TTC after pregnancy loss: We're nervous, we're hopeful, we're checking all the charts and taking all the vits!

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Welcome back all and welcome new posters.

@beanhunter Oh what a pair of cuties! 😍

Lisa so sorry you're feeling so down today. Completely understand why you must be feeling so frustrated.

Oh @LisaSimpsonsbff I'm so sorry you're feeling so down. I think we can all relate to time going slowly/TTC feeling months away.

My bleeding is heavier today than it has been, but I have read online that this can happen.

Those of you back at work/working, how has it been post MC? I'm back to work next Tuesday (primary school teacher) and absolutely dreading it, mainly because it's so stressful and full on.

I wasn't back in yesterday Flatwhite, although now on leave for a family wedding. It was odd and tearful and I felt awful saying that my miscarriage was 'a virus' . My boss was supportive though and I think once the first day is over with, the busyness should hopefully take your mind off things.

was back in yesterday

Congratulations Tiffin!

In the nicest possible way, none of us want to see you back either!!

Debating whether I should poas. Been 18 days since we had unprotected sex, I've had tummy cramps & sore boobs this last week. I'm worried if I do & it's a negative I'll be really down, but I really need to know!

Is it normal to have much heavier bleeding five days later? It is noticeably heavier today, and I keep worrying I'm going to leak!

Flat after my second mc I bled heavier on some days than others.
At one point I thought it was all done and then it kicked back off again. I had erpc & 14days of bleeding 😩
Fingers crossed you'll feel more yourself soon x

Flatwhite, sorry to hear about the bleeding getting worse. That really sucks when you are on holiday.

Lisa, sorry you are feeling so down. I completely relate regarding the waiting around for tests. It's horrid.

At the moment I'm still 'pregnant' but not holding out much hope. By this time (4+5) with my DD I had hyperemesis. In all of my 3 failed pregnancies, and this one, I've had no nausea. So I can only assume bad things.

The doctor has done HCG bloods today and will repeat on Friday to see if they are doubling (if I haven't started miscarrying by then).

Just burst into tears at the sight of a woman waddling into Warwick hospital in labour. And then again at baby clothes in Boots. It all just seems so horribly, horribly unfair...

beanhunter, meant to say: get the cats. Cuties.

Thankfully I don't feel unwell with it (touch wood) but it's much heavier than it was. Think I'll have to buy some new pads at this rate! Got some sharp pain today as well, but again, I feel ok. Hopefully it'll ease off.

I think we will. We need some happy. Especially as My daughters best friends mum (who thankfully now lives in further away) and already has 2 has just text me to tell me she's 15/40 with exactly the same edd as I should have had.
Actually burst into tears in the changing room at swimming.

Aw, beanhunter, so sorry to hear that. What a horrible coincidence. Big hug.

Hi ladies. Can I please join you here?

Last week I had a MC at 11 weeks pregnant. It was horrific. It was like scenes from your worst nightmare.

It was my third MC this year but the others were at 4 and 5 weeks and very different. I am being referred to a clinic and will be monitored much closer next time I get pregnant.

I have been advised to wait one cycle before trying again bit am nearly 35 so don't want to wait too long. I have a DS who is nearly 3.

I am keen to hear your experiences of ttc after losing a baby at 10/11/12 weeks and share the shittiness and hope that is sustaining my journey.

Baby dust to all!

So so sorry to hear that missmagpie i only had a first mc a week ago so I can't give much advice but I very much hope you never have to go through this again ❤️

I'm sorry missmagpie. I can understand your panic and sorrow. I had a mmc at 10 weeks in February and passed my baby naturally. It was painful and horrible but after I felt such relief it was almost too much. I took 4 months after to grieve and let my body recover. However, I was diagnosed with hyperthyroid and wanted my levels to go to normal before TTC again. I'm 34 in November. This is #1 and I am not pregnant again yet. My due date is Monday. 😢
If you need to chat privately, please do so, it's so important to recover mentally as well as physically. Xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss, missmagpie. I've also had three miscarriages this year at 5, 5 and 7 so I have been fortunate enough not to go through the physical trauma you have, but do know a bit about what it's like to have repeated losses. As well as monitoring you more closely (which is good) did they also mention testing? You should be entitled to this now; you don't have to do it if you don't want to and there are some disadvantages (I had a moan this morning about how long mine has meant waiting for, which I've found very upsetting), but if they didn't mention it you should explore your options.

Magpie I'm so sorry for your loss everyone's so supportive on here so you're on the right thread.

I mc at 10+3 naturally at home out of nowhere. Horrendous. Exactly like you said, a nightmare. Sonographer estimated baby stopped developing around the 8 week mark.

We got pregnant without a break but sadly I mc again at 9 weeks (baby probably stopped developing at 8).

I'm trying to wait one cycle before ttc again but it's so bloody difficult & AF hasn't arrived yet, had ERPC 7 weeks ago 😩 In the meantime I'm symptom-spotting like a loon.

My GP has prescribed high strength folic acid & once I hopefully! get another bfp, a small 75mg dose of aspirin daily. Although I've had no official tests, losing two around the same gestation could be indicative of poor blood flow. Or just really really shitty luck. I'm hoping for 3rd time lucky!

Hi all not posted on here for a few weeks.

99% certain I'm going to be having miscarriage number 4.

Got my bfp on Monday afternoon. Been a serial tester since then, had another bfp in the morning, did on the next afternoon and was nearly negative. Panicked and did another 2 hours later and got the clearest bfp I'd had so far so put the one before down to a dodgy test.

Next morning (today) got another bfp but still quite light, then did a digi (I know I know I need help lol) and got pregnant 1-2 weeks.
Fast forward to this evening (just was desperate to see it get darker) a completely negative Superdrug test and a very faint bfp on first response. So that's 48 hours after the initial test so looks a sure chemical pregnancy.

Feel so upset. It's only 2 months since I lost my little boy at 16 weeks so this has tipped me over the edge. Just waiting in limbo now for bleeding to start

Oh Fia, I really hope it isn't. Do you know roughly how many weeks you'd be?

/when you're due? Sorry I should've been clearer

AF was due yesterday. So should be 4 weeks 1 day. I know chemical pregnancies are more like a late period but seeing that bfp bought so much happiness to both of us this week after such a rubbish time with our last. It's so cruel isn't it 😞

Fia I'm so sorry

Will keep my fingers crossed too though x

So here they are in order. Top on Monday afternoon. Next yesteday morning. Third one yesteday approx 4pm. 4th yesteday approx 6pm. 5th was this morning and then bottom is this evenings. I feel so gutted as when I got that nearly negative one yesteday I lost all hope, then regained it with those 2 clearer ones and my digi today.

I just did a second look and am starting to see what you mean. I really hope it's just early days so it's just a bit weird about picking stuff up.

I have everything crossed for you. It really is rubbish!