TTC after recurrent miscarriage

[LisaSimpsonsbff]

Hi, just wondering if anyone else was in a similar place to me and wanted to chat about it? I'm 30, TTC my first and have had three miscarriages, all early (two natural MCs at five weeks, then a MMC where a scan at 6+5 revealed development had again stopped at 5 weeks). I've had RMC tests and am just waiting on the results of that but hoping to be able to TTC again from my next period, which should come any day now. I've found throughout the whole thing (have been TTC just over a year now) that it's really helped me to chat with people in similar positions, so if anyone wants to be TTC buddies please let me know!

@Mog I'm not going to lie, I have no idea how I'm managing it in all honesty!

I'm really sorry things are feeling so bleak and difficult at the moment, anne - you have so much on your plate, both TTCing and otherwise. You (and DH) have been really strong, but it's completely understandable that at times it all just gets too much. I'm really glad you have each other - your relationship seems so strong - and I think you should let yourself be angry, sad, bored, or whatever with it, exactly as you feel you want to be. And please do keep talking if you want to - it's not a self-indulgent rant at all. I'm so grateful for this thread, and for the support you've all given me - it's made some really shitty times a bit better having a place to talk.

Really hope they offer you some proper help, today, unicorns, so that you can get the physical healing over with as soon as possible - it's horrible, and so unfair, that it's dragged on and on like this for you.

Hope they see you quickly unicorns and there's some good news. Have they said what they're do if they find retained tissue still? I don't know how you're holding up either but make a big fuss and try to get them to do whatever they can to get this resolved. You've been stuck in limbo for ages and it must be exhausting.

Keep us posted.

Always appreciate your support Lisa, thank you

I hadn't even thought of that Mog, I'll take this month off aspirin too. I'm so stuck in my habits I just snaffle it with my vitamins from about CD10 to AF starting without even thinking.

You might have cracked it, I promise to let you know!

Well the good news is that the thickness of the lining has gone down a considerable amount since 10 days ago (we're not sure where but they think it might have been reabsorbed - from but whatever). But because it's all basically back to normal aside from the minuscule retained bit still in there, it's a waiting game. Though they're now confident that my body is finally moving in the right direction. So I have a test to do in a couple of weeks but it should hopefully be resolved by then. Hcg is just dropping off so bloody slowly now. Everything else looks good though thankfully

I'm really glad things seem to be sorting themselves out unicorns.

Definitely sounds like things are improving, if annoyingly not completely resolved. Do you feel a bit reassured by the news unicorns? So sorry it's been so tough. Really feel for you. And I hope things are now on the up. Crossing everything!

When you've had a BFN - always a weird feeling to want one I know! - you can count down to AF and then cracking on when you both feel ready.

Glad things are going in the right direction Unicorns BUT sorry you're having such a time of it - fingers crossed you've not much longer to wait xxx

Thinking about you today keepon. Hope all is well with you and bean.

Thanks so much Anne. So lovely of you to remember. How are you doing?

I'm pleased to report a positive scan. Measuring 7+5 with a good heartbeat and my Consultant was very happy with how things are looking. Going back on the 23rd for another one.

Oh that's wonderful news! Thanks for letting me know.

I'm alright thanks. Aware a lot of you are probably now on other happier threads now we've had so many lovely pregnancies recently.

Don't feel you need to come back here, but really glad to hear all is well Very happy for you.

Oh keepon I thought of you this morning when I was brushing my teeth and didn't get a chance to login and wish you luck. This is great news. Thrilled to bits for you.

I start it around ov through to AF, so haven't started it this cycle.

Had really strong ovary stabbing yesterday, took my breath away twice, and copious ewcm and watery stuff the rest of the time. Had a feeling that stopping temping for a bit might not help me ignore it all. The shagging has been epic though

Thanks Fox, and I don't recall you ever putting your foot in it! Hope you're good too x

Thank you Miami. How are you doing? Have you heard anything about your rheumatology appointment yet?

Anne, I did manage to get up the courage to join the pregnant after MC thread but I still find this thread very comforting and also feel quite a strong allegiance to you all so would like to stay if possible. Although I wouldn't want to be causing upset to any of you. Can I lurk away in the background and occasionally pipe up?

Looks like AF is finally well and truly here (and horrible as anything) so hopefully this last bit will be out soon. So relieved it's picked up and it might be all over soon (and a bit sad too but I think I'm over the shock of it all to a degree)

Sorry it’s so horrible unicorns, it can really take it out of you physically and emotionally. Rest up and eat nice things. As you say, hopefully it’ll flush everything out and you can start again feeling reassured your insides are fresh and clean and ready to get back on it. Hope af passes quickly.

I’m in blissfulish ignorance about this cycle bar feeling like ovulation has happened. Feeling a bit more zen after my outburst the other day

keepon, you know you’re welcome as long as you like my love x

Pipe away anytime and keep reminding us there’s hope ahead

Hi ladies, I'm just going to give a final update here and then I'll leave you to your new thread with huge best wishes and luck for sticky babies in the future!

I just wanted to write about my geneticist appointment because we finally got it today and I know some of you have been interested in this update as it seems like it has been so long coming!

She was lovely, which was really nice. Immediately put us at ease. The office was strange with a huge waiting room with just four empty chairs in the middle really awkwardly which gave us the giggles! We had to go through the whole family history on both sides of any children, miscarriages and unusually early deaths. That was a challenge but we managed it. Because there's no record from anybody else we were advised to redo the karyotype test. She said she might as well do it for both of us because if there's something wrong with me they wouldn't want to miss it either which I thought was very thorough. So we had his and hers blood tests! She advised that the karyotype will take 2-3 weeks to come back. After that they will be able to advise whether we should have amniocentesis, and she did also say that there might be a possibility of ordering a custom NIPT (like harmony) for our specific problems but it's a low chance. But I was blown away she would even mention that and it seems really thorough and willing to explore all options. Finally she told us not to bother with the NT scan (we'd have to pay for this) because she'd refer us for a detailed ultrasound anyway which will be more relevant to us. And it will be covered by insurance that way. :) So overall, really happy with this experience and feels like totally the right thing to have done.

I'm so pleased it was such a positive meeting Bertie. Wishing you and DH all the luck in the world with this pregnancy. Stay happy, healthy and optimistic. I have a good feeling

Thank you for all of your kindness, support and wisdom, can't tell you how great you've been. Hope the new apartment works out for you as well, it's going to be an exciting year for all of you.

Really glad to hear that you feel reassured and better informed, bertie.

Glad to hear you're feeling better anne, but definitely no about having a rant the other day - it's good to let out frustrations! Are you in the 2WW at the moment?

Sounds so weird to say but pleased that AF came unicorns - as you say, hopefully this will be the end of it all. It's been so hard for you having it so dragged out, and I really hope this will mark the end of things physically.

@LisaSimpsonsbff It does a bit hey? It seems to be nearing the end which is expected tomorrow (even if it runs into day 6 I'd say it's pretty good going!). I'm going to ring the EPAC tomorrow morning to maybe see if they still want me to test and scan me on the off chance that it's still there (it wouldn't shock me right now ). I think I'd referred to be scanned just to be given the all clear

I think so Lisa, not been temping but checked dates and on CD19.

What did they say unicorns? How are you doing now?

@AnneLovesGilbert Have an appointment in a couple of hours. FRER from yesterday morning is positive but today's test that the unit gave me is near-negative so who knows anymore

Any developments unicorns? Thinking of you. You must be so so desperate for it to be over. Has af completely gone?