confused about how we both had the same due date but we was 26 weeks on diff day but that's because i never had a scan with that pregnancy so wasn't dated accurately 🙈 I'm so silly sometimes.

Well af is pretty much over now cd 5, We started dtd last night.. will just do it every other day to follow the smeg plan. I'm convinced that and conceive plus is what helped us conceive the last time.

Goodluck everyone xx

flat i second that it does get easier. Im about to go into cycle 4 and have only really just felt able to go for it last cycle. Every miscarriage is different and every womans body will heal at a different rate. That goes for mental healing too i guess. I felt it was so frustrating that you have no real control over whats going on inside of your body. Its like my body was saying 'hang on there love, were doing this my way and there aint nuthin you can do about it'. This cycle I was so convinced id caught i even took 3 days off work i felt so sick but here i am spotting and my temps dipped again! Im going to try and relax (a bit) next cycle and get back into what i know i do have control over IE: working out and diet. I normally train 6 days a week and do the MFP thing which I've let slip a bit this cycle and that affects me mentally too. So onwards and upwards for me now. Im putting my positive hat on even if i don't feel like it and I'm going to exercise and eat healthy and try again.

grumpy you're still not out xxxx I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you!

Smep* 🤦

@BlueeSpottyTiger I have 1 FRER left and I don’t want to waste it! I don’t understand how I could be pregnant and still get negative tests this late so really will be annoyed with myself for wasting another FRER. Waiting till tomorrow (14dpo) at least.

My new healthy eating (all 2 days of it!) and calorie counting via MFP has me down 1.5kg already so I think that was just water weight, still pleased though! Only another 5.5kg to go! Feeling more motivated now and also hope that better diet will help with TTC.

Oohh i see! I know they are expensive enough. Well hopefully it won't be a waste and you'll have a nice bfp xx

See I've put 5lb weight on that i want to loose.. but i was only 8st2 before and I'm 5'6" so my bmi was pretty boarder line for underweight/normal. And i know being underweight can effect fertility, so i think I'll exercise but try not to loose any weight. I just feel frumpy atm, I look my best at 8st for my body type. Anything for a bfp lol