Hi everyone, hope you're all having as good a weekend as possible in the circs.
@flat I don't have children yet, and for me, after three miscarriages, that is the thing I struggle with most - that we may never have children. Or at least that I will never be able to carry a baby of my own. What I constantly remind myself is that even though I'm now in the 1 per cent of people who have recurrent miscarriages, like quite a few others here, the odds are still very much in our favour that we will have a baby. I obviously hope this won't apply to you, but even three in a row can be down to pure bad luck. It doesn't have to mean there's anything 'wrong' or that you can't carry a baby. Likewise, even if there is something they can diagnose, there's still every chance you will have a baby. I don't know if this is helpful to you or not.
After losing this third baby, I've been lower than I've ever felt. But every day does get a little easier. You will be able to try again v soon (even if it doesn't feel like it right now) and with each milestone you'll feel a bit better - the first time you don't need to wear a pad, when you finally get that bfn, when you ovulate etc. It's such a hard time in these early days, so hang in there and be gentle on yourself. Treat yourself to little things where you can. And it's fine and normal not to feel like doing much. Try to celebrate every little achievement as a victory - even if it's just taking a shower and putting on make-up (just me?).
Better days - and your baby - are coming. And I say that last bit to all of you lovely ladies here. x