TTC after recurrent miscarriage

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Hi, just wondering if anyone else was in a similar place to me and wanted to chat about it? I'm 30, TTC my first and have had three miscarriages, all early (two natural MCs at five weeks, then a MMC where a scan at 6+5 revealed development had again stopped at 5 weeks). I've had RMC tests and am just waiting on the results of that but hoping to be able to TTC again from my next period, which should come any day now. I've found throughout the whole thing (have been TTC just over a year now) that it's really helped me to chat with people in similar positions, so if anyone wants to be TTC buddies please let me know!

Oh good to know, Lisa, as we're supposed to paint this apartment before we move out! Doh!

Ah kirin, congrats!

Thank you Bertie. Kind of shitting myself to be honest. It has been 3 years since my last pregnancy where I miscarried at 12 weeks. The aim is to stay positive or at least try. I half think I should just say screw it and believe it's going to be okay but I already have that anxiety at the back of my mind.

Congratulations kirinm. It’s always an anxious time but I hope you have a healthy easy pregnancy.

I still hate poas but at 12dpo and with gargantuan painful boobs and a temp rise I gave it a go this morning and got a bfn on a frer so suspect af will show and the boob pmt is down to something else.

I still hate poas but at 12dpo and with gargantuan painful boobs and a temp rise I gave it a go this morning and got a bfn on a frer so suspect af will show and the boob pmt is down to something else.

I'm really sorry anne. I know you tend to get later positives, so I'm hoping for you you're not out, but I understand that sometimes it's easier just to think 'well, that's that for this month'.

Cautious congratulations kirinm.
Sorry about the sore boobs and bfn Anne.
Thanks for the welcome ladies. Coming to the end of the period from hell after coming off norethisterone. Not sure if you o the month after or not so I guess I’ll have to dig out the dreaded opks.
Actually not dtd for over 2 months as the meds made me feel so vile and I couldn’t see he poing if there was no way I could conceive anyway!

Hi all. Hope you had good christmasses.

Anne sorry about the BFN. When are you and DH heading off for your new year's get away?

Congrats on the BFP kirin. I hope this is a sticky one for you.

Christmas has been a reasonable distraction thankfully. Hopefully should be 6 weeks today. Have had a cold and also slept terribly since we've been away so not sure what's been pregnancy tiredness or the other really. Desperately hoping for some nausea soon.

Off on Saturday keepon, af due tomorrow so planning to spend our break away getting trollied on champagne and eating Stilton for 3 meals a day if it shows.

Sorry you’re so shattered. I’d heard about first trimester tiredness but truly never got it till it hit me. I love to sleep anyway but I was levelled. Back in your own bed soon? Get all the rest you can. You’re growing an entire human being! It’s exhausting work. Wishing you some nausea Oh the things we never thought we’d say!

Hope you feel better very soon bean, you poor thing, sounds grim. Have you ever temped? I find it really handy for getting an idea of what’s going on, I hate peeing on sticks of any kind so haven’t ever tried opks but if you find them helpful that sounds like a good plan.

Thank you lisa, yes my bfps have never verb pronot! Bastard things. Had ics arrive this morning so won’t waste anymore of the frers I found stashed in a drawer. No symptoms at all apart from the epic boobs which hurt so much it’s even been painful turning over in bed despite a sturdy sleeping bra. I don’t feel pregnant. But I equally don’t feel af is coming.

I can hear the bag of drugs in my wardrobe calling to me... I just need to make a naffing baby now so I can use them. Starting to feel pretty pissed off about it not happening again. In a really childish stroppy foot stamping whiny why not me sort of a way

Yes have temped before but found it a pain as I don’t get up at reliable times. Have a fitbit so can monitor hr to do it so will try that.

Well just to top off there year, I got a positive test today so rang up the EPU, went in and there's a tiny, tiny bit of tissue still left so I now have to wait for that to pass, and have another scan booked for the 8th to see if it's gone or not. And here was me thinking it's gone much smoother than the one before

Oh no unicorns, what a fucker. So sorry

Have you been bleeding? Do they think it might pass naturally?

I'm so sorry unicorns - that's such a shit extra thing to add to an already horrible situation. I hope you're doing ok

@AnneLovesGilbert I've had a tiny bit of bleeding recently but they're waiting to see if I pass it before the 8th, then I guess we'll see where we go from there. Tbh whilst it might happen my mindset is that if it hasn't happened in 3 weeks than I doubt it'll happen in one more.

So sorry unicorns, that's shit. I don't know if this is helpful or not, but with one of mine I had a tiny bit of retained tissue and it sorted itself out without the need for any surgery. Sometimes it does feel like it os dragging on forever.

My friend who I had the issues with a few weeks back told me she was pregnant yesterday and there's literally a week max between us so if this one doesn't stick for us I'll have her pregnancy and baby as a reminder forevermore. Also got baby bombed by my bro on Christmas day via email. Didn't mind it too much but my mum wasn't particularly sensitive about it.

Any update Anne?

Oh blimey, babies everywhere keepon. What happened with your brother and your mum? Can’t remember if the friend knew about you, sorry.

Another shiny bfn this morning. Only bothered as my temp is still high and I had cramping off and on yesterday which hasn’t turned into af. Nothing. 14dpo and due today.

unicorns I hope it does resolve without intervention. When it’s going on so long I completely get your mindset

If you’re around miami, I hope you had a gentle Christmas and Christmas Eve wasn’t too painful. You’re always in my thoughts x

Oh it wasn't too bad really Anne. Bro and SIL are visiting her family in Japan so he sent an announcement email on Christmas day morning. DH and I sat down to breakfast just us and my parents and mum asked if I'd seen bro's email which I hadn't. She then started wittering on about how she'd been struggling to keep it a secret for 4 weeks and how they hadn't told anyone else in case she had a miscarriage and things that just didn't need to be said really. I think it was worse for DH than me and he just felt a bit trapped really.

My friend knows about all my losses. She told me by text and it is early days. She got married at the beginning of October so an almost instaduffer. I'm pleased for her but mainly worrying about us having another loss.

Hi - glad to see most made it through Christmas relatively unscathed. Anne any chance you ovulated a small bit later? I am keeping the faith until AF arrives for you.
Keepon its really hard when those nearest and dearest announce their pregnancies and they are so close in dates to yours, I am also keeping the faith for you and your renovated uterus
Congratulations Kirin hope the spotting has settled down now.
I am sorry unicorns what a shit of a thing. It just makes it all drag on unnecessarily. I hope it resolves itself soon.

There are two friends of mine due their babies in the next couple of weeks, I am really happy for them but my word I want to know literally nothing about it. Our baby should have been here before theirs. Is it wrong that I really hope they both have perfectly healthy boys??
It turns out my best friend from Home is also pregnant - she didn't tell me until she was 18 weeks, but I had guessed anyway as she was being very weird with me.
Christmas was weird and niceish. Everyone was walking around on eggshells around us but I don't suppose they knew what else to do. I ovulated on Christmas Day which was intense in that every fibre of my being just wanted to go with it and try to get pregnant again, cooler heads (DH) prevailed given that there are still a few things that we want to investigate/get results of before we go there again.
I am glad it is over. I hope we are in a different situation next year. I want my baby here with me and I can't have her which is just the most intensely sad feeling in the world.

Will just report that we had a scan showing a heartbeat, so feeling positive about this pregnancy but still obviously early days. We're going to meet with the genetic counsellor in January.

I'm really glad Christmas was at least nice-ish for you, Miami - I too hope that things are very different for you next year. I'm so sorry you didn't get to have Christmas with Eidleih as you should have.

It must be painful ovulating and knowing you're not ready to try - but I remember how long it took for AF to come back for you, so I'm glad that your body is getting back into patterns.

Any news, Anne?

Great news, Bertie.

I'm sorry about the baby bombs and the insensitive handling, keepon.

Hope everyone's doing ok. I think we're all hoping for better 2018s than 2017s, and I hope we all get them

Miami, well done for getting through it. I cannot even begin to imagine how the last few weeks must have been for you. Absolutely nothing wrong with hoping youe friends have boys. I hope they do too.

The last 2 new years I have thought well that was shit, hopefully the next one will be better. Sadly it didn't turn out that way, but I truly hope 2018 brings us all some joy.

Happy new year everyone!
So pleased Miami that you had a peaceful xmas.
Rubbish that things are dragging unicorn, happened at my Mmc too which was medically managed. Kept having to go back to be rescanned where not everything had gone. Eventually saw this African doctor ( I think from ghana) who was hilarious ( in a good way). He said the British way was too tidy and liked everything neat ( they wanted to give me a dnc) and the African way would be to leave me alone and as long as I felt well ie no infection my body would sort itself. Made me laugh a lot.
Great news Bertie! And good handling from all those with pregnant friends.

No news here, in the 2ww still. Not sure when af due as last one post mc was 25 days which was rather short, think I might have ov earlier as was a bit sore but not temping or testing so don't know.No symptoms to spot really, super sore breasts for a few days but better now so think I'm prob not pregnant but who knows.

Been off grid for a few days in the sticks. Had a truly crap 4 days last week of terrible cramping and boobs so sore I couldn’t get comfy in bed. Super sensitive nose and was really dizzy and queasy. POAS and BFNs 12dpo and 14dpo but we were both completely convinced I was pregnant. Temp stayed up and my LP is 12 days so it just seemed certain despite BFNs. And then Sunday night after another temp rise I started and it’s been torrential.

Pretty bloody down about it tbh and it somewhat shat on our sexy NYE break as well as our, by then, quite high hopes.

So started the new year with an awful incredibly heavy period and yet more disappointment. Not a clue that happened. I’ve looked back over my chart and it’s 100% clear when I ovulated so why was I late?

Gutted. Getting to inhale champagne at midnight didn’t really make me feel any better.

Sorry to be such a downer