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anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?

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stillvicarinatutu · 06/08/2017 23:31

come on then.
moan away.
ill start. i m just so fucking fucked off. lost one last year at 44....i thought its a miracle!! wasnt to be but filled me with what appears to be false hope.

been trying ever since. and no. every month the same. this month as well as AF ive another surprise - a cyst. where no one ever ever wants one.
so this month will be lost. along with all dignity as i beg the hospital to lance it.

moan away. go on. you know you want to.

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Sharl2017 · 03/09/2017 09:45

Hahahah juney I wish, would be a fab story though Wine

Yesterday was at a family bbq.. af arrived in the morning so I felt crap anyway and my pregnant SIL was there.. ugh. Gritted teeth all day. I am happy for them but I am SO jealous I just can't control it. How do people cope?

juneybean · 03/09/2017 09:52

God knows. My best friend is pregnant as happy as I am for her there's still a bitter part of me inside!

pinkdonkey · 03/09/2017 12:24

I'm lucky that DB and SIL are not local so we don't see them often, did duck out of her baby shower though. Would have had to stay over, DH and DB not invited as girls only, couldn't face 24hrs+ of excited baby talk. DM chatters away about future GC excitedly a lot though, which obviously is normal, but I had alwags assumed being a lot older than DB that I would be the one having her first GC. Obviously I'm pleased for them and looking forward to meeting DN, but that doesn't make it easy. I keep reminding myself of the benefits of their DC being first:

  1. Hand me downs will save us money
  2. DM has a tendancy to get a bit full on so that will be diluted by already having a GC
thats all I've got so far.

I too have booked a holiday for next summer (camping so terribly impractical for either being heavily pg or having a new born) partly as DH was getting frustrated with me refusing to commit to plans just in case after so long trying and partly to attempt to invoke murphys law Grin

juneybean · 03/09/2017 12:34

Haha yes we are looking at holidays for march also but can't help work out how far along I'll be (26 weeks if the next cycle works!)

ImaLannister · 03/09/2017 20:28

Presh I feel your pain. When I see status's on FB etc, I try to be happy for them, but at the same time I can't help but feel slightly bitter and jealous. I'm not a bitter person, but my experience has made me a little some what.
And thank you for the sorry' to a pp. But we don't need to be sorry, according to the doctors looses are all part of trying to get pregnant, we aren't successful every time apparently. I've had checks, everything appears to be normal, although not a single one of my friends has had 5 losses in 1 year,
It's crazy. Best wishes to all.

hellybellyjellybean · 03/09/2017 21:20

Went to an 18th party last night and drove, we got offered option of staying with friends of friends but have a real hatred of staying at other people's houses and was like it's an 18th not fussed about drinking. ALL night people were like we know why you're not drinking, clearly pregnant etc, I can't believe people say these things and it's not like we really are close with these people. I said I just wanted to drive as couldn't be doing with the drive back the next day, waking up in my own bed etc but it was all 'knowing' looks that are all actually wrong!! Then someone said 'well, we'll see won't we if you're not!' Big wink! There's literally nothing to see, like at all!! Grrr!!

Mrsjones17 · 04/09/2017 00:00

Can't even seem to have fucking AF right!! Do not only disappointed with BFN after BFN it seems my cycle is completely knackered now with a one day of AF!!! One day of spotting and on day of AF that's it! What the hell?? Now worrying that that's something else that is wrong...jesus

juneybean · 04/09/2017 12:46

What DPO @mrsjones17

DoAsDreamersDo · 04/09/2017 13:04

I've just been invited to a baby shower next month. How on earth how am I meant to get through this if I'm not upduffed by then? Sad

I hate feeling jealous all the time.

juneybean · 04/09/2017 13:53

Urgh oh no :(

Mrsjones17 · 04/09/2017 17:15

@juney 16dpo on Sunday so 17 today. It's started a bit again today. Ffs I have no idea what's going on

ImaLannister · 04/09/2017 17:56

Since my losses my periods changed. Mostly bleed fresh red on day 1 of AF, then I get the brown the next few days after. Before TTC my periods lasted around 4 days heavy red, then I would get the brown.
So I think it may be normal for periods to change if you've had losses.
I've gone back on the pill coz I'm sick of it all. So I'm hoping that will do me good.

Mrsjones17 · 04/09/2017 18:27

I haven't had any losses just 10 cycles of bfns. I swear my body just doesn't want a baby.

@ima sorry for your losses x

IJustGotHitByADeer · 05/09/2017 00:31

Hi ladies, may I join in please? I'm 23, ttc our first, came off the pill at the start of June. Since then nothing has happened. And I mean nothing. I understand we've been trying for no time at all in ttc terms but I haven't even had a period since coming off the pill, no spotting even, nothing. So I guess you could say we're on month 3 but cycle 0. My last month on the pill I missed one and had ewcm a few days later, really wish I'd just dtd then and there Sad I'd love to get pregnant but at this stage even a period would be some kind of sign that my body is aware there is a uterus in there

I've heard 4 pregnancy announcements in the last 36 hours. I have cried a lot.

ImaLannister · 05/09/2017 00:41

Please don't apologise, but thank you. I don't know what's worse, me getting pregnant and loosing it at such an early stage all the time or you not getting pregnant at all. 😫
It sure isn't easy getting pregnant that's for sure. I've had 1 MMC at 8 weeks and 4 chemicals (positive test then to have a really heavy period around 1-2 weeks later and for the pregnancy to be over.) Every time I've tried I fell pregnant. It's all so confusing. That all happened this year & last year, but within a year. I hope you get some good news soon. I think if you've been trying for over a year with no luck you can go and see you GP for testing. I'm sure you have to be trying for a year to qualify for that. I went for tests and apparently I'm ok. It's a mystery. X

juneybean · 05/09/2017 09:08

I often think this myself ima would I rather never be pregnant or to get pregnant then lose it. I suppose if I got pregnant then I was someone's mum for a little bit :( and least then I'd know I could get pregnant. But I also can't imagine how devastating it must be to have a loss either :(

Nimisha · 05/09/2017 10:27

I found this thread today. I've been ttc since December 2015. First my coil got stuck! Had to wait 4 months and have an operation to get it out. And now just had my third miscarriage. Pretty miffed with it all.

Mrsjones17 · 05/09/2017 19:51

Guy at work Mrs is due in two weeks. They 'just looked at each other' apparently and got pregnant! Fuck off!!!

Also DH is deploying again in 5 weeks so we have October to try to concieve and that's it until he gets back late December (probably after fertile window) and then he deploys again in January! As if it's not hard enough to get a BFP when he's here and we're DTD left right and centre and now he's not even going to be in this bloody country...again!!! Already done 5 months deployment this year! Reckon the forces would ship the swimmers over in a little container??!! 😂

TheFlame · 05/09/2017 20:09

Can i join in with a moan please? I promise I will read all yours later.

I would be due to test on saturday, but I don't think I'll get there as I don't think I ovulated this month (or I managed to miss testing for it - or whatever).

Husband works away often so getting the timing right is tricky, but he can decided when he goes away to some extent, so I have suggested 'good' weeks for him to be at home.

But that all got screwed up because instead of 27 or 28 days my last cycle was 21 days. 21 FOOKING DAYS! What is with that?????

It's completly screwed up my plans, let alone a holiday at the end of the month, and I am still livid at my body for it.

I DID NOT SAY 21 DAYS IS OK!

breathes

juneybean · 05/09/2017 21:47

It's like it's mocking you isn't it? Our bodies are fucking ridiculous.

Mrs Jones my mum feels your pain it took her two years to conceive me as my dad was always deployed.

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stillvicarinatutu · 06/09/2017 14:26

im giving it up as a bad job. im just too old. im very sad i couldnt give dp the chance to be a daddy cos i know he would have been great at it. i just (stupidly) thought it might happen again after the tfmr. but im just not of an age where its meant to happen i guess.

im stopping actively trying. i clearly dont need contraception.

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BloomingImpatient · 06/09/2017 14:36

juney what do you think? FREF and clear blue say negative but tescos is fucking my life up right now. Af is due today/yesterday/any fucking day really. Big brands are saying no.

anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?
anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?
anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?
BloomingImpatient · 06/09/2017 14:38

What we saying?

anyone else just fucked off with this lark and want to moan?
JuicyCake · 06/09/2017 14:42

Lost our little one, MMC at 9 weeks, in May. Haven't been making too much effort since, but ready to get back to on the horse (as it were!).
41, so giving myself six months of taking it seriously. Then, whatever... We have no kids now & are happy. Still miss my gone baby, though...

BloomingImpatient · 06/09/2017 14:50

Are we thinking evap lines? I think my hopeful heart just wanted a BFP after two and a half years.