TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

@Flatwhite I'll sit and cry with you. It's just so mentally exhausting, isn't it?

@Bluee that's put a smile on my face. I hope all of our next ones for everyone will be safe

@GreyCloudsToday Not just me then!! A friend mentioned it and I was like wtf are you on about. Lo and behold, she was right and I looked like a failcake

Hello, some of you might remember me, I have not left this thread and still keep up with it.

I lost a twin pregnancy at 9 weeks back in may. Had to have surgery in the end. Was a horrid horrid time. The ladies on here made me feel like I wasn't alone and quite honestly saved me during some very dark times (think multiple baby bombs, endless horrible bleeding, multiple people being the same stage I should have been)

Anyway after my surgery on may 25, my first period came on July 12 and can't believe my luck, got pregnant right away!

Weeks later I found out it was twins again! I've just had a scan at 11 weeks and all looks good (so far although I'll never feel safe and worry free)

I hope you don't mind me coming back to update. Do not give up hope! It's the worst time, having a loss. And I bloody hope that all of you get off this board soon.

It really is @UnicornsandRainbows1. Hate it so much. I keep worrying that I might not ovulate at all.

That's lovely news @Lime19. Really happy for you. It gives us all hope. Congratulations. Xx

@Lime19 congratulations!

So very very pleased for you

Arrrhh lime that’s lovely news! Twins again!!! Amazing!

That's great lime ! Very pleased you've gotten past the point you lost the babies last time and are doing well

Oh lime

What wonderful news, you're so lovely and have been through so much, I'm over to hear all is going well with you and your beautiful babies! I've thought of you and crossed fingers and toes for you all. Keep well x

Have literally cried all night. Big, heavy sobs. Really horrible for poor DH. I'm so good at putting on a front at work, but I'm awful at home. Just can't hold it together at all.

Oh lime yay. I was only asking if anyone had heard from you the other day. I'm glad you have made it to this stage and hope you continue on to have a normal pregnancy. You do give us all hope. X

Lime amazing news
Flat white I went to see a consultant a few months back and he gave me clomid an I asked him if I was ovulating he said as far as he was concerned you are ovulating until u menopause and didn't do a blood test he said if you have a period theirs a chance you will get pregnant and ovulating, then he said the one factor other than weight is age. I asked him to be honest he said even with clomid I had a 20 % chance !! But then I went to my gp as he had to issue me the prescription expecting him to be negative he said it's entirely possible , so clomid is here gathering dust ..., I know I've said it before all you ladies are so so brave for trying and committed I'm crossing everything for you all much love

Hey folks. Dipping back in. Saw the rmc clinic this week who agreed that a 12 week baby at mmc with normal genetics is v unusual. Having some bloods done to check clotting issues, genetics etc but ageed we probably wouldn't find a cause. So will have blood thinning injections if I ever get pregnant again as soon as positive test and then regular care from her. She was really thorough. I know we have no guarantee of success but at least we are trying something.

Me and DH have had a blazing row this morning. Ugh. I hate this whole situation.

Oh Flatwhite the whole thing really is awful and it is natural to feel so sh1tty. Life can be cruel and unfair. But it will get easier. Just give it time. Let yourself have the time to grieve you need.

Lime that is fantastic news. Hopefully many of us will be joining you on our next journey soon.

Today is exactly 6 weeks since I started miscarrying at 11 weeks and I have my period. I was totally surprised to wake up and wipe blood this morning. I don't think I ovulated post MC as I didn't notice any EWCM but I am hoping things will now return to normal.

The blood is much more red and watery than usual but I have the usual cramps. What was others' first AF after MC like? Kerry did you say yours was weird?

That sounds positive bean - hopefully at the very least you feel listened to and cared for. ❤️

Magpie - good news that your period is back although I know it can be sad also. Mine started with spotting and then became very heavy, lasting 7 or 8 days in total! It was very bright, almost light red at times. I don't think there's any need to worry though as there isn't really a 'normal' with the first period.

Also I had bad cramps before it came and then about 5 days in so keep painkillers and a hot water bottle handy!

Thanks Kerry. I will be prepared! I was on holiday last week in NYC and was mostly single parenting my toddler as my OH was working. I am so glad it didn't happen then. About time I had some biological luck!

@MissMagpie thank you. I had heavy bleeding 26 days after my ERPC but I don't know if it was my period or not, as I had no period symptoms. I also bled on and off last week too, so who knows what's going on! I hate all the confusion.

@MissMagpie
Sorry to hear what you've gone through- you're in a good place here.

I think first periods post-miscarriage tend to be all over the place.

My period came almost exactly one month after I started bleeding on day of the dating scan.

I bled intermittently for about 7-10 days, then it stopped- or so I thought- and a few days later I started experiencing the heaviest period ever!
I soaked through a tampon and leaked after about 45mins- had never happened like that before!

Then it was heavy bleeding for at least 7 days- this was coming up to around 7 weeks since the MMC.
I was pretty fed up by this point.
Then I had spotting for another 4 weeks or so- funnily enough it cleared up the day after I went to see the GP about it.

It was definitely 3 months post MMC before things settled in any way. Since then my periods have been regular each month. But no BFP yet...

magpie mine was very odd for 2 cycles post mmc. Lots of spotting before proper af, and after. They were annoying but seemed more normal cycle 3 onwards.

Well a bfn for me this morning. I'm cd 24 and 9dpo - af due on Wednesday or Thursday so think I'm out. So bloody gutted....again.

I'll stop posting these at some point, I swear!

Not perfect but given the ones for the last few days (and that it was diluted. Whoops!) I think I'm slowly getting there. Come on little body, don't fail me now!

I do love it when people's reaction to telling them you've had a miscarriage is "oh no, sorry to hear that, big hug" like you've just found out you've not got a job you wanted or scraped your knee. I've lost a fucking child! You're sat there with your two children in your perfect little world. Grrrrrrrrrrrr!!!

@flat know how you feel - I keep having mini melt downs in Sicily and sobbed before dinner last night. Am just not sure what the answer is other than getting preggers again (which is a bloody mission!)

When i started this journey it was all a bit of a game as we hadn't really planned trying until this sept and thought it would take a while. Then we got PG on first go and since losing it, I've not been able to think about much else. OPK's are no longer fun - just a chore

coastal unless they've had a miscarriage I really think they don't actually get it. My closest group of friends which i rely on for everything normally have been truely useless with showing any sort of support and clearly expected me to be 'over it' like some bad cold in just a few weeks. Here I am almost 9 months down the line as sad as I was the day it happened and they don't get it.

Yeah I think that's right nocats - just v frustrating!!!! god, I just want to get pregnant again. Next opp is mid-oct which seems like a lifetime!