TTC after pregnancy loss - lucky thread 13

[TheGrumpySquirrel]

Hi guys I couldn't see a new thread so hope you don't mind me starting it off @BertieBotts ?

Filly- high dose folic acid is given to people where they have a certain problem that means their body doesn't metabolise folic acid which of course embryos need. You can be tested to see if that is what's happening

@Fillybee my GP put me on high-dose folic acid, to hopefully improve blood flow (?), plus told me to start aspirin when I next get a bfp.

I had my second mc in July, just starting to properly try again now. Hoping it all makes a difference!

I'm so sorry people are having a tough time. I found my bfn hard post mc. At the same time I found it helped draw a line under everything and I could start afresh if that makes sense?

From what I've ascertained (from it starts With the egg abc other sources) extra folic acid can also help to correct genetic copying issues when the egg and sperm mature. I put DH on ubiquinol and folate from h and b as well as a prenatal, and I did the same (though took half a tablet of the folate as was also taking prenatals). Ubiquinol and folate have been shown to impact the sperm too, which is 50 % of the genetic makeup of the embryo. It's usually a genetic issue that causes a mc. Ubiqinol has actually so far only been proven to be effective in older men; we are awaiting tests in women. Currently proven in mice, but I think few women would want to participate in a study and take the placebo.

We are both over 40 so our gametes are a bit rubbish!

Well I thought I was having a normal cycle. Cue the beginning of spotting. Hopefully it's just old but I'm not counting on being so fortunate -__- Can I go back to the start of the year please?

Sorry lots of you are having such a shocker. I think it's a real rollercoaster the entire time. One minute all seems ok and you're ready to start again and you get one comment, or see another pregnant person and just when you think you're healing it all goes tits up again. I've felt better for ages, once I past 20 weeks I thought I was 'over it'. But now I know that this week I was supposed to be snuggled up with my new born it bloody hurts again. I'll be fine again past next week, ready to move forward and really hope I fall pregnant this cycle. But I would say just roll with how you feel. Just because it's been X amount of weeks doesn't make it hurt less, never apologise and just make sure you allow yourself whatever you need to heal.
I won't mark this Wednesday, not because I don't care, more because I will be thinking about it a lot quietly and I have 2 children already and don't want them to be suspicious as to why I'm upset. My oldest is very sensitive and would be distraught to know what has happened. A good cry in the shower every now and then seems to sort me out!

@Ekphrasis that's interesting, I didn't know that so I've just been googling studies about how increased folic acid can prevent miscarriage what a cosy Sunday evening!.
I hadn't even thought about asking DH to try vitamins though, like most women I assumed it's my 'fault'. I'll see if he wants to take a regular folic acid every day now!

Nocats I hope you're ok come Wednesday. I was debating having my due date off work (24th October) but because DH is self-employed he'll have to work, so I've settled for using some lieu time if I can & going out with my mum somewhere, if not I'll go to work. As crazy as it sounds a busy pre-school will take your mind off of anything!

Still no positive OPK here. They're definitely darkening, and I'm getting crampy pains again, which I never had before my mc's, so thinking I'm building up to ovulation. I really really hope I'm pregnant again soon. I can't believe the year's on it's way out, I've spent most of it pregnant but with no baby!

Nocats I love a good shower cry too. I'll be thinking of you on wednesday.

That's crazy yellow - life is so unfair isn't it

Hey. 10 dpo for me and BFN this morning. 😞 But having said that, FF finally plotted my O this morning and it's saying I'm off by two days (weird, but gives me a glimmer of hope as it reckons I'm 8 dpo).

I'll test again Wednesday. Just angry because this is the first month I've really felt pregnant. 🤷‍♀️

yellow I know what you mean about things taking your mind off stuff. That sometimes can be really helpful.
rachel sorry you got a bfn I really hope it's too early for you.

I don't know how many of you are on instagram but I follow this account called 'motherhood rising' and she often posts things from another account called 'I had a miscarriage' and the words often strike a cord or offer me comfort. This morning seems very apt considering we were all just talking about this. I've included a screen shot of it so you can see.

Hi everyone- I had a glass of champagne on the hen do, but sat out Go Ape: largely because weather was a bit rubbish and a few people were doing the same. This morning at 11 DPO had temp drop below cover line- I was going to test but now I've seen that I feel there's no point. I'm day 28, I usually am more like a 30 day cycle but it's the exact same temp drop I've had the day I got my period the last two months. I really thought this month was it. Had some symptoms, and cramps, and FF identified my ovulation day and I had a decent quantity of EWCM for the first time since the month I conceived.

I entirely empathise with people worried about missed time. Three of my cousins are pregnant now, one just gave birth. A close friend is due next month. Another couple we spend a lot of time with just had their second baby turn one. All the little companions who would have been within a few months of ours if my first pregnancy had gone to term will be at least a year older now, I'll be 35 when I wanted to be 33. I thought I'd have a baby at Christmas/just after and now I feel like I might not even be pregnant. The silver lining after the miscarriage was at least knowing that I could get pregnant, but five cycles on I feel like missing the 'more fertile within 6 months' milestone is just another negative.

I was chatting to a pregnant person at a work meeting last week who it turns out shared my due date and I actually couldn't believe how visibly pregnant she was. I so wish I had a crystal ball- all the vitamins, acupuncture, waiting. It's just a really crappy time and some days are worse than others. Sorry to everyone else who feels they're starting their week off on a rubbish note.

Morning everyone, I've not posted on these threads for ages, MC'd iat the beginning of May at 8 weeks, was quite optimistic at the time as we'd conceived on the 3rd month of trying and with DD (who's now 20 months) it took 21 months...but it's now nearly October and nada - I'm getting so impatient.

Hugs to everyone struggling, I've had a bobbins couple of weeks with it all and feel your pain! But massive congratulations to weaseldee wonderful news

Currently CD 13 and waiting for that solid smiley, but I've decided I need to un-relax about the while thing and start taking Operation Rainbow more seriously over the next few months rather than just relying on the hopeful twattery that I have been for the past few cycles. So I'm taking notes on all the supplement info that's been posted, looking up reflexology for fertility and no drinking until Christmas at least (). Here's hoping!

I could have written your message @AppalachianWalzing ❤️ It's exactly how I feel too. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Well done for managing to talk to someone who is due around the same time as you were, I don't think I could manage that. Big hugs.

Does anyone else feel like they don't want to celebrate anything? My birthday is in a few weeks, and it should have been my 20 week scan that week. I'm also dreading Christmas and am really not in the mood for it this year.

Yup. Christmas can go do one. It's the month before my due date and I don't want to deal with any of it.

Starting to get fed up/wind myself up. I still haven't ovulated. My head says to just keep going, the sticks are definitely a darker shade but I'm getting sad. Yesterday was a month until my first due date, and I just want my baby

Is this opk positive or not quite? I don't understand this.

Yes it is @beanhunter

Looks good to me 'bean'. Did you do it this eve? Do another first thing tomorrow and one again tomorrow afternoon and it should be clear when the surge is/was. But basically dtd now or tomorrow will be a good start to catching the egg I would of thought.

Ooh... sorry Flatwhite but I'd disagree... it has to be as dark as the control line or darker, it's very close but looks a tad lighter....
if it were me I'd think it was close but no cigar!
But it's so close I'd definitely be dtd!!

DISCLAIMER: it could be my dodgy eyes!

@yellowfrontdoor I was thinking the same thing. It's super, super close. I'd take it as a positive on the basis that it probably will be tomorrow morning I'd imagine but definitely dtd if you can today and/or tomorrow and treat it like a positive, if that makes sense.

@yellowfrontdoor I think I may have the lines the wrong way round! Oops! It's very nearly positive though.

@Flatwhite31 test line is on the right, nearer the bottom of the test which says 'mark' if that helps :)

Not to sound patronising! Idk how else to phrase it

Not at all @UnicornsandRainbows1! Still doing school work (and procrastinating on MN!) so my brain is mush! Got parents evening tomorrow til 7, so probably won't be on here much.

Right. On it tonight. Thanks. It's from this evening. This am was much less strong.

@Flatwhite31 I remember hating parents' evening as a kid, god knows how shit it is for everyone else :/

@beanhunter Oh that's a good sign then. Hope it works out for you