TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

@Glitterbug76
I think I remember you from some threads last summer?- I had a MMC 15 months ago.

Don't worry too much about missing the boat by not trying asap post-miscarriage.

We started TTC as soon as I got a BFN after medical management...and have been trying ever since, 14 long months now and absolutely bugger all! I was 37 when I had the MMC and just turned 39 the other month.
I've really just about given up all hope of anything happening.

Welcome to the thread, it's such a great place to chat & vent, everyone here knows how it feels

@NoCatsHere Thinking of you today, albeit at 5am

@bean Oh that must be devastating. Take it easy

@Haybay1 What a rollercoaster! I really hope that your body is readjusting now and everything moves forward for you.

Sorry to anyone I've missed out, and sorry to welcome the newcomers here. It's a shitty thread to be a part of but we're all here together and we're all pretty lovely

Welcome Haybay, and like others have said, sorry that you even have to be here but glad you can be one of us even though we'd all prefer not to be here it is super supportive.
You sound like you've had a really rough time of it so hope there's some positivity to come for you... and for everyone on here!

Oh and in other news I got a static smiley today (day 19 so still a weird cycle but just glad I'm ovulating!) Managed to dtd last night, and Saturday and Sunday so hoping if we do it tonight we'll have a good chance of catching this egg. Excited and hopeful!

Thinking of you today NoCats 🌸

Sorry about your period Turquiose 😔

Welcome @Haybay1. So sorry for your loss, and to hear about your awful experience. The medical side of things alone is really hard, but I'm so glad you're coming out the other side of it. I had an ERPC nearly 5 weeks ago and have had strange on and off bleeding for the past week. I've been told it's normal though.

@TurquoiseDress sorry about your period. Mine will fall around my birthday, and when I should have been having my 20 week scan. Amazing timing. I highly doubt this cycle will be successful as I'm bleeding all over the place, and have no idea what's going on with my body. Everything hormonal appears to have switched off too, which worries me. With this bleeding I've had no sore boobs, no period cramps and no period symptoms whatsoever. My anxiety about it all is terrible, but I keep being told it's normal. It probably is, but that doesn't make me feel any better!

Thinking of you nocats today...

Oops we fell asleep. Hoping that having dtd the night before pos opk will have been ok. Oh well. I was never expecting a miracle first month conception anyway.

I'm so glad I found you all your all so brave, and supportive
Elephba good luck
Turquoise dress thank you for your reply I'm so sorry what your going through
Haybay so so sorry for your loss please take it easy
And to every one else trying ttc I'm nearly there but you are all so brave after what you've been through.
Just thinking after 15 months I've perfected that smile when you get told in front of others that some one is pregnant but your hurting in side

Thinking of you @NoCatsHere xxx

Hello ladies

Do you mind if I join your thread.

For my bfp a few weeks ago. I felt no symptoms at all so had a blood test and my HCG were so low. Docs told me it could be fine but I just knew. Another blood test confirmed it wasn't increasing and Thursday night I had awful pains and finally bled on Saturday.

Thought we were lucky to have conceived after just a few months as I'm 38 and quite overweight.

Having my 2 year old boy has made it easier to comes to terms with but just so devastated, all you all know of course. Would have been nearly 6 weeks so still quite early, would have been a lot tougher further along.

So that's me and here I am. Can I ask - I know they tell you to wait a while before TTC again but does it make much difference? Some sites say I could ov again in a couple of weeks before a period. If that's right should I just go for it. Don't really feel like I have the luxury of time on my side. It of course don't want to risk further complications ...? X

Thinking of you today @NoCatsHere

Welcome to the new joiners, so sorry you find yourselves here.

I had a MMC at 10 weeks (baby died at 8) back in May. I ended up miscarrying naturally at home but had to go to A&E with complications, I wish I had been firmer with the hospital and insisted on ERPC straight away - I didn't have one at all in the end. I've never told anyone this but after I MC at home (I couldn't bear to look at it), eventually bleeding tailed off and I found a tiny piece of mini umbilical cord on the tissue when I wiped. That was really sad 😞

Anyway on cycle 5 post mc now and should be ovulating by now - cd16 - but no positive OPK yet. We are both really stressed and tired with work but DTD every day on a sort of mechanical autopilot. Will sex ever be fun again?!

@mummykezza I don't think it generally matters if you start trying straight away it just might make a pregnancy harder to date. I tried again as soon as bleeding stopped but I don't think I ovulated the first cycle and I had a weird light period at the end of it. Everyone is different though and you might get lucky.

@TheGrumpySquirrel I think I had a tiny bit of cord within one of the last clots I had. I'm not entirely sure mind. I don't really know how as baby was 4mm and the sac grew to 9 weeks (bean still had the yolk thing I think - it all happened so quickly).

Anyway next door look after their children's kids whilst they work. Cue newborn before I head off for my shift. All I want to do is cry and scoop them up and make them feel better. Is that weird? That's weird.

Welcome @mummykezza, sorry that you find yourself here. There's no medical evidence that trying again straight away contributes to another miscarriage, in fact research has shown that the first 3 months after mc are the easiest time to get pregnant again. A lot of the advice stems from how far along in the pregnancy you were and how much time you might need to recover emotionally.❤️

Hi mummykezza, sorry to hear of your recent miscarriage.....
I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks in the summer and I had one period (it wasn't a normal one, stopped and started) and luckily I got a positive test result at the weekend..... I'm 41
Do what feels right for you.....

There is a lovely story in our local paper about a girl who was a few years above me at school 44 she's tried 25 years and 6 miscarriages has had a little girl I don't know how to post a link x

Thanks for the welcome.

Gin sounds like a good call TurquoiseDress!

Glad you have stopped the bleeding Haybay, it's much easier to feel more yourself again without that distraction. Do you take an iron supplements? I've been on the Spatone lately.

I went to the GP this morning to get my most recent loss recorded. The Dr was new and trying to refer me to RMC already, until I explained that the threshold is 3 consecutive losses. It was somehow comforting to know if it happens again I'll be able to have some further investigations.

Thank you @kerryleanne84, I think i'll start using my OPKs again in a week or so and see what the results show. Appreciate its the emotion that takes its toll but to be honest I just don't want to wait. Would feel better if I start to focus again.

Thank you also @weasledee, thats so encouraging. I know deep down 38 is still ok but then you read stuff (the wonderful world of google) and it starts to stress you out that you've somehow missed the chance. And big congratulations!!! xx

Hi all, thanks for the welcomes. I've been stuck at work all morning and first few minutes to breath now and have a catch up on here among other bits.

Flatwhite1 - Hi. Did you have a few weeks of no bleeding after your ERPC and now started on and off since your first AF? I was just told to expect 7-10 days of bleeding post op and then my first AF 4 - 6 weeks later which might be heavier than normal. If your bleeding continues maybe push for a scan to double check they haven't left any tissue behind? If I didn't have the signs of injection they wouldn't have scanned me and found they had left the tissue inside me for a long while they said (unless I passed it naturally but my body was still thinking it was part of me and I had no signs of it thinking otherwise).

GreyCloudsToday - Hi. I am not taking any iron supplements. No one has said anything about taking any but i'm sure I probably should be. Maybe I will have a look into Spatone - can you get them over the counter?

Also, does anyone know any good general vitamins to be taking after a MC and when TTC?

Hi Haybay I'm not sure if the iron makes any medical difference to TTC, but I find it helps my energy levels a bit after having extended bleeding. Spatone is often on 3 for 2 in Tesco. it's a sachet of iron-y water that you pour into juice.

I take a multi-vit usually and added COQ10 and magnesium this time around. More to feel like I'm doing something than for any other reason! I'm sure others could advise.

@rachelandthenoodle I didn't do anything to mark my due date on the 18th Sept. I was in hospital getting a third miscarriage confirmed but I don't think I would have done anything to mark it anyway to be honest.... I find it makes me more sad to do things like that. We buried this third embryo in the garden, which I really wanted to do as I felt bad about not doing this with the others, but I found it quite hard and just wanted to do it and not speak about it if you know what I mean.

My SIL has just given birth and we will be visiting on the weekend. I was really happy they had a boy so that my DS will have a close in age boy buddy as I've not been able to provide him one, and I'm feeling ok at the moment but am worried I might be sad when I see their baby.

Re conceiving again after a miscarriage, both times I miscarried, we waited a month then got pregnant the following month. I did get pregnant very quickly but obviously they all ended in miscarriage... Obviously I don't know if this was anything to do with it, but I assume not else you think there'd be more evidence to say wait a bit longer...

This time we are not going to wait the reccommended one month, as, well it didn't help previously! I have heard a theory that getting prg straight away can be good as the womb lining is more built up so more accepting of an embryo?! May well be a crack pot theory!!

Sorry you are all having a terrible time... what can I say but sending love xxx

Thank you all so much for your kindness. Today is ok, I have that underlying feeling of missing something, you know when you've forgotten to do something but can't remember what. But otherwise all is ok. Feel sort of glad to be past that point. 6dpo today so might test Saturday morning...

Welcome grey kezza and hay sorry to hear your stories.
kezza I fell pregnant straight after my 1st mc with no period in between, it did
Unfortunately go on to miscarriage again but that was just 'bad luck'.
turquiose I'm so sorry you think af is on her way again. I'm glad you have gin.

Glad you're holding up ok @NoCatsHere

Hello to the newbies, I'm so sorry for your losses. Will catch up on the thread in a bit.

I think I've got a similar OPK to you @beanhunter from a couple of days ago.

Can we all agree this is another 'close but no cigar'??