TTC after recurrent miscarriage

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Hi, just wondering if anyone else was in a similar place to me and wanted to chat about it? I'm 30, TTC my first and have had three miscarriages, all early (two natural MCs at five weeks, then a MMC where a scan at 6+5 revealed development had again stopped at 5 weeks). I've had RMC tests and am just waiting on the results of that but hoping to be able to TTC again from my next period, which should come any day now. I've found throughout the whole thing (have been TTC just over a year now) that it's really helped me to chat with people in similar positions, so if anyone wants to be TTC buddies please let me know!

You're a stronger woman than I, keepon!

Yes am v glad due before Xmas. Probably a week or less of the tww to go now. My bobs have been sore and bowels a bit loose (sorry!) but trying not to symptom spot.

How are the boobs today bertie?

I’m ewcmtastic. Twice today it’s felt like I’ve wet myself. Also completely exhausted so early to bed.

Well DH jokingly did something to my face earlier - I can't remember exactly what it was and I said Ouch, be careful of my boobs! He looked confused and said I didn't touch your boobs, I only touched your face.

Also the bobble on my Christmas jumper is giving me infuriating princess-and-the-pea sensations.

Another one early to bed here. I did force myself to stay up and write a shopping list.

However I have finished Christmas shopping. Might pick up another small item or two for DS but that's all really.

So talk to me about first period post miscarriage. I've not really had one before... after 1st miscarriage I fell pregnant with my daughter straight away ( as a side note thought maybe that would happen this time too and maybe my body does better straight after as she survived... but no ... which is making me rather down) second miscarriage had medical management and not everything was gone so was a long and drawn out process and went straight back in the pill as I couldn't face it again for a while.
Anyway this period started on Monday, pretty heavy and clotty but thought that was prob normal, then slowed and yesterday a little brown spotting so thought I was done. Then his morning bright red blood again with clots back to day one type flow. Is that normal?

Thanks fox, that's reassuring I'm not concerned it's just annoying first it showed up early and Now i have no idea what size tampon to use or he long it's going to last. I just hate feeling like I don't know what is happening which happens a lot!

Hoping it's okay to join still as I've (only) had two mcs. Had the surgical management last Friday, though not nearly as bad as the first one as haven't had bleeding in the last few days. DTD today because I'm a twat so unless by some miracle I'll ovulate very soon (which I highly doubt going by my positive tests), I'm done.

I'm running out of positive vibes for whenever this third pregnancy is (2 out of 2 is my current shitty record) so how the hell do you guys keep going? I've run out of my fucks to give from the last one which sounds horrible and have very little left in reserve.

So sorry for your losses Unicorns

I hope you're starting to heal from your surgery, I had an MVA after my MMC.

I've had 4 MCs, one was many years ago, so 3 in the last 18 months or so, and no DC yet. I really feel your pain, it sucks beyond belief and I know what you mean about having little left in the tank.

Everyone deals with things differently but things which help - knowing the grief will come and go so enjoy the days you feel alright and be gentle with yourself when it hits you, appreciate your body even if you feel it's let you down so eating well, exercising if you enjoy that, really looking after yourself, keeping busy if distractions help, remembering you had a good life before starting ttc so don't let it take over completely and keep the rest of your life and relationships full and nourished.

The single most helpful thing for me is chatting to people who really truly get it, these women on here are strong, brave, hilarious, kind, patient, supportive, and keep each other going on the bad days and celebrate on the good days.

You're very welcome here, I hope you get a BFP soon and can move on if you want to but stay as long as you like, you're among friends.

Hi unicorns welcome here (although obviously wish that you weren't in this situation). I have had two miscarriages at 6-8 weeks, 1st one was a mmc and I found it really hard to bounce back from. Second one was discovered at my 'reassurance' scan last year just before Christmas, my initial thoughts were very much well fuck this for a game of soldiers and can the world and this failed pregnancy just fuck right off. A few weeks later the reality of it hit me, remember though there is no right or wrong way to deal with this. It epically sucks no matter how you cope and really as long as you do whatever you need to cope you will be fine.
We pursued recurrent miscarriage tests after the second one, they told me there was nothing wrong which I still don't believe, so I thought right well I'll show them, got pregnant for a 3rd time with my beautiful baby girl, who was stillborn at 27 weeks. We have a meeting at the hospital on Tuesday where they may be able to tell us why we lost her and I can already feel the rage building. If some arsehole of a doctor tells me they don't know why I have now lost a perfect baby on top of two mc's I am going to lose my mind. It's just so sad that this is where we are after two years, two years of thinking oh we won't be able to go to this or that because we might be pregnant, two years of planning and of hoping and just being left with nothing.
I try most days to be thankful for what we do have (friends, family, house, health etc) but some days that can just be so hard.
Give yourself a break and remember you are totally allowed to be pissed off at the injustice of it all.

Having a total torture of a TWW here with every symptom going. Boobs, stretching in uterine area, mad tiredness, the works. Latest one being I really want this cup of tea I've just made but it's making me quite forcibly want to vomit - but I'm almost definitely just hungry/low blood sugar. I am quite tempted in fact to test tomorrow (or more likely Tue) but for the fact it's probably too early anyway, plus I think I'm going to be gutted if AF shows up. I'm trying to save money! I shouldn't be testing! But I do need to go and buy meat tomorrow anyway.

When is AF due Bertie? Sorry you're having a rough one Hope it stays away and your BFP arrives soon.

Dunno cos I failed to temp again

Earliest, yesterday. Latest, Wednesday.

Looking back at previous cycles I usually get spotting for the 3 days before but not always so can't rely on that.

My temp is up from luteal phase but it's not quite a 0.5 deg rise.

Bertie
That totally sounds like you could do a test tomorrow so?? Let us know. Good luck

Hi unicorns - I'm really sorry you have to be here, but hope you find it a supportive space.

Fingers v crossed for you bertie - when do you think you'll test?

Tues or Weds earliest. There's no way I'll get up early enough to get a test tomorrow morning, though I could in theory get one in the afternoon.

Problem is all tests are crap here and the most accurate is Clearblue, arrgh. The cheapest cheap crap tests are €3 each :(

If I can distract myself until Thursday, then perfect. But I might throw caution to the wind. Would be a lovely early Christmas present but must not get too excited!

I think it being so close to Christmas doesn't help things tbh. Everyone's just getting excited (I've been asked my address for cards before I got asked how I was doing when I got a bit arsey at the request ) and I just want to smack them in the face. I'm just so fed up and in a few days I should've just been going into my 9th month with my first pregnancy too so this time of year would've been brutal regardless, but now it's just utter shit.

I'm not even sure what to say to the GP this time round. 'Hi I'm back, guess I wasn't in the no reason for it not to happen a second time group'. I'm just so mad, I'm already so aware that if it happens again (and I have no reason to believe that it wouldn't despite being told otherwise) that it's then testing. I don't want to go through it again to be taken seriously. They're not their children, so I guess it doesn't matter as much, or at least that's what it feels like right now.

Yeah Xmas would have been due date with my first one so I could have a 1yo by now! That's just too weird to contemplate but I would love to be pregnant.

I'm feeling hopeful for you Bertie.

Welcome unicorns. I'm sorry you find yourself here. I hope you get some help from your GP. I managed to convince mine to do some of the blood tests after 2 MCs. And I hope you find some support from us all here.

Miami, I will be thinking of you on Tuesday. I do hope you get some answers.

I caved and did a clear blue weeks indicatot test today. I was in town doing Christmas shopping and got myself all worked up. It came up as 2-3 weeks which has made me feel marginally better. We had a Christmas party last night and I don't think everyone was fooled by my fake drinking. One friend did pass comment and I told him it was because the risk of crying is too high if I get tiddly these days and I think he bought it.

I’m rooting for you too bertie.

Sorry to disappoint but have not bought a test

Have convinced myself to the point I'm limiting coffee intake, though, which is very unusual for me.

I could not even find an insensitive dip strip for less than €4 today so chickened out. It's over €7 for an early response one. And DH won't believe it if it's faint. I am thinking maybe I wait as long as poss and get a clearblue + one or something. Then I'll buy him a bottle of wine as an early Xmas present and then explain I didn't get it with the groceries, it's a gift because I can't drink it

(I don't think he will be surprised, I've been dropping massive boob hints all weekend and I napped for about 3 hours on Saturday.)

Yeah DH is definitely acting protective over me. He knows. Haha! He always knew my cycles better than I did.

I am seriously tempted to run to the shop in the morning and do with an afternoon hold. Or save FMU. Hmmm. Earliest I would be tomorrow is 13dpo. Do you think it would matter which I used? I am thinking if I am pregnant I must have ovulated earlier than the latest possible point because if I only did then, we only managed O-3. However if I get a BFP I promise to share my slightly naughty tip with you all

bertie love, buy a bloody test or I’m going to post you some!

Buy a test Bertie! I can't take the suspense any longer!