TTC after recurrent miscarriage

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Hi, just wondering if anyone else was in a similar place to me and wanted to chat about it? I'm 30, TTC my first and have had three miscarriages, all early (two natural MCs at five weeks, then a MMC where a scan at 6+5 revealed development had again stopped at 5 weeks). I've had RMC tests and am just waiting on the results of that but hoping to be able to TTC again from my next period, which should come any day now. I've found throughout the whole thing (have been TTC just over a year now) that it's really helped me to chat with people in similar positions, so if anyone wants to be TTC buddies please let me know!

@AnneLovesGilbert so close to being over, just a few little bits here and there. The remaining bit seems to have gone and looks how it should at this stage in my cycle. They (finally) took some bloods today and will do a repeat on Monday to see if there's a change (I really wanted to avoid Monday as it's my due date but nothing seems to be going well for that day anyway, but that's for another time!)

The lady who spoke to me after the scan remembered me from November so is really trying to keep on top of things as it's been nearly 2 months since we found out about our mc. She's also given me a card for an open appointment to use at any time so they can scan me when I'm 6-7 weeks pregnant (whenever that will be ofc!) so they can keep tabs. Basically I asked and I got it no questions asked but I think she can sense how all over the place I am. Fuck knows how I'll manage another pregnancy at this rate, I'll be so unbelievably irritating that I'm already getting on my own nerves 😅

I know what you mean about the prospect of another pregnancy. One day at a time, now getting through this difficult phase and again through the dreaded ttc and pregnancy when that happens for us x

I’m so relieved for you that things are all looking good again in there and that you’ve had supportive compassionate care. Makes such a difference.

I remember the staff at the EPU as a bunch of coffee-supplying, hug-giving, funny, kind, supportive angels. We’ve been lucky with our experience of the RMC so far too. Not had a trip there for ages but have an open appointment when I get my next bfp.

Really good to know they’ll scan you early.

I’m sorry bloods coincide with your due date

You’re not irritating at all! It’s nice being able to chat to you. Let it all out, bad and good

@AnneLovesGilbert It better happen for us and I'm sure we'll get there! They really are being so nice at the moment. I'm not sure whether its worth seeing if I can get another appointment for between 8-9 or something but that's a bit cheeky really!

Ha tell me that in a couple of months time

Hi there
Wow it has been a successful thread so far hasn't it! I hope the luck continues to run off on you unicorns and anne.
Unicorns in terms of epu cheekiness I ended up seeing them at 6+2, 7+3 and 9 wks in my last pregnancy. I had bleeding and pain and all kinds of weird things. The one at 9 wks was what they refer to as the 'reassurance' scan, one of the nurses explained to me that if you have a good scan around then with hb and growth on track for dates then your chances go very high. So our local epu policy is to try and get people to hold out until that scan. I know that's incredibly tough but it's just so you know that without bleeding they may be reluctant to scan earlier then that.
I am having an absolutely epic case of FML this week, friends who were pregnant the same time as us had their baby girl on Thursday. It's just so unfair that our beautiful baby will never get to meet her or play with her or fight over toys. The why me's are very bad right now.
Also the hospital are being painful. None of our referrals have come through, I have chased them and they are just being very lacsidasical about it all. Like there is no rush on them at all, and I'm here thinking ffs people do you not realise that we are delaying trying again until we have all these appts.
Anyway I hope you all have lovely weekends. My best friend from Home is coming to visit, she's around 23 wks pregnant so that won't be easy but it will be lovely to see her.

Miami - how frustrating of the hospital. Are you beginning to feel ready to try again (ignoring the delay to the referrals ie if you had further information and some reassurance)? It must be so hard seeing your friends with babies / pregnant, however sympathetic and considerate hey are. Even with earlier miscarriages the hopes and dreams of having your baby start, but must be much worse the further along the pregnancy. I hope you have a fun time with your friend anyway.

Unicorn - I hope your body goes back into your normal rhythm quickly after this, so you can try again. Good to hear the hospital offered you early scan next time. Mine did similar. I delayed it as long as possible in hope that the scan would not just lead to greater uncertainty - it was hard waiting but I think helpful.

Anne - fingers crossed for a positive next week. Are you feeling symptoms / intuition either way?

I hope your friend is sensitive and there’s not too much pregnancy talk miami. Can’t imagine how hard it must be and awful you’ve got the added stress and frustration of snails pace referrals at the hospital on top. M

What appointments are you waiting for? Have they advised you wait before trying again? I imagine the prospect is quite conflicting but completely understand you’re both keen to have another pregnancy soon, you want to be parents again.

Cut yourself some slack with the new baby and your friends. Only do and say what feels okay and don’t push yourself to be or do anything putting their feelings above yours. As you’ve said to me many times before, mind yourself xxx

Oh, I will unicorns There’s a beautiful healthy wonderful baby waiting for you.

How are you mog? Nice of you to pop in

I had a really good acu session today. I spend the first half hour just talking to her. She’s one of those people you find yourself just opening up to. Didn’t cry which I sometimes do and it was cathartic to chat everything through, including my head fuck of a December/new year cycle, how hard it is when DH is gutted and worried, how I’ve taken a step back this month which has helped. I go to have her stick needles in me but I think the impartial listening is at least as healing!

Would you go back to it miami? I know you liked it in the past.

I’m feeling pretty zen about this month. Not sure when I ovulated. Had clear symptoms one day but haven’t bothered to put anything in FF so don’t remember. I’m around CD 20/21 so af due in 4-8 ish days and I’m expecting it calmly.

The horrendous boobs are back. Sooo painful and in the way of everything all the time. Just seems to always happen now. I expect if I do get pregnant again I’ll know because they don’t hurt.

Do we want a new thread? I don’t mind starting one if so.

Was the new thread made?

Screw it, here's a new one anyway

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3145684-TTC-after-recurrent-miscarriage-thread-2-were-not-giving-up